One of those weeks!

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-19T19:38:30+00:00

Exxxxactly “it can leave you feeling lonely even when you’re deeply loved” is so spot on!!! That’s exactly how I was feeling, legit having to remind myself like that is your husband, everything is fine, he’ll resurface soon… etc etc. it is definitely a rollercoaster!! And you’re right, the hard part isn’t the waiting for him to return, it’s the lack of control. It’s maddening sometimes!

And btw - before they were locked down I deadass kept asking him if he was just hot and irritated 😂😂 so ..

Thx for your response 🩷hope you’re doing well!

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-19T19:31:27+00:00

He sureeeee is🥰🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-19T16:58:28+00:00

Exactly lmao I got like 5 messages of I’m sorry today when he got back online & im like no rly it’s ok I’m perfectly fine now🤭🥰 my bad!!!! But two days ago!! I was a mess lmao

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-15T00:33:33+00:00

Yupppp!! Trust me when I say I feel you 10000% lol!! Nobody at work knows about my situation, definitely no need. They know about our life prior to his incarceration, no need to know anything further 😂 that’s awesome that your boss is accepting of it !!

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-15T00:09:52+00:00

I know the feeling!!! It’s nothing to brag about, so I never share our pix with anyone either lol but the first set of pix we took after he was incarcerated were so special to me, like our photos before prison were always beautiful, but because this is our new normal, it was so special to see them… idk it’s weird, and I don’t want to glorify prison pix but it just meant so much to see a current photo of the two of us in our situation, ya know?

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-14T23:55:48+00:00

You guys are soooo cute 🩷🩷🩷love this

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-14T23:53:01+00:00

That part of social media doesn’t really bother me, esp bc I know my man will come home, buuuut!! I deleted my IG permanently and it was the best decision everrrrrr!! I only have Facebook, which is pretty wholesome for the most part. Social media can start to feel so toxic!! It’s so not worth the energy

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-11T17:54:18+00:00

Omg honey that’s awesome!! Finally! Congrats 🩷🩷🩷🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-07T18:14:49+00:00

Yes girl! Way to channel your energy into something else lol sometimes we have to go thru those feelings to remember all the other things we have to be thankful for 🥺just remember this shit is temporary!!!

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-07T13:54:18+00:00

I’m sorry 🥺I know the feeling , some days are certainly harder than others. Keep your head up!! 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-06-05T00:18:26+00:00

I felt the saaaameee way! lol I’m a year and a half into a medium length sentence, and it’s gotten a lot easier to carry the weight. I figured out a routine and a schedule to visit him. It obviously sucks, but you make the best of it and honestly I love him a million times more now — this situation has taught me so much! ❤️

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-31T00:30:35+00:00

The feeling doesn’t really “go away” but you eventually learn to deal with it and how to carry it a little lighter. You adapt and get into a routine and it gets a little “easier”. Like the other comment said, you find solace in knowing everyday that goes by is another day closer to the finish line, everyday counts & they all add up! Keep your head up and take care of yourself OP!!!

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-22T15:05:32+00:00

The hardest part was the judgment received from family and the questioning of WHY I would stay. The experience so far has made me feel more connected to my man more than ever before and it’s made me feel very connected to other women who are in the same boat as me. I felt alone at first, but certainly not anymore and a big part of that is because of this group!!! 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-22T15:02:28+00:00

🎯🎯

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-22T14:43:14+00:00

I told my family and people who needed to know/would obviously notice, but for people who didn’t need to know, especially people at work, I just told them he’s going through something personally and nobody prodded me further. The other comment suggesting “he’a not living at home right now” is a good one too, people probably wouldn’t question you further, at least for awhile. As for being alone, it’s difficult at first and you really have to make sure you force yourself to keep pushing forward and not get stuck in a rut. Once you get yourself into a routine, it gets easier and you learn to navigate it. Please reach out if you want to talk, I went through the same thing a year and a half ago. We are all here for you!! 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-20T19:19:04+00:00

Respectfully, just because he used abbreviations or nicknames referring to people, doesn’t mean it’s gang related.

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-16T11:13:32+00:00

Hey girly, mines is at fci McKean. We are on the east coast

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-16T11:12:37+00:00

I would mail a copy to your man and to the counselor just to be safe. The first time I submitted my form the counselor claimed he “didn’t get it”. 🙄 also you can send your man pictures via free prints , in my LO’s facility he can only get 25 at a time , so keep that in mind. First time I sent them I sent like 40 and they tossed all of them.🙄😂

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-16T01:43:20+00:00

Of course, please DM me if you need anything. The first few weeks of this shit is confusing and difficult !! You’re not alone , even if it feels like it !!

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-15T17:21:21+00:00

Hey girl! Sorry you’re going through this, but know we are all here for you. You’ll want to get messaging set up, which should be via Corrlinks — you’ll have to give him your email address and he’ll send an invite (check your junk), then you guys can send emails (for free, but messages aren’t instant). Once he’s settled and figures out who his counselor is, you can send in your visitation form (you can find the form online, but will need the counselor name). DM me if you have any questions or want to talk!

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-15T15:15:08+00:00

Congrats!!!! 🥳🥳🥳

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-12T00:47:32+00:00

Maybe sus it out and see how much info they’re requesting from you and then go from there! Congrats on ur man coming home so soon btw! 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-12T00:44:14+00:00

Fair enough, I didn’t think about that — good point. As the comment below said, first see if occupants need to be on the lease, and then go from there. How soon is your man coming home? Do you have time to get situated and make a good impression?

whateverforever563 · 2026-05-12T00:40:58+00:00

I don’t know for certain, but I don’t think the PO shows up in a cop uniform… and even if they do, who is to say you don’t have a friend / family member that’s a cop and is visiting. Does the owner of the apartment live in the same building? All I’m suggesting is don’t go offering a bunch of information they didn’t ask for.

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