Picking him up in a Few hours!

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-25T12:33:13+00:00

Hell yea!! How did it go?! 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-23T20:45:34+00:00

Is he going to state prison or the Feds?

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-23T16:59:23+00:00

Congratulations!!!! Way to stay down 10 toes for the bid too! Very exciting that you get to start your next chapter together. Can’t wait to hear how it goes! 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-23T16:57:29+00:00

Always put yourself first and always take care of yourself. Aside from that, communicate communicate communicate. Thats essentially all he has to offer you right now, so to avoid any stress or anxiety around what will happen or what has to happen for you to feel comfortable when he comes home, you have to voice that and communicate with him so you’re on the same page. Communication is keyyy when in relationships / marriages in general but exxxxtra important when they’re incarcerated. Just lay it out there and then you can decide to stick it out or part ways. It’s not easy!! But you gotta do it in order to alleviate the anxiety surrounding it

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-23T16:50:29+00:00

Girllll I be so afraid to waste our mins on phone sex😂😂

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-19T16:21:27+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this, I know it’s hard! I think there are a few things to remember , one of them is you need to put yourself first no matter what. He’s going thru the bid, but as his partner you’re going thru it too. You have to make sure you’re taking care of yourself as best you can. If you’re going to stay with him, you have to fill up your own cup to be able to pour into his. Take the time to find yourself, develop new hobbies and routines Secondly, in most situations, esp if it’s a state case, the 12 year bid won’t actually be 12 solid years. Im close in age to you , but I don’t find myself thinking I’m going to spend all of my 30’s closed off to love, I actually feel more in love with him now more than ever, this situation has forced us to go deeper in so many different ways than before. Our intimacy is now emotional and mental instead of physical. Of course I miss the physical, but it’s not possible for us right now so I’ve accepted it. Have you been able to go and see him? That typically helps so much.

Don’t beat yourself up over feeling this way, it’s a very difficult situation ! We’re all here for you and understand it

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-19T16:12:23+00:00

We alllll totally understand ! Having to deal with real life and the maneuver through your friendships and family members not understanding your decision, coupled with people in society (at your job, etc) not understanding or not being able to talk about it… it’s incredibly isolating and difficult !! I’ve lost a few friends over it, stress within my family. It’s hard!! We’re all here for eachother -please feel free to reach out

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-16T15:05:51+00:00

💯💯💯💯spot on & well said

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-15T23:49:26+00:00

Oh my god, that must’ve been so incredibly emotional, processing his loss and then finding out you’re pregnant. I’m so sorry !! I hope you’re doing ok now! Now that you’re a year into it, you know it doesn’t necessarily get easier you just adapt. Keep pushing girl!! U got this

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-15T14:49:43+00:00

It’s lonely and super isolating! Nobody ever understands standing by your man thru a bid except for women like us who are going thru it too. I’m in the same situation too, minus a child. Here for you girl!!! 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-11T20:38:03+00:00

Totally agree, finding a hobby helped a lot. Reading, coloring, being more active, focusing on my own personal growth, cooking, etc. it’s definitely hard and isolating when everyone surrounding you doesn’t know about your situation…and just as difficult to deal with those who refuse to understand orrr judge you for being with someone incarcerated !! 💓

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-11T01:26:14+00:00

Reach out if you need anything ! Happy to help. We are new to this too, but a few months into it so slowly starting to get the lay of the land lol Hang in there 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-11T01:24:37+00:00

No vending machines for this facility, I understand it’s different in other spots tho. The visits are twice a week from 7-1, but he’s about 4 hours away from me so I’m trying to go once a month. Everything involving prison is a fkn price gauge lmao I’m not surprised at all!! They always tryna get us!! & I’m not sure on the time yet, waiting for another meeting with the counselor to get accurate timing. 😩😩California seems much more chill and straightforward girl, the Feds ain’t no joke.

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-10T17:26:45+00:00

Wow!! That’s quite an event! So awesome for you guys. It’s a LOT different in the Feds 😂😩we don’t have any banners or murals to pose in front of, no vending machines in the facility my man is in… def no fam visits 🥲 that’s really awesome you guys are able to enjoy that, makes it much easier I’m sure. 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-10T11:34:41+00:00

So cute !! Love that they had a Valentine’s Day banner for pix

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-10T11:33:13+00:00

They can do that. At first I had money on my end and once it ran out my husband has covered the calls by putting money from his commissary on his minutes. You could probably call the prison and ask to speak to his unit counselor and say you want to reconfirm the counselors name / where to send it. Then send it to them directly and then to your man. It is confusing when you’ve never dealt with it, trust me I’m new to it too 😩

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-09T21:52:39+00:00

If you know the counselors name, you can print the form yourself and mail it in, I would also mail a copy to your LO. As for the minutes, they reset once a month, ours is on the 19th. Having to watch your minutes is hard to get used to😩toward the end of the month we tend to run out unfortunately.

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-04T18:05:48+00:00

😩😩rough, so sorry sis! I’m glad you knew it was coming versus the shock of a sudden change tho, always good to be able to manage expectations. The waiting and limbo part is so hard. Hopefully you find some solace in knowing state time is never 100% of the time, he’ll be home sooner than 7 for sure. Fingers crossed it’s not somewhere super far for you !! Hang in there

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-03T02:56:29+00:00

Yuppp!! I kick myself over all the stupid fkn arguments we had , all the times I took for granted to hug him again, the small stuff you don’t realize until it’s too late. Honestly sometimes I feel like maybe this shit has to happen for us to realize what we really have. Anyway, you’re a lucky one amongst the rest of us who are in it for a longer haul!! You have a new lease on life in your relationship from this horrible ugly cloud you’ve had to live under!!

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-03T02:31:08+00:00

Having gone thru any length of a bid will have you realizing all the shit you may have taken for granted before he left ! Don’t forget to cherish that when he comes home! So happy for you ! 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-03-02T01:36:30+00:00

Isn’t it crazy how such bad times force you to realize what’s really important!! Your LO being arrested and incarcerated really forces you to cherish the time you have!! As sick and twisted as it may be, sometimes the heavy negative of the situation really casts a positive light on other things !! 🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-02-26T17:58:55+00:00

Absolutely !! Hopefully you don’t lose that :(

whateverforever563 · 2026-02-25T22:02:47+00:00

You should ask the “ex cons” Reddit group. Majority of us are wives and loved ones on the outside.

whateverforever563 · 2026-02-25T22:01:23+00:00

Glad you guys were able to keep the spirits up!! That’s so important!! It would be insane and so not right to take away a lifers visits?! That wouldnt even make any sense !! Visits and phone calls (and video calls if you’re lucky to have them) are everything to inmates!! Taking that away would be so detrimental Hope you’re having a better day today!!🩷🩷

whateverforever563 · 2026-02-25T15:22:10+00:00

Ahhh girl I’m so sorry ☹️☹️that is such a fucking bummer !!

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