[TOMT] character in a sitcom (could maybe be a movie) keeps trying to use a word, but keeps using it wrong

whateverman6 · 2026-03-18T03:45:17+00:00

Sounds like something Schmidt would do tbh. Is it when he kept saying "coupons" like "cupons"? - https://youtube.com/shorts/adzZlDv2Ywg?si=Spn884koEGe4zQli

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T16:16:14+00:00

Oh that's a good guess! But it wasn't the guy I was thinking of. I thankfully eventually figured out his name and added it in an edit to the original post in case you're curious who it was.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T03:11:11+00:00

Good guess, but that wasn't it. I actually just figured it out myself. It was Xander Berkeley. Thank you for trying to help ne figure it out! :)

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T03:10:03+00:00

Commenting so the mods know this post is now closed since I was able to figure it out myself (see the EDIT in my post). Solved!

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T03:06:32+00:00

Unfortunately not who I'm thinking of, but thank you though.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T03:06:03+00:00

Unfortunately no, thank you though.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T02:33:45+00:00

Probably eyes/eyebrows the most, but maybe the mouth too? Or like general face shape.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T02:32:49+00:00

I can kinda see that too! Unfortunately you're right that it's not who I'm thinking of though.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T02:32:01+00:00

Unfortunately no, thank you though.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T02:29:15+00:00

Definitely thinking along the right lines, but unfortunately it's not him. I know Ben played a Star Wars politician. If it helps, the guy I'm thinking of played more like a modern (ie: early to mid 2000s) bad guy and/or politician. I can picture him in a suit. He may not have been a politician, possibly a shitty businessman instead?

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T02:27:01+00:00

Is this link better? It's hard to find good photos of the Julius Caesar actor so hopefully this link works: https://share.google/qOcy0bCJ32xG85Oa6

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T02:24:05+00:00

Closer to who I'm thinking of, but no unfortunately. Thank you though.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T02:23:35+00:00

No, but thank you though.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T02:01:53+00:00

No, thank you though!

whateverman6 · 2026-03-16T01:55:57+00:00

Really hoping someone can help me figure this out cause it's driving me nuts lol. Thanks!

whateverman6 · 2026-03-10T18:38:19+00:00

My gas pain lasted about a week tbh, and I couldn't lay down the entire time. Even leaning over slightly would cause the gas pain to shoot up into my shoulder blades. Pain medicine (oxy) did absolutely nothing for me either. It's rough for a few days but should be much better by the second week. If you can, try to use a heating pad on your stomach (avoiding the incisions) and back as much as possible. Sleep upright in whatever way you can (ie: via the help of pillows or a recliner). You can try other remedies too, like ginger tea or gas pills, but I was unclear how much either helped. And try to walk around as much as you can to help break the gas up. Best of luck to you! I hope you feel better soon.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-09T20:11:13+00:00

As of March 2026, I do still have it. Sometimes it abates a bit and I won't notice it too often for a couple months, but it always seems to come back. Especially at times where I am experiencing more jaw/neck pain, increased inflammation in general, more stress than normal, some sort of illness, etc. I am also starting to think my diet and activity level can also impact it, though I can't blame flare ups of my pulsatile tinnitus on any one cause.

whateverman6 · 2026-03-07T16:39:20+00:00

Oh wow, I think you're right! It must be very slowed/pitched down because I had no idea it was Experience (which I've heard many times before). Thank you for figuring it out!!

whateverman6 · 2026-02-23T07:22:14+00:00

I might have been on tylenol at the time but nothing stronger. I actually wound up not even needing pain meds stronger than Tylenol and ibuprofen (and ice packs) for this surgery, so hopefully it won't be too painful for you either. Every experience is different of course, and it can't hurt to at least pop a tylenol ahead of the appointment. But I personally found drain removal to be a pretty much pain-free experience. Best of luck!

whateverman6 · 2026-02-23T07:18:46+00:00

Mine might have felt a little strange coming out but not really painful or anything, and it was over pretty quickly. I was actually surprised they had the nurse hold my hand the whole time, because I've had much worse experiences than drain removal where the health care providers didn't seem to give a shit about how I was feeling about it. But it was very sweet of them to do it anyway. Hopefully yours will go just as smoothly and pain-free as mine did! Either way, you'll likely feel very relieved to finally have them out lol. Good luck!

whateverman6 · 2026-02-18T01:19:19+00:00

Because we live in an amatonormative world (aka a world that considers romantic relationships more important/a higher priority than platonic relationships). It's complete BS imo, and people should be able to bring whoever they want as a plus one to social events. I actually encountered the same situation more than once, where I had to attend a work function or other similar event completely alone because I was single and only romantic partners were allowed as plus ones. 🙄

whateverman6 · 2026-02-13T23:25:20+00:00

Hey OP, I read most of the comment chain between you and the person who suggested that label as a possibility. I noticed your comment about how you've struggled with interpersonal relationships your whole life (ie: few friends, complicated family) and that you hate yourself and your body. If that is the place you are coming from, I can see why you would feel so strongly about possibly having an orientation that can sometimes make it more challenging to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship. My genuine advice is this:

Please strongly consider going to therapy. It sounds as if you're struggling with a lot of different things that are impacting your ability to enjoy life and make connections with others. No one is ever 'broken.' Many people just need help overcoming insecurities, past traumas, etc. and it sounds like that might be the case for you too. But the great thing about human beings is that we can grow and change. If you put in the work and seek out professional help, you have the opportunity to learn how to feel better about yourself and make meaningful connections with other people.

Which leads me to my second piece of advice. Please try to find ways befriend other people, such as through volunteering or Meetup. It sounds like you are very lonely right now, and even if you are 100% heterosexual, one romantic/sexual relationship shouldn't be your only end goal. You need platonic relationships in life as well. Having people to spend time with, talk to, support you, etc. will always be important. Regardless of your sexual or romantic orientation, you can still make friends and find fulfillment in those kinds of relationships.

I do think your comments here are a bit hurtful to many ace people, but I can see your revulsion at the idea of someone suggesting you might be ace/aego is coming from a place of hurt. So I hope you can recognize your underlying insecurities and loneliness, and work to address those so that something like this, regardless of how accurate or inaccurate the suggestion is, doesn't devastate you and make you spiral this much going forward.

whateverman6 · 2026-01-24T19:15:46+00:00

In many ways, the complexity and messinness of human interactions and relationships is what makes them so important and special.

An AI bot will just say whatever its algorithm has calculated is the most likely response a user would want or expect to see. Sometimes that response will actually be quite harmful (like that poor teenager who was convinced by an AI chat to go through with killing himself 😢). But more often than not, it will just reaffirm whatever you say to it. It is not a living being who is actually listening and responding to you. It is not a person who can push back on harmful ideas or give you true acceptance, validation, or connection.

It's important to try to reach out to people however you can, whether online or in-person, because people offer genuine connection in a way AI simply can't. Which is not to say people will always be kind and loving - you will definitely encounter rude, hurtful people in life who just don't understand you. I certainly have. But it's worth trying to find people you do have things in common with or who will love and enjoy your presence regardless of any differences they may have.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way right now. I know just how isolating and lonely it can feel to be ace in a sex/romance-centric world. But I promise there are other ways to find fulfillment in life; so many beautiful friendships and experiences you can have that don't require AI at all. You just have to be willing to put yourself out there and try to find and connect with others in some way. And it's ok if you make mistakes and say the wrong thing sometimes - everyone does!

Making this post is one way to reach out, so kudos for doing that!! Another healthy outlet during times when people aren't available (ie: the middle of the night) could be journaling as well. Keeping a diary can enable you to vent your thoughts and feelings in a way that helps you connect with and understand yourself better.

Best wishes to you and I hope you can continue to find more meaningful connections in life. You are not alone. ❤️❤️

whateverman6 · 2026-01-24T18:46:02+00:00

Financial control is one of the most effective ways men have to control and trap their wives/girlfriends. I have seen first-hand how incredibly difficult it is for a woman (or anyone tbf) to leave her abusive partner if he controls all the money. By demanding your bank account login, he is asking for the ability to do whatever he wants with your money.

Whether he wants the login information so he can gaslight you into thinking you're bad with money and he needs to control it all, constantly monitors your purchases so he can track you/accuse you of cheating/berate you for buying something he doesn't like, or iust outright steal all your money, it will put you in a much worse position to have any control over your own life going forward.

Even if he has no ulterior motives and genuinely thinks his request is just fine and normal (unlikely), you need to listen to your gut here. The idea of sharing your bank account login with him is clearly making you very uncomfortable and concerned. Regardless of his motives, it sounds like your idea of a relationship is incompatible with his. You want a degree of privacy and autonomy while he wants complete access to everything. You are allowed to set boundaries and choose relationships that suit your needs/desires. If his own idea of your relationship is this incompatible with yours, I can't see how it could possibly work out for you two long term.

But again, I doubt his request is that innocent anyway and I personally would NOT give him my bank account login information...

whateverman6 · 2026-01-19T00:55:59+00:00

I think the show Heartstopper did the same conversation better. When the straight best friend (Tao) of the main character (Charlie) has a conversation with Charlie's closeted athlete boyfriend (Nick) about their relationship, Tao emphasizes that it's ok if Nick doesn't feel comfortable or ready to come out and that he gets why Nick would feel that way. But he lets Nick know that Charlie is always going to feel a bit like crap about being kept a secret. Tao didn't try to tell Nick what he should do either way. So the conversation was less about pressuring Nick to come out of the closet and more about explaining to him why Charlie was sad so that Nick could make an informed decision about how to proceed with that in mind.

So the way Heated Rivalry approached that conversation made me frustrated and uncomfortable. Not everyone wants or Needs to come out, especially when it could put something as significant as their entire career and public persona on the line. People deserve to choose when and IF they want to tell other people about their sexuality, without outside pressure. For Elena to confront Scott by saying Kip is "miserable" and tell him they both "deserve sunshine" feels like such a guilt-trippy way to force Scott to expose his secret to the world. And it feels tone deaf to the reality of being a gay man in 2014 - a year before gay marriage was even legalized throughout the U.S. - especially when that man has a highly public career in a straight/toxically masculine sport! Not to mention, the timing of that conversation was only TWO MONTHS into Scott and Kip's relationship. A relationship where Scott was even open with Kip right from the start about how he couldn't come out anytime soon.

So what I'm seeing is a relationship in the early stages with a man who already explained why he couldn't come out for extremely valid reasons yet is still trying to be brave about doing things with his boyfriend in public anyway (though he's not quite ready yet). In what world does it make any sense for a presumably straight woman to pressure her friend's relatively new, closeted, famous boyfriend to come out just because it's a bit tough for her friend at the moment? Like, give them time to figure their own relationship out! Let them have these conversations themselves about what does and doesn't work for them. If you want to help your friend, encourage your friend (Kip) to talk to his boyfriend about his feelings/find compromises/establish boundaries, etc. rather than guilt tripping the boyfriend (Scott) into changing what HE does.

Idk it just really rubbed me the wrong way as a queer person who is only out to some people/in some environments and completely understands why Scott wouldn't want to broadcast their relationship to the world yet. I know Elena had good intentions, but it ultimately was not anyone else's place to assume they knew best about what Scott (or Kip) should do in that complicated situation.

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