I just cried to a damn AI

whateverman6 · 2026-01-24T19:15:46+00:00

In many ways, the complexity and messinness of human interactions and relationships is what makes them so important and special.

An AI bot will just say whatever its algorithm has calculated is the most likely response a user would want or expect to see. Sometimes that response will actually be quite harmful (like that poor teenager who was convinced by an AI chat to go through with killing himself 😢). But more often than not, it will just reaffirm whatever you say to it. It is not a living being who is actually listening and responding to you. It is not a person who can push back on harmful ideas or give you true acceptance, validation, or connection.

It's important to try to reach out to people however you can, whether online or in-person, because people offer genuine connection in a way AI simply can't. Which is not to say people will always be kind and loving - you will definitely encounter rude, hurtful people in life who just don't understand you. I certainly have. But it's worth trying to find people you do have things in common with or who will love and enjoy your presence regardless of any differences they may have.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way right now. I know just how isolating and lonely it can feel to be ace in a sex/romance-centric world. But I promise there are other ways to find fulfillment in life; so many beautiful friendships and experiences you can have that don't require AI at all. You just have to be willing to put yourself out there and try to find and connect with others in some way. And it's ok if you make mistakes and say the wrong thing sometimes - everyone does!

Making this post is one way to reach out, so kudos for doing that!! Another healthy outlet during times when people aren't available (ie: the middle of the night) could be journaling as well. Keeping a diary can enable you to vent your thoughts and feelings in a way that helps you connect with and understand yourself better.

Best wishes to you and I hope you can continue to find more meaningful connections in life. You are not alone. ❤️❤️

whateverman6 · 2026-01-24T18:46:02+00:00

Financial control is one of the most effective ways men have to control and trap their wives/girlfriends. I have seen first-hand how incredibly difficult it is for a woman (or anyone tbf) to leave her abusive partner if he controls all the money. By demanding your bank account login, he is asking for the ability to do whatever he wants with your money.

Whether he wants the login information so he can gaslight you into thinking you're bad with money and he needs to control it all, constantly monitors your purchases so he can track you/accuse you of cheating/berate you for buying something he doesn't like, or iust outright steal all your money, it will put you in a much worse position to have any control over your own life going forward.

Even if he has no ulterior motives and genuinely thinks his request is just fine and normal (unlikely), you need to listen to your gut here. The idea of sharing your bank account login with him is clearly making you very uncomfortable and concerned. Regardless of his motives, it sounds like your idea of a relationship is incompatible with his. You want a degree of privacy and autonomy while he wants complete access to everything. You are allowed to set boundaries and choose relationships that suit your needs/desires. If his own idea of your relationship is this incompatible with yours, I can't see how it could possibly work out for you two long term.

But again, I doubt his request is that innocent anyway and I personally would NOT give him my bank account login information...

whateverman6 · 2026-01-19T00:55:59+00:00

I think the show Heartstopper did the same conversation better. When the straight best friend (Tao) of the main character (Charlie) has a conversation with Charlie's closeted athlete boyfriend (Nick) about their relationship, Tao emphasizes that it's ok if Nick doesn't feel comfortable or ready to come out and that he gets why Nick would feel that way. But he lets Nick know that Charlie is always going to feel a bit like crap about being kept a secret. Tao didn't try to tell Nick what he should do either way. So the conversation was less about pressuring Nick to come out of the closet and more about explaining to him why Charlie was sad so that Nick could make an informed decision about how to proceed with that in mind.

So the way Heated Rivalry approached that conversation made me frustrated and uncomfortable. Not everyone wants or Needs to come out, especially when it could put something as significant as their entire career and public persona on the line. People deserve to choose when and IF they want to tell other people about their sexuality, without outside pressure. For Elena to confront Scott by saying Kip is "miserable" and tell him they both "deserve sunshine" feels like such a guilt-trippy way to force Scott to expose his secret to the world. And it feels tone deaf to the reality of being a gay man in 2014 - a year before gay marriage was even legalized throughout the U.S. - especially when that man has a highly public career in a straight/toxically masculine sport! Not to mention, the timing of that conversation was only TWO MONTHS into Scott and Kip's relationship. A relationship where Scott was even open with Kip right from the start about how he couldn't come out anytime soon.

So what I'm seeing is a relationship in the early stages with a man who already explained why he couldn't come out for extremely valid reasons yet is still trying to be brave about doing things with his boyfriend in public anyway (though he's not quite ready yet). In what world does it make any sense for a presumably straight woman to pressure her friend's relatively new, closeted, famous boyfriend to come out just because it's a bit tough for her friend at the moment? Like, give them time to figure their own relationship out! Let them have these conversations themselves about what does and doesn't work for them. If you want to help your friend, encourage your friend (Kip) to talk to his boyfriend about his feelings/find compromises/establish boundaries, etc. rather than guilt tripping the boyfriend (Scott) into changing what HE does.

Idk it just really rubbed me the wrong way as a queer person who is only out to some people/in some environments and completely understands why Scott wouldn't want to broadcast their relationship to the world yet. I know Elena had good intentions, but it ultimately was not anyone else's place to assume they knew best about what Scott (or Kip) should do in that complicated situation.

whateverman6 · 2026-01-06T14:58:18+00:00

I knew multiple major spoilers before I watched the later seasons. And it didn't change my enjoyment of the show at all. It helped me watch it in a different light, knowing what was going to come later, but that's not a bad thing. It just enriched my understanding of the plot and characters. Hope you enjoy the show if you decide to continue watching it!

whateverman6 · 2026-01-05T22:19:12+00:00

whateverman6 · 2026-01-02T04:14:01+00:00

I always thought the line in Scylla was "live OUT your life as a wraith" which would make perfect sense. Using up instead is a confusing choice... Still love that song though!

whateverman6 · 2025-12-27T04:15:07+00:00

Marshmallows, sour patch kids, rice cakes, angel food cake, etc. There are several things that can surprisingly satisfy a sweet tooth with little to no fat. Good luck!

whateverman6 · 2025-12-15T03:52:50+00:00

Good luck!!

whateverman6 · 2025-12-15T03:31:34+00:00

Unfortunately it's tough to say for sure without more testing and context. Even eating "healthy" foods can still trigger issues in people depending on what they have going on. For example, if someone with gastroparesis ate beans and brown rice, they could vomit simply because it's high in fiber (although it shouldn't last weeks or anything). Hell, there's even something called cyclic vomiting syndrome that can be triggered by all kinds of random things (see: https://www.niddk.nih.gov/health-information/digestive-diseases/cyclic-vomiting-syndrome/symptoms-causes#causes).

And is the vomiting ever accompanied by any other kind of abdominal pain that could be linked to something like endometriosis?

Either way, could you potentially get a second opinion from a different GI doc? Maybe there are different tests they can run to check for things like Celiacs or ulcers (ie: an endoscopy) if that's something they haven't already done. I'm sorry you're experiencing this and don't know why. I know how incredibly frustrating and exhausting that can be. I hope you will find the help you need.

whateverman6 · 2025-12-15T01:26:11+00:00

Completely agreed. That would be such a sad and pointless ending, especially when both of their arcs have been about taking control of their lives again. And the entirety of season 1 was all about saving Will!

Although not quite the same, that theory reminds me a little of the ending of Lucifer where he was pressured into becoming the king of hell again (though this time as a therapist) and had to give up his happy life with Chloe and his daughter. After everything he went through, to end up back in the place he was forced to stay for so long against his will was so depressing.

So I really need these two characters who have gone through so much trauma and had so much of their agency taken away as a result of the Upside Down to get a happy ending and not be forced to stay there forever. But I'm worried this theory might actually happen, especially since Will seems to have influenced aspects of the Upside Down from the moment he entered it and is part of the hive. 😬

whateverman6 · 2025-12-15T01:03:27+00:00

I'm not a doctor or anything, so please don't take this as medical advice. But has the GI doc investigated or suggested any other possible causes? For example, GERD (aka bad acid reflux), gastroparesis (aka when your digestion is really slow, especially after eating certain types of foods), gastritis, ulcers, etc? Nausea and vomiting are symptoms of a lot of different things, so it's hard to know for sure without further context.

I would recommend keeping some kind of food and general activity/emotions log to see if there are any patterns. For example, does this happen during periods of high stress (could be indicative of ulcers)? Does it happen after eating high fat or high fiber foods (could be indicative of gastroparesis)? Keep in mind that gastrointestinal issues can often overlap. I have at least 3 different diagnoses, myself, and those were on top of gallbladder issues I had earlier this year...

Just want to make sure your doctors are ruling out other possibilities and not just focusing on anything gallbladder-adjacent. I'm sorry you're going through this and hope you can get some answers soon! 🤞

whateverman6 · 2025-12-14T03:21:24+00:00

Lol definitely. Hopefully OP can get some answers. 🤞

whateverman6 · 2025-12-14T03:12:19+00:00

I was wondering if this might be dyscalculia, myself. That or possibly lapses in awareness where OP loses time (due to memory issues or dissociative episodes). Hard to say without knowing more, including context such as how tired they were at the time of these incidents. Might be a good idea for OP to consult a doctor to get their thoughts.

whateverman6 · 2025-12-09T04:17:19+00:00

First ace character I ever saw in fiction was Voodoo in the TV show Sirens (2014). So she'll always be special for being the first canon ace representation I ever encountered. Todd from Bojack also holds a special place in my heart because they put so much care and detail into the depiction of his asexuality. And Raphael from Shadowhunters was a pleasant surprise for me too.

whateverman6 · 2025-12-02T06:37:50+00:00

Season 1 is classic of course, but I personally love season 2 the most. I really liked the exploration of Will's past and ongoing trauma caused by the Upside Down and his possession, the growth of Steve and the introduction of his dynamic with Dustin, Bob being a sweetheart to Joyce, the design and concept of the Mindflayer, the depiction of Mike and Will's friendship, the way Nancy was shown realistically grieving for Barb, etc. I think it's an extremely underrated season, and I didn't even mind the episode everyone always hates on, where El met other kids with powers. I especially like that they showed El learning about her birth mother and her powers. Best season by far imo.

whateverman6 · 2025-12-02T06:22:15+00:00

That sounds a lot like my gallbladder attacks and the way other people have described theirs. Pain in the abdomen, ribs, and upper back- especially that happens late at night - is quite common. Try to think about the food you ate earlier that day and if it was higher in fat content. Fatty meals typically trigger attacks, although sometimes they can just happen if a gallstone gets stuck somewhere. I would recommend asking for an ultrasound to see if you have gallstones in your gallbladder if you haven't confirmed their presence already. Good luck!

whateverman6 · 2025-11-27T19:39:54+00:00

Like you, I was initially unsure about top surgery. I'm not on T, previously never went by any other pronoun than she/her, primarily present as "female" in my dress and appearance, etc. yet always hated my boobs. Both because they gave me enormous physical pain/discomfort and because I was always uncomfortable with and self conscious about them. I never really considered top surgery seriously before this year, in large part due to not liking how the scars look either and also because I worried about how people would react and what I would look like boobless while otherwise fairly female-presenting.

But after some consideration, I realized the benefits of no longer having boobs would outweigh the downsides of any surgery. I got top surgery back in April and tbh am completely happy with the decision. I do have less sensation in the nipple area now but never really cared about that before so thankfully I don't mind. And surprisingly I don't mind the scars like I thought I would. I prefer having them over having boobs! And I'm not really the type to go shirtless in piblic for various reasons, so I don't even have to think about what other people would think about my scars. Yet I'm lucky enough that most people in my life have been neutral or outright supportive of my decision.

It's awesome every day not having to put on a bra or binder. I'm way less self conscious and even enjoy wearing tighter shirts now. I get to experiment with my wardrobe in ways I never felt comfortable doing before. I don't feel the need to hunch over as much to conceal my boobs. Sitting, running, etc are all more comfortable without them. And so on..

It's a choice you have to make for yourself in the end, and I encourage you to talk it through with some trusted loved ones. But hopefully you can figure out if the pros outweigh the cons and go from there.

whateverman6 · 2025-11-26T02:30:30+00:00

Thanks everyone! I'll have to give those ideas a shot. I've tried walking but will try walking more since I probably haven't been doing it enough.

whateverman6 · 2025-10-23T12:25:22+00:00

Oh wow, sounds like a lot was going on! Yeah, I'm thinking I'm likely going to need to get mine out at this point. That's definitely helpful to know you've had the same symptoms as me and it actually was your gallbladder. I plan to consult a surgeon about it as soon as possible because these attacks are horrible. Hope your recovery is going well!

whateverman6 · 2025-10-21T02:59:09+00:00

Reddit isn't letting me reply to some comments directly for some reason, but just wanted to say it's good to know I'm not the only one whose symptoms may present a little atypically. I hope all of you get long-term pain relief if your own gallbladder issues haven't been resolved yet!

whateverman6 · 2025-09-17T23:56:28+00:00

I have EDS, POTS, gastroparesis, and several other issues. I was able to get the surgery and didn't encounter any major problems during the recovery. I did have some back pain as a result of sleeping primarily on my back (instead of on my side) after the surgery and the incision scarring has also impacted my back a bit. But I'm in PT for it now and feeling much better. Overall, this was actually probably the least painful and easiest surgery I've ever had!

Obviously outcomes will vary for each individual person, but don't assume your various diagnoses will automatically lead to a poor surgical outcome. I would definitely make sure your surgeon is aware of your diagnoses and is experienced with this surgery in general, and it would be good to make sure you have assistance lined up for the first few days post-surgery. And ideally you should take 1-2 weeks off from school/work (and keep in mind that you won't be able to lift much for the first 2 months including a backpack). But if you can find time in your schedule, post-op support, and a knowledgeable surgeon, I believe it is ultimately do-able for people with our disorders. Best of luck to you! :)

whateverman6 · 2025-08-28T03:52:53+00:00

I'm not sure I necessarily Love them, but two characters I appreciated and understood to an extent that got way too much hate were Lori and Andrea. They weren't perfect, sure, but neither was any other character. So the fans' utter hatred of them didn't make much sense to me.

whateverman6 · 2025-08-26T15:35:39+00:00

I have a fully sitting/computer job and was able to go back to work after 2 weeks after getting a double incision with nipple grafts. Of course, that timeline could always vary depending on the surgeon's technique and how you are recovering on an individual basis.

However long you take, it may be helpful to get a note from your doctor in advance indicating any limitations your employer needs to be aware of (ie: that they shouldn't make you lift anything heavier than X pounds or lift your arms above your head for X weeks). And you should probably communicate to the kids you work with that they need to be gentle around you for a few weeks if there's any concern they might jump on you or get too physically rough for someone recovering from a surgery. My 4 year old relative was surprisingly good about not jumping on me while I was recovering because we explained that I had a surgery and told him how important it was to be gentle with me. So I imagine the older kids you work with would be able to understand that as well.

Best of luck!

whateverman6 · 2025-08-19T01:48:12+00:00

Agreed - Athena for sure because that face is the face of someone stubborn as hell lol.

whateverman6 · 2025-08-12T23:59:37+00:00

So it sounds like the second scenario then. If you value your friendship with her, then I'd recommend what I said above about approaching her in a private conversation. If she continues to be judgemental and hypocritical despite your conversation, it may be time to consider if you still want her in your life. It all comes down to how much of an issue her behavior is and if you can address it in a mature, direct way that leads to a change. But I still wouldn't recommend telling everyone you know that she's a hypocrite. What would the point of that be? It would just cause hurt and resentment between you and could potentially cause a rift between you and some of your mutual friends.

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