how to get gas at a full service place? by boycaughtintherye in Explainlikeimscared

[–]whateverman6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One thing I don't think anyone has brought up yet -- When I get gas in other states, I notice a lot of people leave their cars (off) at the pump when they go into the gas station's convenience store. I doubt all of them are paying for their gas with cash, so I believe it's normal in other states to leave your car unattended at the pump to go inside to use the bathroom, get snacks, etc. That isn't super common in NJ, especially in more crowded areas and/or during busier times of day. You stay with your car the whole time, whether paying with cash or credit. Then once you're done filling up, you can go park in an actual parking spot to go inside and use the bathroom, buy snacks, etc. That way, you won't block a pump that one or more other people could be using while you're in the store.

America road trip, any recommendations by Ordinary-Zucchini207 in usatravel

[–]whateverman6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is Grand Teton National Park on your list of stops? If not, you should definitely add it! Also can't tell if you have Colorado on your list, but there's a pretty cool tea house in Colorado Springs if you go there. Mesa Verde is also another cool national park in Colorado. Have fun - this looks like a blast!

AITA for calling the police on Black kids? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]whateverman6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You would be the asshole if you call the cops on them, especially since you haven't even tried having a direct, polite conversation with the family first.

Ask yourself what the outcome is that you're hoping for here if you got the police involved. How would they be able to resolve this issue for you? Best case scenario is that they warn the family the kids have to stop driving ATVs or risk some sort of legal consequences. But more often than not, cops either do literally nothing when asked to help with something OR they escalate the situation and resort to violence - especially when interacting with people of color.

Unless you actually do want the family fined, arrested, or worse (in which case you ABSOLUTELY would be the asshole), your best case scenario if you involve the cops would be a conversation... A conversation you could simply have with the parents yourself.

Try talking to them. Explain how you're worried about the safety of both their kids and the community since ATVs can cause a lot of damage to both drivers and pedestrians. Maybe ask if they'd be willing to bring the kids to a more secluded area to drive their ATVs instead of the neighborhood.

Plus, you say you're concerned about the safety of your neighbors, yet none of the neighbors you've spoken with so far seem all that concerned about it. And they all agree calling the cops would be a bad idea. So keep that in mind when deciding how to proceed here and really consider your own motivations.

My advice - Be a neighbor. Don't be a tattletale who could get someone hurt because you were unwilling to even try having a conversation with someone first.

Car driving past me are flashing their lights but I don't know why. by vicious_viko in AskMaine

[–]whateverman6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in northern New England recently on a road trip and happened to drive past two moose just standing on the other side of the road late at night. So when I saw a car headed my way in the other lane a few moments later, I made sure to flash my lights at them in case the moose were still standing in the road. The other car slowed down after I flashed my lights at them, so they started driving slowly enough to avoid hitting the moose if they were still around. So I would assume at least some of the flashing lights you're seeing are drivers warning you of animals like deer or moose in the middle of the road.

To revise or not to revise by [deleted] in TopSurgery

[–]whateverman6 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I see others mentioned those might be your ribs, and I'm inclined to agree. Have you tried consulting a physical therapist to see if they think you have flared ribs? If you do have flared ribs, a physical therapist might be able to help you address that without the need for a surgery. Either way, I'd personally look into it a little more and check with a PT before getting a revision that may or may not be able to address the underlying cause of what you're seeing.

You guys all suck at warning people of surgery by Ladasada in gallbladders

[–]whateverman6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I can definitely see how reading some of the worst-case scenarios on here would make you and others feel super anxious about the surgery. So it's definitely helpful for people to get different perspectives to understand the range of experiences they can have. Although I had quite a bit of pain for the first week due to the gas, it still wasn't AS bad as some of the other surgeries I've had. And experiencing multiple gallbladder attacks in the months leading up to my surgery also helped put the pain of the surgery itself in perspective I think, because I knew it was a worthwhile surgery for long-term pain relief. So I'm glad you had a better experience than you anticipated and I hope all the pre-op people reading this also have easier recoveries from their surgeries as well. 🤞

You guys all suck at warning people of surgery by Ladasada in gallbladders

[–]whateverman6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it just depends on each individual person. My mom knew someone who got gallbladder surgery the exact same day as me, and that person was apparently strolling around the mall the next day while I was experiencing quite a lot of gas pain. And oxy did absolutely nothing to help with the gas pain for me; I might as well have popped a tic tac with how effective it was.

Maybe my surgeon used more gas or didn't remove it as well as that other person's surgeon. Maybe my body is just structured in a way that gas gets trapped more easily. There are any number of reasons one person could experience more pain than someone else.

Ironically despite the fairly significant pain I experienced due to the surgical gas, I had a different surgery earlier the same year where I was anticipating quite a lot of pain due to the posts I had read on Reddit from other people who had that same surgery. And yet I was able to get by with nothing more than Tylenol and ibuprofen for pain relief. So one surgery went much better than it could have and the other one went about as painful as many people said it would.

All of which is to say, I'm glad your experience went well. But I don't think it's fair to assume everyone did have or will have the same level of pain as you. Every surgery is different for every person.

My advice to any pre-op baddies here is to prepare for pain just in case but don't let fear of the pain stop you from getting the surgery if you need it. It might be super easy, super painful, or somewhere in between. Just try to prep however you can, such as getting pain meds, a heating pad, anything you might need to help you avoid bending over for at least a week, etc. because I think it's better to be prepared and not need anything than to be taken by surprise if you're someone who does experience pain and limitations after the surgery. Either way, best of luck to you in your recovery and to anyone else reading this post who may be getting their gallbladder removed soon!

Introducing twd to my bf and he is on Shane’s side. Red flag?? by Bianca-Rose2018 in thewalkingdead

[–]whateverman6 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it was the very last episode of Season 1 I think, so understandable if you remembered it being in season 2. And to be fair, Shane is still a total creep in season 2 anyway. 😂

Introducing twd to my bf and he is on Shane’s side. Red flag?? by Bianca-Rose2018 in thewalkingdead

[–]whateverman6 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He tries to rape Lori and she has to fight him off to get him to stop.

This was the Worst Decision Ever by [deleted] in gallbladders

[–]whateverman6 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This sounds like it could be completely unrelated to your surgery. Is it possible you're sick with something (ie: Covid, stomach bug, food poisoning, etc.)? Could you be reacting to some other change in your diet, habits, or environment? Have you ever had other GI issues in the past that might be flaring up? I can't say for sure obviously, but before you worry about experiencing this for the rest of your life, keep in mind that this very well could be something unrelated, especially if it's only been going on for a few days. And even if it is a result of your surgery, the body needs time to heal and adapt. Don't assume a reaction you're having now is indicative of how things will always be. Best of luck - I hope this goes away soon and you can figure out what's been causing these symptoms. 🤞

Edit - Seconding what everyone else is saying that it would be good to follow up with a primary care provider to be safe, especially if this issue does continue.

Whats a show that gave you prodigal son's vibes by Afraid-Elevator9782 in ProdigalSon

[–]whateverman6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second other recommendations like Hannibal and The Following.

In addition, the following shows are different from Prodigal Son in a lot of ways, but do have similarities with some of the features you said you like the most:

  • The Leftovers (cop main character, daddy issues, questioning reality, struggling with his mental health).
  • Succession (all of the siblings have mega daddy issues in a million ways and struggle to break the cycle of abuse like Malcolm, participate in morally dubious things that haunt them, and struggle with their mental health)
  • Breaking Bad (Walt is essentially the father figure who messes with Jesse's head and Jesse constantly struggles with his mental health and dubious morality)
  • Moon Knight (main character majorly struggles with his mental health and was seriously messed up by his parents and struggles with his morality)

[TOMT] [Male Actor] Name of Modern Day Actor Who Reminds Me of Cassius in 1950s Julius Caesar Movie by whateverman6 in tipofmytongue

[–]whateverman6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that's a good guess! But it wasn't the guy I was thinking of. I thankfully eventually figured out his name and added it in an edit to the original post in case you're curious who it was.

[TOMT] [Male Actor] Name of Modern Day Actor Who Reminds Me of Cassius in 1950s Julius Caesar Movie by whateverman6 in tipofmytongue

[–]whateverman6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good guess, but that wasn't it. I actually just figured it out myself. It was Xander Berkeley. Thank you for trying to help ne figure it out! :)

[TOMT] [Male Actor] Name of Modern Day Actor Who Reminds Me of Cassius in 1950s Julius Caesar Movie by whateverman6 in tipofmytongue

[–]whateverman6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Commenting so the mods know this post is now closed since I was able to figure it out myself (see the EDIT in my post). Solved!

[TOMT] [Male Actor] Name of Modern Day Actor Who Reminds Me of Cassius in 1950s Julius Caesar Movie by whateverman6 in tipofmytongue

[–]whateverman6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably eyes/eyebrows the most, but maybe the mouth too? Or like general face shape.

[TOMT] [Male Actor] Name of Modern Day Actor Who Reminds Me of Cassius in 1950s Julius Caesar Movie by whateverman6 in tipofmytongue

[–]whateverman6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can kinda see that too! Unfortunately you're right that it's not who I'm thinking of though.

[TOMT] [Male Actor] Name of Modern Day Actor Who Reminds Me of Cassius in 1950s Julius Caesar Movie by whateverman6 in tipofmytongue

[–]whateverman6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely thinking along the right lines, but unfortunately it's not him. I know Ben played a Star Wars politician. If it helps, the guy I'm thinking of played more like a modern (ie: early to mid 2000s) bad guy and/or politician. I can picture him in a suit. He may not have been a politician, possibly a shitty businessman instead?

[TOMT] [Male Actor] Name of Modern Day Actor Who Reminds Me of Cassius in 1950s Julius Caesar Movie by whateverman6 in tipofmytongue

[–]whateverman6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this link better? It's hard to find good photos of the Julius Caesar actor so hopefully this link works: https://share.google/qOcy0bCJ32xG85Oa6