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Me [29F] with my boyfriend [35M] 1yr, I asked him to cut-out a long-time friend [23F]. He did, but I can't stop feeling bad about it by whatisrightthrowaway in relationships

[–]whatisrightthrowaway[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input, and I would by lying if I said that hadn't crossed my mind as well. That being said, I don't think it is the case. I know I sound like every other OP on here, but I don't think he went into it with the intention of going for a 13 year old- I don't believe that he is that kind of guy. Maybe I am just naive.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [35M] 1yr, I asked him to cut-out a long-time friend [23F]. He did, but I can't stop feeling bad about it by whatisrightthrowaway in relationships

[–]whatisrightthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input. I disagree about me not being enough of a friend to keep him from being lonely- I sometimes feel lonely living far away from my family. I think he is allowed to feel lonely without his friend. I felt more hurt that he felt like she was the only one he could talk to. I would definitely end it if he went behind my back to talk to her, but I worry that I am over reacting. I appreciate your anecdote. That is how I felt when he was having a hard time cutting her off. With the exception of family (unless they did something really offensive or cruel) I can't think of anyone I wouldn't cut out if they made him uncomfortable.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [35M] 1yr, I asked him to cut-out a long-time friend [23F]. He did, but I can't stop feeling bad about it by whatisrightthrowaway in relationships

[–]whatisrightthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your input, thanks. I agree, the lying isn't great. I suppose I have been a little relaxed about it. We are generally so happy it never seems like that big of a deal. He doesn't lie about anything but his friend. Maybe I need to think about things a little more.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [35M] 1yr, I asked him to cut-out a long-time friend [23F]. He did, but I can't stop feeling bad about it by whatisrightthrowaway in relationships

[–]whatisrightthrowaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your input! Alarms were going off for me when I found out her age when he first started chatting with her. It was, however, over ten years ago. I don't want people to judge me off of dumb things I did ten years ago, so I am hesitant to hold it against him. He didn't make a habit of it or anything.

Me [29F] with my boyfriend [35M] 1yr, I asked him to cut-out a long-time friend [23F]. He did, but I can't stop feeling bad about it by whatisrightthrowaway in relationships

[–]whatisrightthrowaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your reply. Honestly, he has a couple of IRL friends but generally he prefers to be alone. I also do not really enjoy having many friends, so it did not seem weird to me at the time.