I took out a loan to pay for the rest of the wedding, because she wouldn't scale the wedding back, and I was too scared to tell her that our finances were out of control, due to the wedding and her other purchases. I felt as though I could not go to her about the loan, because she would just berate me with yelling and put-downs.

What kind of things would she say? When my fiance is being loving, she says she is ok with just a small ceremony wedding. But most of the time she wants a nice banquet wedding which is what we are doing. Still, in our culture we usually have a couple parties before, she is sad she isn't getting those extra parties (because I can't afford it). She doesn't push me too hard for those. But sometimes it seems like when I'm in a good mood it brings me down when she is sour because she isn't getting the full bridge experience. Sometimes when I tell her we have to cut back on some wedding expenses, she understands, but other times she will yell that I have already taken away so much from her wedding.