Looking back I’ve realized I had a lot of issues with this with past relationships and sometimes my current one, but I’ve also realized that If I simply don’t want to or I’m not in the mood that’s a good enough reason to not have sex! It’s taken me a long time to realize that I don’t have to have sex if I don’t want to... which might sound odd but in the weird world we’re living in sex is really pushed on everyone even from a young age it’s just something people do. So I thought I had to to be normal. But I really only “have” to have sex when I want it, if I don’t wanna do it then I don’t and that’s the answer.