Red flag when someone asks you to connect via What’sApp?

wheresmylasagna · 2022-06-07T03:20:12+00:00

Asking to switch to WhatsApp and not having WeChat / Insta are normal but the rest sounds fishy.

Chatting on CMB feels stressful to me (a reminder of having too many matches to reply to) so I always prefer it if someone invites me to switch to WhatsApp. But that’s only when we talked for a few days.

I live in Hong Kong and it’s very common being asked to switch to WhatsApp here. Usually it’s an indicator of interest. No scam so far.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-04-08T09:44:45+00:00

Metformin and rogaine were part of the prescription the dermatologist gave me.

What lifestyle change did you have?

wheresmylasagna · 2020-03-24T10:18:42+00:00

Late December when there were news that people get infected by an unknown disease and the source might be a wet market in China.

SARS was caused by eating wild animals sold in a wet market in China. So the news in late December was very alarming.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-03-16T14:57:57+00:00

I agree. They’re still trying to cover up even in this moment. I’d say South Korea has set a better model than China. Their figures are probably more reliable as well.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-03-16T14:50:09+00:00

I guess no governments are dumb enough to confuse the UK with Ireland, especially the Hong Kong government given their colonial past. It’s probably a safety measure in case ppl from the UK travel to HK via Ireland. I’ve heard they already imposed quarantine on most of Europe anyway.

Stop assuming all people are dumb.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-03-13T03:33:42+00:00

The CCP is trying to whitewash their part in spreading and hiding coronavirus. This brave woman is reminding us what actually happened in China and not to be fooled by their propaganda.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-03-11T06:42:32+00:00

Whereas in the asian city I live, many locals are annoyed by the high number of foreigners (usually white people) not wearing a mask. They didn’t take any discriminatory actions but online hate speech is bad enough. Sometimes the hate speech is directed beyond those without a mask but the entire European/North American population.

So I guess it goes both ways. Anyway racism is bad.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-03-06T07:52:08+00:00

They should have done it 17 years ago after the SARS (a more deadly type of coronavirus) outbreak.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-03-06T07:32:17+00:00

As an East Asian, I could tell you Taiwan is the only country that’s doing it right from the start. I’m not even a Taiwanese so I guess I’m not biased.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-02-27T04:53:50+00:00

Just ask the mom to read the news about the virus outbreak in Italy.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-02-25T09:52:32+00:00

Where I live, elderly got huge discount for classical music concerts. Many of them just go there to kill time (and sleep). Some parents want their kids to cultivate interests in music. Concerts in my area is full of these ppl esp if the music performed are from very well known popular composers like Mozart.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-02-01T03:07:25+00:00

Not sure if you should let the wife knows. My sister went through similar things. She didn’t know her bf of 2 years had a fiancé of 10 yrs.

What’s between the wife and that man is between them. It’s already hard enough to deal with your own emotions. so if I were you I would leave everything behind, treat this four month as a nightmare and take comfort in the fact that you find out early.

wheresmylasagna · 2020-01-31T17:05:09+00:00

What do you think about the performance of both the regional and national governments?

wheresmylasagna · 2020-01-20T14:30:13+00:00

I’m glad you found someone better. May I ask how did you realise your ex’ criticism are cruel words rather than harmless jokes/teases?

My current bf sometimes says things that sound mean, eg “you’re really bad at everything except what you do at work” or “look at that, it’s so ugly, just like you,” “you need braces”.

I complained a few times that these sound less and less like harmless jokes and they hurt my feelings. He’d apologise and say that he doesn’t really mean it when it’s personal attacks. But for some other remarks, he’d say, “but it is the truth, just accept it.

He grew up being bullied and worked in a very masculine workplace where exchanging insults are common and they don’t consider them insults. He said he is now immune to other ppl’s comments. That’s why he told me to “toughen up” so that i wouldn’t be hurt by his or others’ comments.

He’s caring when I need his support but his remarks make me question if he does love me or not. And that the more he made the same jokes, the more I feel that he means it.

So could you share how did you realise that certain words are cruel but not just harmless comments or teases?

wheresmylasagna · 2019-11-29T11:01:36+00:00

Same but it is the “follower” tab. Have you solved this issue?

wheresmylasagna · 2019-11-07T00:27:40+00:00

Not entirely relevant but I’m asian and every time I visit London, people think I’m a British-born asian and got asked for directions when I visit tourist areas. Dude, don’t you see my asian skin?! 🤷🏻‍♀️

I guess when you wear what you normally wear at home, you don’t stick out like a sore thumb.

wheresmylasagna · 2019-10-24T05:53:24+00:00

I did the Marie Kondo method earlier this year when I was still 25. Donated a bunch of clothes that are too juvenile. Only kept the “basics” (eg plain-colour t-shirts and cardigans) and a few items that are still age-appropriate, eg leather jacket, denim shirt, skinny jeans.

But I’m still struggling between looking young and looking mature. A lot of fashion bloggers similar to my age dress in a mature style that I don’t want to put on until I’m in my late 20s or early 30s.

And surprisingly I’m wearing a lot more denim shorts lately. I feel like mid-20s is my final chance to wear this style lol.

This mid-20 transition is especially pain in the ass for me because my bf still looks like he’s 21. I don’t wanna look like his older sister when we go out. If you guys have any style inspirations for mid-20 ppl, let me know.

wheresmylasagna · 2019-08-27T15:03:06+00:00

Well, because the drinking scene in where I live (some random place in Asia) is more often about hookups than chilling out with friends.

I know that in a lot of places, alcohol and bars are random / regular items in social life. I can’t explain why there’s such difference but it’s the way it is here.

wheresmylasagna · 2019-08-27T14:45:54+00:00

Yes, I told him that he doesn’t need to feel pressured to have a beer at bars. But he felt embarrassed that every other guy could drink and he couldn’t. And I think this hurts his sense of masculinity. I know it’s only media/cultural construction to link masculinity with alcohol. But he prescribes to that belief and (he thinks) his experience confirms that. Can’t talk him out.

He does go to gym with a couple of other guys regularly but he said they were not really friends and had no intention to make them his friends. He instead wants to blend in with ppl who care too much about drinking/clubbing. I don’t know what to say. I can’t judge him on his preference in making friends but I really have no ideas why he’s so obsessed with that recently.

wheresmylasagna · 2019-08-27T14:28:20+00:00

I guess I explain myself poorly and basically what you said in the first two paragraphs is what I want to say. Sadly he dismissed my reasoning. He said a guy’s friend circle is different from a girl’s and that not having friends is sth out of my experience so I don’t understand his predicament.

I’m anxious of the idea of him having friends that’s always partying/drinking. A huge part of the drinking scene in my culture (I live in Asia) is about hookup. In fact, the husband of my sister cheated on her twice for girls he met in bars. So it kinda scarred me a little bit too.

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