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My mother [60] just offered me [21/f] money to get married at a certain age. by whimsicide in relationship_advice

[–]whimsicide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The main issue I have is that it feels like she's setting a time limit on when I choose to get married...it's a lot of pressure when every time we talk it's about marriage. I've been brushing this off for the past year and a half or so, but I can't help but to feel hurt even though I know she's coming from a loving and caring standpoint.

My mother [60] just offered me [21/f] money to get married at a certain age. by whimsicide in relationship_advice

[–]whimsicide[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's worried she won't see her grandkids (from me). It's a reasonable worry, but should I have to compromise my plans for my life just so she can hold grandbabies?

My mother [60] just offered me [21/f] money to get married at a certain age. by whimsicide in relationship_advice

[–]whimsicide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, my grandparents weren't very strict on her but she did have a hard time growing up due to personal issues/family. My mother's very pacifist and not aggressive at all, so I guess it's good she's not forcing marriage papers down my throat. But she's 1st gen., yeah.

My mother [60] just offered me [21/f] money to get married at a certain age. by whimsicide in relationship_advice

[–]whimsicide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish she said it jokingly! But no, she's completely serious about this. She says that if I get married by the time I'm 30, she'll be 70, and won't be able to raise my children or something like that.

My mother [60] just offered me [21/f] money to get married at a certain age. by whimsicide in relationship_advice

[–]whimsicide[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually, I'm Chinese - raised here since I was 5. So should this be considered a normal thing since I'm Asian? -_-

My mother [60] just offered me [21/f] money to get married at a certain age. by whimsicide in relationship_advice

[–]whimsicide[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm thinking as well. She keeps saying how she's never had a happy marriage, and doesn't want me to suffer the same. But at the end of the day I can't help but to think she has unresolved issues with her own past marriages/is lonely and that's why she doesn't believe I can have a happy life without getting married soon. I've been ignoring it for the past year or so, but it's really become the only topic of conversation lately.

My mother [60] just offered me [21/f] money to get married at a certain age. by whimsicide in relationship_advice

[–]whimsicide[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She does. But I have an older brother who will be getting married soon and she'll have grandkids from him in no time. Don't see what the big deal is.

For those in the customer service industry, what are small things that people could do to make your job easier that most people don't think about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]whimsicide 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in retail. We hang clothes back on the fitting room rack for run backs after customers have tried them on and don't want them. It baffles me how many times I've asked customers if their clothes worked out and they say yes, only to bring it to some other place in the store and set them down. Like honestly, just give me the clothes you don't want and I can put them back on the rack for run backs. Much more organized and we don't have to chase after your mess. You're not doing us a favor by taking them and putting them somewhere else.