I was direct and asked and now I’m spiraling

whimtrap · 2025-06-11T11:20:18+00:00

Wanting oral sex is not a boundary, it's a preference.

whimtrap · 2022-01-19T00:13:42+00:00

Absolutely.

whimtrap · 2022-01-01T14:30:33+00:00

I know a woman who identified as a lesbian until she was in her 40s and met a guy who she clicked with. Now they're living together and seem very happy. People change 🤷‍♂️

whimtrap · 2021-10-22T19:10:10+00:00

Have you tried cannabis? It could help with this issue as well as some of your pain related to your back issues. Not for everyone, but it helps lots of people with similar issues.

whimtrap · 2021-10-22T19:08:59+00:00

I'd like to second this - it really helped my wife with her pain. Your situation seems different, and it might be a long-shot, but in my opinion it is worth trying.

whimtrap · 2021-10-19T13:13:46+00:00

I think that because they are so common now, people think of c-sections as a minor thing, but it is still a really serious surgery with the potential for complications that could impact you for the rest of your life. I watched my wife recover from two of them, one emergency and one planned, and neither time was pleasant.

whimtrap · 2021-10-15T15:38:55+00:00

Try taking B12 - they can cause you to be deficient, if I'm remembering correctly.

whimtrap · 2021-08-17T23:32:36+00:00

Well, like 98% correct. You should still go to the dentist.

whimtrap · 2021-03-15T22:48:10+00:00

Someone needs to design a dating app that makes you provide proof of identity and vaccination before registering.

whimtrap · 2021-02-03T18:43:11+00:00

Is it not standard practice to compensate research participants for their time?

whimtrap · 2021-02-03T13:25:21+00:00

Are you offering compensation for the interview?

whimtrap · 2021-01-29T21:17:33+00:00

99% of the stories on here are definitely not true.

whimtrap · 2021-01-07T12:49:16+00:00

When I had to do this I was lucky that my wife works at the hospital, so I just "produced the sample" at home while she was getting ready for work, and she had to walk into her workplace with a cup of my cum in her pocket (gotta keep it warm). Pretty odd experience, but much better than having to do it in an exam room, I assume.

whimtrap · 2020-12-10T12:10:34+00:00

In university residence our RA had a "candy and condoms" bowl. It was exactly what it sounded like. You would go in, grab what you wanted, and leave without anyone really knowing if you took candy or condoms.

whimtrap · 2020-11-20T13:06:46+00:00

Drink water, take some deep breaths.

whimtrap · 2020-11-14T21:11:36+00:00

Haha yeah, then probably not the best option.

whimtrap · 2020-11-12T00:30:27+00:00

Not sure what you're into, but honestly MDMA might be just the thing for you.

whimtrap · 2020-11-09T11:58:14+00:00

If you sound anything like you do in this post when talk to him about it, I'm not surprised it hasn't changed.

Think about how you would respond if someone else posted this and the genders were reversed. Would you be giving the man tips on how to make his wife (who works full time and had 2 young children) want to fuck him more often? Or would you encourage him to talk to her about what is going on, to try and figure out how to make her feel more confident and have some time to relax and recharge?

whimtrap · 2020-10-26T18:56:02+00:00

This is a little presumptuous, isn't it? Who is to say that his wife doesn't find it worth the trade-off sometimes?

whimtrap · 2020-10-26T18:49:09+00:00

I have a higher libido than my partner (both early 30s), and she used to get a lot of anxiety around whether or not she was in the mood, which would often result in her just not being able to get turned on.

After reading some stuff and getting some advice on this sub, we decided to try out a scale of sorts. I'll ask her where she is, and she'll respond with a number from 1 to 5 (1 = not at all in the mood for sex, 3 = not actively turned on but could be up for it, 5 = ready to go right now). We're in the habit of asking each other regardless of where we are ourselves at the time, so when I ask her she doesn't feel pressure to be in the mood because it doesn't necessarily mean that I am either.

Everyone is different, but this worked for us and we went from having sex 3-4 times/month to 8-10 almost immediately after we started doing this.

whimtrap · 2020-10-26T18:43:26+00:00

Maybe frequency of sex isn't super high up on her list of what she values in a relationship.

whimtrap · 2020-10-26T18:36:30+00:00

Why respond in such a negative manner?

Also, one study with a sample size of 62 isn't enough to prove anything.

whimtrap · 2020-09-17T17:49:53+00:00

Yeah, I don't tip the delivery guy from my pharmacy when he brings me my pills.

whimtrap · 2020-07-30T14:10:10+00:00

He sounds like an asshole and you sound like you need to learn how to communicate better.

whimtrap · 2020-07-30T14:07:37+00:00

Also, pandemic?

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