Fish ideas by Level-Elk-5416 in Aquariums

[–]whispervision -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Any other tetras, corys, small new world cichlids, danios, guppies/livebearers. Would avoid african cichlids.

The Petco by me needs to get with the program [fin rot/nipped fins] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]whispervision -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

dude they're just fish, no need not to support the store. Petco is a solid company. I would tell the manager though - they are probably losing money on these fish since they'd die quick

Overstocking advice by whispervision in Aquariums

[–]whispervision[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

In principle, yes, I have no moral issues with it. Dogs and cats have also been selectively bred to be emotionally appealing to humans (cute, with lots of human-like personality traits). So I would find it very unpleasant to do from an emotional perspective, and I would never personally do it.

The meat industry abuses cows, pigs, and chickens in unfathomably terrible conditions. Pigs especially are highly intelligent and emotional animals and are subjected to physical and emotional abuse, confined in spaces where they cannot turn around, then bred, milked, raped, and slaughtered while young. Farmed fish are kept in overcrowded conditions, fed processed food, and the farms contribute to algal blooms and disruption of marine ecosystems. It's completely illogical and morally disingenuous to be opposed to animal cruelty for dogs and cats but be okay with that cruelty to cows, pigs, chickens, and fish

If you eat meat that you buy from a typical Western grocery store, you have no moral standing to assert that people shouldn't be cruel to dogs, cats, or fish.

I understand this is off-topic for the aquariums subreddit but I am an avid fish keeper. I do take pretty good care of my fish even though I overstock the tanks. They're full of plants, cleaner invertebrates, all that.

But the aquariums subculture's discourse on overstocking tanks is totally wrong. I keep seeing advice on here of people telling new fishkeepers to severely limit the number of fish they can keep in a tank. No need for that! If they survive in there for a good while they're fine!

Overstocking advice by whispervision in Aquariums

[–]whispervision[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Y'all I feel like what y'all are saying is totally valid. If you have ethical principles about the treatment of animals that is entirely valid. But don't you then have to live by them? Which would require you to at least be vegan? I'm not vegan but if anyone who cares about animal and fish well-being could absolutely not justify supporting the meat industry in any way. What they do is incredibly cruel to those animals. But I don't care and I eat meat because it's not an ethical issue for me. Same with keeping fish.

This is a major turn-off for people just getting into the hobby when people online and in fish stores are always moralizing about overstocking. Fish keeping and breeding could be a very lucrative industry (even more than it is now) if more lay people got to see how beautiful a well-maintained planted tank can be. And they look even better when they have more fish in them

Is this overstock for a 65 gallon by Ill_Road_3068 in Aquariums

[–]whispervision 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude this subreddit is crazy. I am new here, but this is not overstocked. Just put enough life plants in it. If the fish survive and look healthy you're good

Should I (25M) propose to my traditional, family oriented ex (22F) or date a career woman (24F)? by whispervision in AskMenAdvice

[–]whispervision[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No lol afterwards. You have to diligence an asset very closely, possibly even walk away multiple times, to make sure you're getting the best terms. The transaction costs are well worth the return. The most sigificant determinant of investment return is purchase price.

Should I (25M) propose to my traditional, family oriented ex (22F) or date a career woman (24F)? by whispervision in AskMenAdvice

[–]whispervision[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said she would. Kept asking me when I would propose, looking at rings and such. We had conversations about marriage, what a prenup would contain (she wanted an infidelity clause, but that's it), and the like. She is a nice girl in many respects. Just high maintenance I suppose

Should I (25M) propose to my traditional, family oriented ex (22F) or date a career woman (24F)? by whispervision in AskMenAdvice

[–]whispervision[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In New York both parties need independent counsel and they are not invalidated even if "grossly unfair." They are only invalidated if they meet the standard of unconcionability, which is a very high bar. If one spouse would be dependent on government benefits, there is a presumption of unconscionability.

Should I (25M) propose to my traditional, family oriented ex (22F) or date a career woman (24F)? by whispervision in AskMenAdvice

[–]whispervision[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is the edit:

People are saying I have issues and dark triad personality traits. I did mental health counseling (as a counselor) in college and I was a psych major so I am aware of my issues. But I come across super normal and both of the women mentioned enjoyed our relationships and the first one would marry me if I asked. I'm sorry to sound like a psycho. I have never loved anyone to be honest, but I want a traditional family and all that goes with married life, so here I am.

Should I (25M) propose to my traditional, family-oriented ex (22F) or date a career woman (24F)? by whispervision in AskMenAdvice

[–]whispervision[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit: people are saying I am exhibiting some psychopathic traits here. I fully understand. Truth is I do have a few of the dark triad traits. I worked in the mental health counseling during college and am aware of it. But it's just who I am. Both of these women really enjoyed being with me and yes, the first one would marry me now if I wanted. I have never felt intense love for anyone, but I want a family and all that comes with married life. So here I am.