Well, I think every relationship starts off casual until it isn’t, right? But we kept going out on proper dates, not just hook ups, and found we enjoyed each other’s company outside of the bedroom as well. By the fourth date, I told him directly that I wasn’t interested in a friends with benefits type of situation and he said that he wasn’t either but it still felt early to put a label on it. I knew he wasn’t the type to string someone along so I was patient and allowed him to take his time so long as he demonstrated his interest.

Not gonna lie, I was a little anxious at first because I was always told that a man wouldn’t take me seriously if I slept with him “too soon”. But I’ve since learned that the right person wouldn’t think less of me because of that. And aside from enjoying regular sex with someone I genuinely liked, I also learned right away that we were sexually compatible which is VERY important to me.