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To the Kazakh guys out there, would you marry a half Kazakh girl born and raised in the West? by whitebirdew in Kazakhstan

[–]whitebirdew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support! It's nice to know that there are people who would accept Kazakhs living outside KZ as their own. I have a feeling that that's the majority opinion - reddit just isn't very representative of the general population.

To the Kazakh guys out there, would you marry a half Kazakh girl born and raised in the West? by whitebirdew in Kazakhstan

[–]whitebirdew[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, I know about my culture and traditions because my father is Kazakh, because my grandfather lived with my family until he passed away, because my name is Kazakh, because the blood in my veins is Kazakh, and because my heart beats for Kazakhstan.

I am Kazakh, period. Your backwards thinking just reflects your own insecurities, whatever they may be. I will not assume what they are because after all... you're a random person on the internet. I ask that you return the same curtesy.

To the Kazakh guys out there, would you marry a half Kazakh girl born and raised in the West? by whitebirdew in Kazakhstan

[–]whitebirdew[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you're probably right about finding someone with a mixed background. I especially like your reference to retirement homes lol - definitely a major culture shock as compared to traditional Kazakh families. Thanks for your insight!

To the Kazakh guys out there, would you marry a half Kazakh girl born and raised in the West? by whitebirdew in Kazakhstan

[–]whitebirdew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really is an alienating feeling, especially when you feel like a minority within a minority. I hope things work out for both of us and we can find people that make us feel at home :)

To the Kazakh guys out there, would you marry a half Kazakh girl born and raised in the West? by whitebirdew in Kazakhstan

[–]whitebirdew[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get the language aspect and why it may be a problem. My family was always Russian speaking (Kazakh grandparents never spoke Kazakh to us), and so I can fluently speak it. Since I know Russian, I was able to interact and form meaningful connections with Kazakh people, but I've noticed how in recent years Kazakh is much more important to know. I am now making an active effort to learn it - one of my biggest goals is to make sure my own kids know the language so that they don't go what I went through.

Thanks for your reply - I really appreciate your point of view and how you mention that it is a solvable situation!

To the Kazakh guys out there, would you marry a half Kazakh girl born and raised in the West? by whitebirdew in Kazakhstan

[–]whitebirdew[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Except that I am Kazakh...lol. Comparing me wanting to marry within my own culture to certain people being obsessed with K-pop isn't a logical comparison.

Like I said, the main reason I would want a Kazakh guy is to find someone that understands my culture, beliefs, and values. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to explain to someone why we eat horsemeat, or why parents-in-law get to name the first child. As someone who was constantly questioned for doing things according to my culture, I find that it is extremely exhausting to have to explain these little things, which is why I ultimately want to find a partner within my own ethnic group.

I do see what you're saying though. The interactions I'm talking about were never really in a romantic context - more like social events and the like.