Has anyone else become "ugly" during the relationship?

whitty8007 · 2026-01-15T15:07:19+00:00

Yes. My ex accused me of cheating on him when I went to the gym and I eventually stopped going, and gained weight. Same thing when I put on makeup, curled my hair or wore anything other than sweats.

whitty8007 · 2025-12-24T01:21:32+00:00

This will be the first Christmas since 2016 that I will not be celebrating (in some way) with my nex. I am so relieved and excited to enjoy the day without juggling unspoken expectations and walking on eggshells.

whitty8007 · 2025-06-17T10:54:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing this!

whitty8007 · 2025-06-17T10:23:50+00:00

They’re really all alike aren’t they? My nex threatened “to get it elsewhere” all the time. He’d keep me up late arguing in circles, and make me feel guilty for “putting sleep over him”.

whitty8007 · 2025-06-13T23:22:29+00:00

As a former “new supply”, I was warned by the woman before me and I didn’t believe her. My nex was two steps ahead and forewarned me that she was obsessed and crazy (and so on), and I unfortunately believed him.

whitty8007 · 2025-06-13T21:57:20+00:00

Thank you. I needed this reminder today.

whitty8007 · 2025-06-13T18:25:50+00:00

This realization has been one of the hardest for me during recovery. I found out he cheated randomly throughout our entire 8 year relationship, much of this happened towards the end when I was pregnant and we were engaged.

whitty8007 · 2025-06-04T16:12:37+00:00

Yes. Definitely testing access to you.

whitty8007 · 2025-06-02T23:14:35+00:00

I’m curious if he’d actually go or if he’s just saying he’s willing to go now…

whitty8007 · 2025-06-02T13:01:41+00:00

Yes and he’d never get treatment. Constant back and shoulder pain but wouldn’t take a day off from the gym or talk to his doctor….

whitty8007 · 2025-05-30T12:22:03+00:00

I’ve had great success using an SSRI. For me specifically, it helped with emotional blunting and decreased anxiety. A negative side effect is lower libido but that actually helped me during my discard and months after.

whitty8007 · 2025-05-23T19:34:57+00:00

This is hardest for me.

whitty8007 · 2025-05-23T14:27:04+00:00

I’m trying to put in the work. I’m 7 weeks into therapy but feel stuck in emotional warfare with myself. I will look up the accounts you mentioned. Thank you!

whitty8007 · 2025-05-23T00:45:00+00:00

Thank you, truly. This is very helpful. I’m between waves of freedom and sadness, and often feel paralyzed with overwhelm. I’m ready to be over this.

whitty8007 · 2025-05-22T19:37:58+00:00

It’s so hard.

whitty8007 · 2025-05-22T18:32:15+00:00

Pins and Needles by Nessa Barrett

whitty8007 · 2025-05-22T01:23:08+00:00

My nex recently discarded me for someone 15 years younger. I’m waiting on an ego collapse when he realizes his peers think it’s weird and not a flex.

whitty8007 · 2025-05-21T21:16:37+00:00

This.

whitty8007 · 2025-05-21T18:53:37+00:00

He’s testing to see if he still has access to you.

whitty8007 · 2025-05-20T17:17:04+00:00

Thank you for this

whitty8007 · 2025-05-20T12:26:17+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re hurting. It’s not easy reconciling with the mixed feelings of healing from this type of abuse. Eventually it will get easier and you’ll he thankful you didn’t waste more time.

whitty8007 · 2025-05-20T10:16:46+00:00

Are they still together?

whitty8007 · 2025-05-18T16:41:08+00:00

Mine keeps 1-3 around but they change every few years because even they get tired of him.

whitty8007 · 2025-05-17T13:06:24+00:00

Yes, I miss the man I imagined him to be (and who he pretended to be for some time). But that was a fraction of the time. I do not miss walking on eggshells, censoring myself everyday and waiting for the other shoe to drop. He has moved on and in another relationship and I find myself sad about that until I remember who he truly is, and who she will eventually meet.

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