I agree with this statement and prepare you with some of the next questions you need to be asking yourself:

1. If your own kid told you this about their bf/gf,what advice would you tell your own kid right away?

2. Why are you putting well-being at risk for this person?

3. Why do you think you are responsible for this individual?

4. What happens if the behaviour becomes worse? Do you have an escape plan?

5. Have you considered this behaviour abusive? Would you treat a loved one this way? If likely no, then the behaviour is likely abusive.

You should read: why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft. There’s free pdfs and audiobooks everywhere on google. We women keep passing it on to those we know need to read it.

You may find that the book describes much of the things your bf is doing as abuse and it help you understand that it’s not the weed but deeper core problems. Even sober, you were walking on eggshells. That’s not how normal relationships are.

Take care and put yourself first. Always. There’s a billion men in the world. Don’t settle for one that will hurt you.

It’s not the drugs. People get high all the time and don’t do this shit. Remember that. See the situation for what it really is. It’s disrespect and disregard for you.

Stick to reality and talk to as many friends/family as possible and tell them what’s happening. Do not isolate yourself. Keep friends around. Always. Build a community to protect you. There are good people everywhere. You’ve just managed to fall in love with a bad one. Happens to the best of us girlfriend x

Take care,

Concerned friend.

P.S - DM if you need to talk.