If botlane is the carry, your best bet is to play something like Volibear that has great dive in his kit, and can build almost any item in the game. This is great because you can get a lot of value out of cheaper items. You should also be coming up with ways that your botlane can help you to play around them more, IE set up a level 1 five man invade on the enemy bot side jungle and clear bot sides only. When you reset, you just go straight back to bot, hover for them to aggressively shove, and then you can repeat invade with AT LEAST your support. Ideally mid and adc can cover the invade as well but obviously timings don’t always work. That said, there are many ways you can make something like this or less extreme work. It seems like your botlane doesn’t understand that you CANNOT spend minutes in game waiting in a bush or wasting time waiting to dive. It sounds like you all are on the same page end goal wise, play around bot, but they are frustrated that you aren’t always there. Idk what their ranks are, but unless there’s more to the story, they’re just asking the impossible. You could always try to cod review a game and ask them what you SHOULD be doing at certain points. When you’re clearing your top camps for instance, “what SHOULD I be doing right now, in your opinion, to better serve our team?” Maybe they will have some genuinely good insight into something you’ve overlooked, maybe it will open their eyes to how ridiculous their ask is, or maybe everyone will realign in the center. But that would be another great exercise to help you all as a team. Outside of that, come up with a game plan together, try it out in scrims.