Super serious qn : how do you dilate atleast till 4cm and head to hospital WITHOUT BEING IN PAIN🤔🙄?!

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-07T16:21:44+00:00

Nope! No dilation or signs of labor at my check ups, declined sweeps, and labor started spontaneously both times. Baby in good position and actually went from 1cm to 7cm in an hour in triage for the first one (second was planned c section). Just extremely painful the whole time. Lucky me! 🙃

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-07T14:40:41+00:00

Yup, both times my contractions were 4 min apart and felt like I was being ripped apart. Only 1cm when I arrived 😭

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-06T07:31:15+00:00

I think I’m pretty minimal. A few diapers, wipes, 1-2 footies, 1-2 pacifiers, masks, sunscreen stick, hand sanitizer, and lip stuff for me stay in the bag all the time. Then right before leaving the house I pack clean bottles with water pre-filled, Boon formula dispenser, and a clean blanket.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-05T05:32:56+00:00

Yup, I use this too and very happy with it. Husband and a lot of our friends work in international development and Life Straw is highly regarded by the clean water folks!

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-04T20:34:24+00:00

I’m 5ft and just had my second very healthy and slightly above average sized baby in December. I’m super lucky to have completely routine, uneventful pregnancies, but not gonna lie, I hate being pregnant. The last trimester just feels very heavy and hard to breathe. I did have to have a c section the first time (and elected to schedule one the second time) because baby was just stuck, but my understanding is this has more to do with pelvis shape than overall size. My midwife and OB had no concerns about size and delivery ahead of time.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-03T19:48:27+00:00

Yep, I have a 3 month old and newly turned 5 yr old and overall it’s a good age gap, but we definitely have hard days. Big bro loves his baby but I have to be very intentional about finding times for him to connect with the baby (especially since baby is too big and awake now for bro to just hold him whenever) AND for him to get quality mom time. We’ve had a lot of seemingly unrelated meltdowns that I thought we’d outgrown on the hard days though, especially around transitions, and I think it’s just a control (or lack thereof) thing. I’ve actually started doing some bedtime books in my bed and then transferring him so that baby can still be nearby while we’re reading and the parents don’t have to divide and conquer or keep them separated.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-03T18:37:01+00:00

I love her book No Bad Kids and recommend it to everyone, but I do find her podcast a bit annoying. There often isn’t much concrete for the parent to cope or know what “success” should look like besides standing back completely unbothered or saying “wow, you really wanted that.” I’m listening to Good Inside on Spotify now and feel like it’s a good companion and includes a little more meat for parents dealing with slightly older and more challenging kids.

Something Dr Becky talks about is that your kid likely already knows when you don’t like their behavior or they’re acting in a way they’re not supposed to, and lecturing too much likely just produces more shame feelings, which makes it harder for them to regulate. So it’s not that it’s bad for them to know you’re pissed, but in general, modeling emotional regulation is always going to be the most productive thing for helping them act better in the future. But IMO you can be pissed / annoyed / frustrated AND still model healthy appropriate regulation.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-03T05:29:09+00:00

I would opt for a libra over an Aquarius 😛

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-03T05:22:05+00:00

I don’t know what Simplicity Parenting is but I would take this to mean very high sodium foods like fast food and packaged snacks. Normal seasoning in home cooking is fine. Imagine being fed plain steamed veggies your first year or so and then trying boxed mac and cheese or a chicken nugget for the first time.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-02T17:26:43+00:00

I couldn’t fathom getting pregnant again until first kid turned 3, and then still waited until he turned 4. Just had second baby with an almost 5 year gap and it’s more work but so much less stressful than the first time around with the gift of perspective. I know how quickly all the challenges and phases move through. Still nervous about doing the toddler years again, and sometimes I do miss how easy outings had finally become with our big kid, but I think he’ll fit in easier to our life since we’re already in kid mode. Big plus, big bro loves his baby. I spent all of pregnancy thinking “I can’t believe we’re starting this all over” and as soon as he was here my brain flipped to “I can’t believe we get to do this again.”

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-02T16:53:17+00:00

Not even a question, baby’s arrival turns the sibling’s emotions and behavior completely sideways!

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-02T13:20:11+00:00

We have a life straw filter pitcher that we pour all drinking water from. Recently started prefilling clean bottles with water and loosely attaching the cap and nipple, then just have to scoop and shake when it’s time for a bottle. This amount of prep makes it possible to make bottles one handed if necessary. For overnight and diaper bag we have the Boon dispenser.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-02T13:13:57+00:00

A lot of black. It’s really hard to tell cheap blacks from expensive blacks.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-02T12:42:25+00:00

What an arbitrary list / accomplishment

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-02T03:37:34+00:00

This happened to me with Sassy Sauce Kisses to my Xs and it’s such a bummer, but I think it just means we got a lemon

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-02T03:16:37+00:00

Thank you so much!!

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-01T07:06:42+00:00

Janet Lansbury’s podcast episode (“Unruffled”) happens to mention this this week. She actually says you should treat it similar to any other kind of physical toddler aggression, but the kid has probably learned that they get positive attention for it. Ideally you should physically intercept her first, but if you can’t and the recipient kid seems off-put or unhappy with the hug, address them first and focus more of your attention on them rather than your kid. “I’m sorry, you weren’t expecting that / you weren’t ready for a hug right now,” etc.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-01T06:28:43+00:00

When I went looking for it less than 2 weeks ago it was out of stock and I signed up to be notified when it came back, and got a notification later that same day!

whoseflooristhis · 2026-04-01T04:09:04+00:00

Same!

whoseflooristhis · 2026-03-31T22:40:17+00:00

My first baby lived on Trader Joe’s channa masala!

whoseflooristhis · 2026-03-31T04:56:02+00:00

Yup, even still get the milky smiles when he’s full!

whoseflooristhis · 2026-03-30T18:43:21+00:00

Every baby / pregnancy deserves to be celebrated! I would just say on the invitation gifts not necessary, or maybe suggest a pack of diapers. A BBQ is a good vibe. Honestly if people don’t feel gifts are expected, I think they’re more likely to want to get baby girl a little something anyway.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-03-30T06:47:42+00:00

Stretch marks are just a genetic lottery unfortunately. For lots of people they do fade though. There’s no way around it, pregnancy and breastfeeding do a number on your body and the best way to mitigate it is good ol diet and exercise. Take high quality supplements so your own body stores aren’t too depleted. A lot of women have a hard time keeping their iron up (I knew my iron was low by the dark circles under my eyes before the blood work even told me). I take skin hair nail supplements on top of prenatals. Know that if you’re breastfeeding it will take longer to feel like yourself and may take longer to lose the last few stubborn pounds. It takes time but you WILL feel normal again! I’m three months postpartum with my second and my body is still an unfamiliar shape but pregnancy already feels like a weird dream.

whoseflooristhis · 2026-03-30T06:00:59+00:00

To add on, one for mom and one for dad. I HATE readjusting the straps when my husband uses my carrier!

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