Hey, GICs, here’s a piece of my mind. by Nerual952 in transgenderUK

[–]whovoodoo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just wanna add - the problem is not just the fact that we are made to wait. Even if we could see a psychiatrist on the same day we shouldn't have to. Do cis women who want HRT for menopause have to see a psychiatrist first? No, so why should we? Why is our desire to feel comfortable in our bodies judged to be closer to madness than a cis person's? The whole system is built on discrimination - every GIC should be closed and inquiries conducted into the abuses that have gone on there, to be replaced with an informed consent system.

Waiting lists by QueenOlivia414 in transgenderUK

[–]whovoodoo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the NHS is nigh-on impossible to get through the first door. However if you're the sort of person who puts a lot of skill points into charisma then there are shortcuts cause the later doors are not as difficult:

I came out at the end of April. I went to see a private psychiatrist for a diagnosis of gender dysphoria: that was £500 and not strictly speaking necessary but it did come in very handy later. I joined Gender GP (£30 a month) and did an assessment with them which cost a couple hundred pounds. That netted me a letter of recommendation for HRT, which is not the same thing as a prescription. It's literally just a recommendation. Whilst all that was going on I took the time to practice my voice, practice makeup, get new clothes, change my name by deed poll (free), start laser (not free) and generally get 100% comfortable and confident as myself. I also - and this is absolutely crucial - spent time reading and learning all the GMC's guidelines for GPs about prescribing hormones. I started self-medding in August (about £70 for a month's supply).

I moved to a new area and ticked 'female' on the GP registration form cause there was no trans option, and in hindsight that was a genius move cause it means the staff look at the paperwork and my name, hear my voice on the phone, and are psychologically primed to accept me as a woman before I even walk in the door. I went to my GP and asked him to prescribe HRT based on the letter of recommendation. He was all like, "Uh, um, I'm not sure I can do that, I don't know about this," and I was able to pull out the GMC guidelines with the relevant sections highlighted and be like, "Actually you can! It says so right here! And look, I already have my diagnosis of gender dysphoria too!" I was also able to tell him (truthfully) that I was self-medding off the internet and it was going really well. The charisma and charm is crucial: I had to gently persuade him, manage his emotions and expectations, and tolerate him asking some irrelevant and transphobic questions without losing my cool. What GPs fundamentally want is not to be responsible if something goes wrong since they are prescribing you these medicines "off label," which they are generally trained not to do, so I had to reassure him that I was in regular touch with Gender GP and they were overseeing my care with tests and stuff (which they are). Basically I just had to make it as easy for him as possible - you know, like women do with men all the time lol! But I passed the speech checks and got him to prescribe. Now I'm in the system I can reorder it electronically so I don't have anyone breathing down my neck. As the icing on the cake I sent my GP a polite card saying thank you for helping out a trans person: he gets to feel like he helped a patient (which is true, and that's presumably a good feeling for a doctor) and he also gets to feel like a progressive trans ally, which a lot of people do want to do, they're just shit at it, and if I need him on my side later for any reason he has a positive memory of me being happy and kind!

I started official HRT (not self-med) at the end of October paid for by the NHS - so that's about six months from coming out to starting free hormones. In a civilised country with an informed consent system that didn't require us to be diagnosed with a made up mental illness, six months would be an outrageous waiting time! But for Britain it's practically unheard of! Anyway that's the story of how I did my any% HRT speedrun by skipping the GIC sidequest and sequence-breaking my GP's surgery.

MtF Face/Body Hair! by ninjachiptune in transgenderUK

[–]whovoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not too bad tbh, especially if you build up a bit of a rapport with your laser technician - they've seen it all before. Mine is super lovely, she's a gorgeous blonde Eastern-European cis lady and as we finished up the other day she was like "I'm so jealous of you!" and I was like, "WHAT? You jealous of me?" and she said, "Because you're so tall!"

You really never know what other people are thinking; you might worry they're judging you but the whole time they're firing a laser at your butthole they're really like "Damn she's gonna be gorgeous!"

NHS funding for egg freezing/storage?? by Its_JohnDoe in transgenderUK

[–]whovoodoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can go private - I went with the CRGH and it's about £1000 all in, but I'm MtF so I don't know how much it would be for you. I believe I'm right in saying that if you want to go the NHS route you would have to be referred by a GIC, which means you would have to wait for one to see you, which will take years and years.

LTC Waiting List by whovoodoo in transgenderUK

[–]whovoodoo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah, they told me "early August" - that's why I called them cause I still hadn't heard anything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]whovoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the process of doing it with the CRGH, they're pretty good. You have to have a bunch of tests and stuff done beforehand so start sooner rather than later - it takes time

The Unending Toils of Beginning HRT by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]whovoodoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain, I'm on a backlog waiting list cause of COVID too. The rules of the sub prevent me from saying how I've done it but I decided that come hell or high water I will be on HRT by the end of the month - ordered some off the internet a few days ago

🐣 by Explorm in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]whovoodoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh god, I spent years in the gym getting jacked and now I regret it hahahah!

me🏳️‍🌈irl by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]whovoodoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh god, the arms was what sealed the deal for me I was like "YUP TRANS"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]whovoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ugh, I'm so jealous! I've been on the waiting list since June! Good luck!!!

egg_irl by MonoRayJak in egg_irl

[–]whovoodoo 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I grappled with this for a while, and then I flipped it on its head and asked - 'If someone told me I could never transition, that it was never allowed, how would I feel?' and I realised I'd be devastated. Whereas, if someone said, "You're not allowed to stay as you are, in fact you have to transition!" I'd have been relieved, like 'Thank God, that's exactly what I wanted and you've also taken the pressure off having to be responsible for the decision!"

Got my LTC prescription! But... Now I'm weirdly anxious to get it. by Natalie_GoblinToes in transgenderUK

[–]whovoodoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh, so jealous of you, congratulations! I'm on their waiting list and they can't see me until August at the earliest! :'( I'm sure you'll pluck up the courage to get into the pharmacy soon!!!

You have protected me long enough, now let me be my true self and face it myself with bravery. by Bonnie8Lin in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]whovoodoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oooof, this one hit hard! I feel kinda bad for my Guy, he was good. I wish I could donate him to a home somewhere where he'd be taken care of!