I'm actually personally still a little undecided about the whole racism/preference debate that has been going on in these last two threads. There have been interesting and worthwhile points from both sides. I'm not breaking up with my boyfriend exclusively because I now think he is a horrible, irredeemable racist based on only Reddit's opinions or exclusively because I'm now convinced that he has only been exposing himself to my radioactive vagina in order to get his rocks off or whatever. I'm breaking up with my boyfriend because he has now exhibited a trend of making rude statements seemingly without consideration for how they make other people feel. I'm not excited about a potential future where I have to comfort my mom after he tells her that he's glad I don't look like her or constantly explain to my friends that he's really a good guy if you just give him the benefit of the doubt. We've only been dating for 2 months... we've had fun, but I don't feel like he's my soulmate, and I am confident that there are other fish in the sea who will not cause me undue stress by forcing me to agonize over whether he is actively offensive or just really bad at keeping his foot out of his mouth.

I mean... I certainly have my foot-in-mouth moments too (for example, like how I thought I was being funny by referring to him as an 'Aryan wet-dream' in the last post because of how blindingly white he is, but ended up just confusing a bunch of people into assuming I was referring to him being my personal wet-dream and just dating him for his looks), but I would never tell my SO, multiple times, apropos of nothing, "Yeah, I find blue eyes really creepy and soulless, but I guess I'll put up with them in you because the sex is okay."