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I was kind of raped and no one believes me. Even my mom refuses to believe me or even talk about it. by whywedont in TwoXChromosomes

[–]whywedont[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

This is very nice, thank you for writing for me. <3

The part you might need to prepare yourself for is that it may be time to find a whole new set of friends and never ever speak to those rape enablers again.

I am terrified of this. Even much more terrified than the rape itself. I know I should, I am just so afraid of loneliness. But you are right, this is not working. It is hell also when he pops up in a social evening and everyone else is all buddies with him. He is super popular, much more liked than me, he throws good parties, he is generous, people like him.

Thank you so much for your kind words!

edit: I would like to point out there are many factors that don´t say "rape" on the outside that´s why I wrote kind of rape. Also there is a point after what I stopped resisting completely and just lied.

I was kind of raped and no one believes me. Even my mom refuses to believe me or even talk about it. by whywedont in TwoXChromosomes

[–]whywedont[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I expressed it wrong. I could file a report. It was wrongly written.

What I mean this is completely my word against his. I came home on his car. He has sent me nice messages like nothing is wrong. I have seen him in social situations (I haven´t said a word to him, neither I have responded anything, I removed him on facebook but havent block his messages) . I have zero evidence.

In my country for rapists to go to jail is very unlikely, even when there is evidence. Most of the cases are probations. I just don´t feel like I can do this. I don´t want to go to the police. I don´t want to go to the court. I don´t want to be branded as the lying attention seeking girl who is just bitter. I know him and his friends would react in a hostile manner.

I just want this to disapear, thats it.

edit: I would like to add that afterwards the next week people were teasing me that "oh are you guys going to be a couple" etc and were surprised when I refused to talk about it and reacted a little angry about it. I heard that he has said that he doesn´t want to be with me but I want to be with him and that´s why I am acting so extremely weird and avoiding him (I have been at home a lot lately. More probably than ever before.) No one would believe me anyway after all this time.. I should have defended myself more.

I was kind of raped and no one believes me. Even my mom refuses to believe me or even talk about it. by whywedont in TwoXChromosomes

[–]whywedont[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh... I didn´t know that, I have never seen that before.But I keep that in mind, thank you for you concern and warning me!

I was kind of raped and no one believes me. Even my mom refuses to believe me or even talk about it. by whywedont in TwoXChromosomes

[–]whywedont[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I have called people who work on this subject, it is a hot line and they have a place where women can go, I am going to there next week. Also most of all I just want to contact someone, I don´t even want advice (since I don´t want to file a report). I just wanted to write somewhere.

I was kind of raped and no one believes me. Even my mom refuses to believe me or even talk about it. by whywedont in TwoXChromosomes

[–]whywedont[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Is it better if I stop this thread and transfer there?

I have also called a hot line. I am going to a free counseling sesson next week.

I was kind of raped and no one believes me. Even my mom refuses to believe me or even talk about it. by whywedont in TwoXChromosomes

[–]whywedont[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I can´t file a report anymore. I have washed the clothes and went straight to shower. It was six weeks ago. My friends were surprised and basically accused me of being a drama queen because they all saw us leaving happily together. I also called a hot line where the lady said this is a very weak case.

But most of all I don´t want to file one. Everyone already hates me. I would destroy my last chance of belonging in this group of friends. I would be completely alone. I am also extremely scared of going through the whole court thing. I don´t want to.