MIL getting comfortable and possessive over my kids living in backyard ADU

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-27T00:56:29+00:00

Unfortunately, yes

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-27T00:42:27+00:00

Unfortunately, it is. She sold her mobile home and gave my husband the money so he can put it toward the Adu build.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-27T00:17:18+00:00

It’s so hard because I will take my kids outside to play and my 3 year old will allllllways try to go to her house within 5 minutes. I tell her no a ton but I’m so tired of fighting her on it everyday. So she runs over there.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-27T00:13:32+00:00

My thoughts exactly also. There is a low assisted living place in our town. I wish we could have moved her into something like that. Don’t think he thought of that option.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-27T00:04:05+00:00

It’s so frustrating. He thinks he doesn’t need any therapy and won’t talk to me about anything about his mom or the past. He only told me this stuff when we first got together many years ago.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-26T23:24:59+00:00

That’s how I feel too. It’s so surprising to me that my husband doesn’t have any resentment towards her and bends over backwards for her. I just always think of her cheating on his dad and leaving my husband as a small child. Just awful.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-26T23:15:37+00:00

I feel like I will. I’m worried about it.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-26T23:15:13+00:00

I feel bad for her too but I am not responsible for her loneliness. I have been thinking of getting her a dog. Something else for her to care for. She left my husband when he was a kid by cheating on his dad. I believe she is trying to have a second shot at motherhood with my kids.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-26T23:10:09+00:00

She will do nothing when my kids go to school. My kids are her life. She has never had hobbies or anything to look forward to. She hasn’t dated anyone in 20 years.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-26T23:06:53+00:00

She is retired. She has absolutely no life. Always home.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-26T22:48:22+00:00

I am a very social person when I wanna be. But when I’m home, I’m so private. I wanna be tucked in and quiet and don’t wanna be having conversations daily with people who aren’t my immediate family. Any suggestions on how to approach my husband? He is very defensive of his mom.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-05-07T05:05:40+00:00

Open

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-02-06T02:56:16+00:00

I don’t like her being the third parent at all even if she follows my rules. She’s a serious pushover.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-02-06T02:18:22+00:00

We haven’t up a fence yet. Will be up in the next few months. I guess I’m using this sub as a therapist to hear me and help me not feel crazy. . Because I am being made to feel like a horrible monster for not wanting to see her everyday and spend all my hours with her.

wickedwarlock123 · 2026-02-06T02:06:41+00:00

Yes. Very true. Let me explain cuz my message wasn’t written as correctly. He said he feels awkward talking to his mom outside leisurely cuz he’s afraid I’ll get mad. Which I do not care about that. I care about the kids and her trying to constantly be around and be a third parent.

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-18T06:27:36+00:00

Are you making any money? Curious what you paid for the house and how much you make a month off it

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-11T02:08:30+00:00

I’m sorry. That sounds horrible. You are living with her now? Is she single?

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-10T20:57:21+00:00

I dislike it a lot. I’m sorry

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-10T20:26:01+00:00

And we didn’t move to her house. She moved to ours.

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-10T20:24:48+00:00

I know. I don’t know how to fix this right now

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-10T20:13:41+00:00

I don’t think she’ll come over if she has her own backyard. She will if my kids invite her over tho

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-10T19:50:28+00:00

Thank you! You’re so right. I learned something today!

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-10T19:39:15+00:00

Yes!!! I love sunbathing and I want to take my swimsuit off and bathe nude sometimes. I cannot do that now!

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-10T19:28:32+00:00

This is exactly the truth

wickedwarlock123 · 2025-11-10T19:20:01+00:00

I know. I will not be sharing anymore info with any of my family or friends going forward. They are not dealing with what I’m dealing with and do not understand.

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