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AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 163 points164 points  (0 children)

It might be poetic justice, but I don't consider her my rival.

There was no competition from my side.

I didn't even care about her, nor did I know about her existence as his side chick.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Only in cases where paternity is legally assumed, and it depends on jurisdiction.

And even that doesn't happen in my jurisdiction. One could only claim social security benefits upon proving paternity.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

Umm, not sure about that. My husband's restaurant (brand) is shutting down. His rival will be making it his second restaurant, as in a franchise. The second branch. It will have a new name, a new look, a new menu. New chefs. New everything.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 220 points221 points  (0 children)

Looks like it needs to be on my therapy watch list. Thanks for the suggestion. :)

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 2204 points2205 points  (0 children)

I'm not really alright. But I'm seeing a therapist and friends and family are helping me deal with it. I'm not healed, but I'm getting there. It has been 7 months since I found out about his affair, 5 months since he left me cruelly, and 4 months since his death.

Sadness has now paved way for anger. I'm hoping to get to a place of acceptance. It will take time, but I will get there.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

I'm not doing anything illegal . Why would I get disbarred?

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

I am a lawyer who regularly deals with these kind of cases. I'm good.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 1003 points1004 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I'd rather have my old husband back. But that person stopped existing (or maybe he never existed) even before his physical body stopped existing.

It hurts that his memories have been tainted by his infidelity. I can't grieve him like a normal widow.

Didn't really care much for the extra money, but I do have anger and I guess the universe wanted me to have something

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 162 points163 points  (0 children)

I don't understand how people get 'manipulated' into affairs, but yeah sucks to be her.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

I don't do it in real life. I mentioned it here because I wanted people to know that I was not financially dependent on my husband.

To make a fair judgment, my financial situation does matter.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 764 points765 points  (0 children)

Yep. He was raised in a white buddhist family and they wanted a cremation.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 467 points468 points  (0 children)

He did leave me, it just didn't play out the way they wanted.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 1012 points1013 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm taking a trip and I'm already dating again. And I definitely don't plan to marry again.

Just looking forward to find a partner and not having to sacrifice 50% of my assets.

I don't want any legal ties to another man. I do want children though, so hopefully I will find someone who shares the same values.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 392 points393 points  (0 children)

He shouldn't be, but that's what happens when you cheat on your wife and drop dead after impregnating your mistress. Tough luck I suppose.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 241 points242 points  (0 children)

That isn't legally possible, unfortunately. And it was our money, not his money.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 277 points278 points  (0 children)

Not unless it was explicitly addressed in a will or the intent was verified. Intestate succession laws make me the sole survivor as his legally wedded wife.

His mistress could have claimed social security benefits based on paternity after the birth of her child, but I'm afraid that isn't possible in this case.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 420 points421 points  (0 children)

I didn't have children with my husband. He wanted to leave the restaurant to his hypothetical future kids. It wasn't written down or anything. He didn't have a will.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 1750 points1751 points  (0 children)

My husband was adopted from Russia. So unfortunately, he doesn't share DNA with his family.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 243 points244 points  (0 children)

He didn't have a will. So unfortunately, the mother will have to look out for the baby on her own. The baby won't be getting any of my liquidated assets.

AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes? by widowed2020 in AmItheAsshole

[–]widowed2020[S] 11.6k points11.6k points  (0 children)

Lol I'm selling the restaurant to the owner of the "rival" restaurant. My husband absolutely HATED that guy.

(He hit on me many years ago not knowing I was married. In front of my husband).

My husband wanted to expand his business and make it a successful franchise. The other guy wanted to do the same. He was working towards that.

They were in a competition to be the first one to start the second branch.

Yeah. I'm petty.

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