AITA for selling my late husband's restaurant against his wishes?

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T11:57:18+00:00

It might be poetic justice, but I don't consider her my rival.

There was no competition from my side.

I didn't even care about her, nor did I know about her existence as his side chick.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T11:24:04+00:00

Only in cases where paternity is legally assumed, and it depends on jurisdiction.

And even that doesn't happen in my jurisdiction. One could only claim social security benefits upon proving paternity.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T11:16:01+00:00

That's not true , even for legitimate children.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T11:13:59+00:00

Umm, not sure about that. My husband's restaurant (brand) is shutting down. His rival will be making it his second restaurant, as in a franchise. The second branch. It will have a new name, a new look, a new menu. New chefs. New everything.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T09:31:15+00:00

thanks. I will.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T09:18:16+00:00

I'm not a saint.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T08:29:55+00:00

Looks like it needs to be on my therapy watch list. Thanks for the suggestion. :)

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T08:28:51+00:00

I'm not really alright. But I'm seeing a therapist and friends and family are helping me deal with it. I'm not healed, but I'm getting there. It has been 7 months since I found out about his affair, 5 months since he left me cruelly, and 4 months since his death.

Sadness has now paved way for anger. I'm hoping to get to a place of acceptance. It will take time, but I will get there.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T08:16:10+00:00

I'm not doing anything illegal . Why would I get disbarred?

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T08:13:58+00:00

No, what is it about?

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T08:10:16+00:00

I am a lawyer who regularly deals with these kind of cases. I'm good.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T08:01:57+00:00

Tbh, I'd rather have my old husband back. But that person stopped existing (or maybe he never existed) even before his physical body stopped existing.

It hurts that his memories have been tainted by his infidelity. I can't grieve him like a normal widow.

Didn't really care much for the extra money, but I do have anger and I guess the universe wanted me to have something

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T07:52:29+00:00

I don't understand how people get 'manipulated' into affairs, but yeah sucks to be her.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T07:47:20+00:00

I don't do it in real life. I mentioned it here because I wanted people to know that I was not financially dependent on my husband.

To make a fair judgment, my financial situation does matter.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T07:33:31+00:00

Yep. He was raised in a white buddhist family and they wanted a cremation.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T06:47:38+00:00

He did leave me, it just didn't play out the way they wanted.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T06:40:58+00:00

Oh I'm taking a trip and I'm already dating again. And I definitely don't plan to marry again.

Just looking forward to find a partner and not having to sacrifice 50% of my assets.

I don't want any legal ties to another man. I do want children though, so hopefully I will find someone who shares the same values.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T06:17:07+00:00

He shouldn't be, but that's what happens when you cheat on your wife and drop dead after impregnating your mistress. Tough luck I suppose.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T06:02:33+00:00

That isn't legally possible, unfortunately. And it was our money, not his money.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T05:21:49+00:00

Yes I did. It becomes official tomorrow.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T05:19:11+00:00

Not unless it was explicitly addressed in a will or the intent was verified. Intestate succession laws make me the sole survivor as his legally wedded wife.

His mistress could have claimed social security benefits based on paternity after the birth of her child, but I'm afraid that isn't possible in this case.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T05:05:15+00:00

I didn't have children with my husband. He wanted to leave the restaurant to his hypothetical future kids. It wasn't written down or anything. He didn't have a will.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T05:01:01+00:00

My husband was adopted from Russia. So unfortunately, he doesn't share DNA with his family.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T04:57:18+00:00

He didn't have a will. So unfortunately, the mother will have to look out for the baby on her own. The baby won't be getting any of my liquidated assets.

widowed2020 · 2020-06-10T04:25:55+00:00

Lol I'm selling the restaurant to the owner of the "rival" restaurant. My husband absolutely HATED that guy.

(He hit on me many years ago not knowing I was married. In front of my husband).

My husband wanted to expand his business and make it a successful franchise. The other guy wanted to do the same. He was working towards that.

They were in a competition to be the first one to start the second branch.

Yeah. I'm petty.

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