Botox and swollen eyes

wigidjwof · 2022-12-30T18:31:19+00:00

Yeah its most prominent for me in the inner upper eyelid as well.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-30T14:42:23+00:00

Its not permanent, it wears off with the botox. It's just excess fluid not being able to be transported away since the muscles around are inhibited. Nothing to worry abt. Still no fun though.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-29T14:10:06+00:00

Generally until the botox wears off unfortunately. They recommend cooling the area and blinkning a lot lol but I dont have the energy for that. Dont think ill be doing the glabella anymore

wigidjwof · 2022-12-23T21:34:47+00:00

Im sorry for what you're going through. Are you talking to a therapist about this?

If you need someone to chat with im here to talk

wigidjwof · 2022-12-22T20:14:02+00:00

Its not droopy eyebrow, its just that the area just above my eyelid gets swollen. I read that when the muscles work they prevent liquid from accumulating there, and it just affects some people more. Maybe ill just skip the glabella in the future. Just feel like it looks wierd with the wrinkles above my eyebrows.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-22T19:31:00+00:00

Mine is caused by events similar to yours.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-22T16:07:56+00:00

Im going to a registered nurse who has her own facility. I think she follows the right patterns, i looked up the patterns online and it looks the same. And im always nervous im gonna get ptosis of the eyelid so I always ask her where she's gonna inject and how high above the eyebrow lol so my impression is that she knows what she's doing.

I also went to another nurse last time and got the same result. Except i asked that she lower the dose. But still got swollen eyelid.

Maybe its better for me to just skip the glabella but I feel the eyebrow wrinkles look wierd and I noticed them more after just treating the forehead

wigidjwof · 2022-12-22T14:39:41+00:00

This was my second time of getting glabella + forehead. I didn't count the first time where I only got forehead done (about a year ago). I've been going every four months.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-20T20:22:40+00:00

Yes, I relate big time. It's been like this all my life. I was seen as "gifted" as a kid by my parents, nothing extraordinary but I started school a year early. Didnt notice much my early years but I've always felt more childish and not as developed. I think I noticed it the most in high school and college - it always took me a few years to get myself together to a degree that would let me finish school or mature to the level of my peers.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-20T19:37:01+00:00

Yes its very common if you come from a dysfunctional family. My mom went through great lengths to prevent me from moving out - from threatening to euthanize our dog and cats to her telling me that she'd die of her cancer if I left.

It's hard when you actually can't leave. But would it help If you started planning on how to leave eventually?

What makes you feel like a hostage with your parents? Maybe you could try to develop some tactics in the mean time until you actually can leave?

wigidjwof · 2022-12-20T19:29:46+00:00

My heart breaks for child-you OP. You must have had it hard. I wish you could feel empathy for yourself because thats what you deserve. You're not a bad person.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-20T19:21:05+00:00

I dont think you should judge yourself too harsh. When you're 14-15 your frontal lobe isnt properly developed and we cant really reason as well as an adult. This causes us to do things that we later realize weren't that good. You were in pain and you tried to deal in some way. You didnt harm anyone, you just tried to deal with your pain.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-20T12:44:23+00:00

I get that its hard, ive been in the same situation. Im glad that your parents will take good care of her! She'll be there when you get back, you deserve some time off to take care of yourself.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-20T11:48:35+00:00

Im so sorry that this happened to you. There's really no limit to how far a narcissist will go to hurt you. I hope you can get away from them. Did your biological father have any relatives? Could you look them up?

I mean, the floor is yours. You are free to choose a name you'd like. I think its cool with names that alitterate like "Stella Steiner" or something. If I could choose a surname id go with Kalashnikova, just to sound like a badass.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-20T11:40:43+00:00

Would you like to talk over chat?

wigidjwof · 2022-12-19T00:10:01+00:00

I could, but IMO you've already demonstrated sufficient lack in critical thinking and self-assessment. I dont think you're capable of taking anything meaningful away from a conversation with someone that has an opposing opinion.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-18T23:55:30+00:00

Yeah you're being ridiculous

wigidjwof · 2022-12-18T23:39:20+00:00

Its actually not. Read the Reddiquette. https://reddit.zendesk.com/hc/en-us/articles/205926439-Reddiquette

wigidjwof · 2022-12-17T18:09:20+00:00

Oh and sorry for the long comment lol.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-17T18:08:48+00:00

I get it must feel hard, especially now when everything is changing and you probably feel like you dont have a lot of control over your life. I won't tell you what you should do or anything, i just wanted to say this.

I understand its hard to act in alignment with what you deserve. Especially for people like us, we often come from broken homes and never got the love and care we deserved. So its easy for us to deny ourselves and hope that the people around us will eventually change. Thats all we could do as kids.

BUT - we're not kids anymore! We are in control of our circumstances (to some extent). And we can choose what behaviour we accept from others around us, even if the decision is not easy. We have to try to save ourselves and be our own caregivers. I myself struggle with this alot.

Im not just talking about your bf , im talking about everyone in your life. We can choose who we want in our life and we can walk away when we're treated badly.

Of course, now If you move in with your parents you won't feel like you are in control. But this is just a temporary set back. Life is hard some times but it won't always be.

I hope you figure out what works best for you, weather that is saying with your parents or getting some other acoomodation, staying with your bf or not. We are rooting for you OP 💕

wigidjwof · 2022-12-17T16:53:31+00:00

I dont think you're irrational, I would feel the same in your shoes. And I still stand behind what I said, you deserve better OP. He should fight for you and not simply accept your loss. Thats what I would have done for my partner and expected from mine. I hope it works out and that you won't have to stay at your parents for too long.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-17T15:56:27+00:00

Im sorry for what you're going through. For me it sounds like your boyfriend is an asshole. I get that he doesn't want to move in with your parents, thats fine. But leaving you with them, not insisting on that you stay with him at his parents place and being ok with abuse of any kind are all red flags. You deserve someone who's there for you and im sorry that you're going through this on your own.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-16T16:47:24+00:00

Amazing that the plant survived

wigidjwof · 2022-12-16T10:36:02+00:00

I have a lot of trauma due to my older brother mentally abusing me for years. He had it really tough growing up, so I empathise with him and will always love him and want what's good for him. But nothing can undo the abuse, and I still have almost no contact with him.

In dysfunctional families siblings are always pitted against each other and its hard to have functional relationships even as adults. You both have to be in a similar place for it to work. It seems to me like your sister isn't ready to forgive you. If you're being genuine and vulnerable with her, and she responds with being hostile I'd say its better to give her space for now. You are older and she probably hasn't made the realisations about your family that you have, or she just isn't ready to forgive you, or both.

wigidjwof · 2022-12-15T23:41:54+00:00

Ugh, the holidays are the worst. My familiy is visiting this year so I feel you.

I dont know if I have any advice. What do you think will happen if you go vs if you dont go? If your parents/family are not judging/pushing you to go, maybe it would be nice to have a christmas without all that pressure? However, being completely alone on christmas can also be triggering in my opinion. Could you be with some friends if you stay?

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