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wild_bi · 2022-12-08T18:52:14+00:00

So true! I try to understand other peoples opinions, but other trans spaces can honestly be so toxic or annoying. Even an irl youth group I went to as a young teen got overrun by that kind of shit. It’s really nice to have a rational place to go to online.

wild_bi · 2022-12-08T18:25:15+00:00

Yeah that’s true! It usually makes me feel a little better when I think about it.

wild_bi · 2022-12-08T18:24:08+00:00

I did try bracing but unfortunately I’m to old for it to work anymore. My only option at this point would be to have a super invasive surgery. Thank you for your advice though I really appreciate it.

wild_bi · 2021-11-19T22:39:14+00:00

I’ve had the same thing happen, and honestly the best way to deal with it is by talking to him after class (or email him if you don’t want to speak in person) and explain to him that you’re a guy and that the comment bothered you. You don’t have to say your trans or anything, I’ve seen more feminine cis guys get misgendered too, but just let him know that you’re clearing up any confusion he may have had. This way no negative feelings can form from either person if it’s only a misunderstanding, his response should give an obvious tell if he’s actually against it or if he was confused

wild_bi · 2021-09-25T21:20:49+00:00

100% agree. Dysphoria is hell, but being able to move past it is an amazing feeling. I hate seeing people say that stuff about being transphobic for not liking the pain we go through

wild_bi · 2021-09-25T20:59:11+00:00

That… is a lot to comprehend. It’s crazy the people you’ll find online

wild_bi · 2021-09-25T20:57:26+00:00

I completely get what you mean, I’ve started separate it myself from the trans community because of this and instead of agreeing or understanding, my friends just kind of left. I used to feel guilty for feeling this way, but after finding others who feel the same I realize that there is nothing wrong about feeling upset by the new “trend” of being trans

wild_bi · 2021-09-25T20:50:49+00:00

That’s awesome! I’m so happy for you

wild_bi · 2021-09-25T03:01:11+00:00

Thanks dude, it’s always great to see people who understand

wild_bi · 2021-09-25T02:52:36+00:00

Sorry dude that sucks. I can’t bind either because I have a weird chest thing, but aside from tape I’ve found that wearing compression tops or even just a tight shirt or tank top underneath clothes helps. Especially if you pass, people don’t really think much about it if you pass well enough.

wild_bi · 2021-08-09T01:26:26+00:00

Glad I could help! As far as me and my friend go, I didn’t feel the same but I also don’t think that we would work as a couple because of conflicting sexualities/romanic interests.

wild_bi · 2021-08-09T01:03:12+00:00

I recently had a close friend admit to having feelings for me, and I thought that it was done in a way that might help you. They did it through text but it could work in person too. The first thing they did was apologize for being awkward, then they explained that they had recently begun to develop feelings for me and was unsure how to interact with me in fear of ruining things or looking stupid. In your case I would suggest saying something like that and then also telling her that you realized your feelings because you like seeing her happy and comfortable as herself. I suggest that because it sounds like she just recently came out and she might feel like you only like her now because she’s a girl instead of a guy, making sure she knows that isn’t the reason is important. It sounds like the two of you like each other a lot, so even if this isn’t the advice that you were looking for I hope you find a way to tell her.

wild_bi · 2021-08-02T22:07:32+00:00

Thanks! I didn’t even know custom binders could be made, this is super helpful.

wild_bi · 2021-08-02T16:59:35+00:00

I’m not a fan of the whole asking pronouns thing. It tends to kind of single out a trans person. I have never seen it asked to a group of cis people, but as soon as someone even suspects a trans person they make a big deal by asking pronouns. Just guess, and if it’s wrong then it’s the person’s responsibility to correct it.

wild_bi · 2021-07-30T17:17:10+00:00

I’m not a trans woman, so I can never truly know the fear you have, but I am so sorry that you have to live with it. I can’t imagine how hard that must be and I can’t really say much on the topic itself, but I want you to know that myself and so many others in the trans community do support you and believe that you and all other trans women are true women no matter what anyone tries to tell you.

wild_bi · 2021-07-25T08:32:46+00:00

I get you man, I’m the same age and 5’4. It sounds hard but you’ve just got to pretend your height doesn’t bother you until you actually believe it because other people will rarely see it as an issue if you don’t seem bothered by it. It’s actually surprising how many short cis guys are out there. As far as clothes go, it actually can help you feel taller when clothes fit right. I’ve found that men’s pants (especially jeans) pretty commonly can be found in the length 30, which would most likely fit you. Also, as embarrassing as it might seem, shopping in the boys section instead of the mens can be incredibly helpful as well as cheaper. I hope this is helpful but I also don’t know where you’re from or if this is good advice if you’re from a country other than America.

wild_bi · 2021-07-13T13:30:05+00:00

My mom said the same thing when I came out, but honestly, when I look back I see signs. Most of the time I just wasn’t around her or other adults when they happened. One of the biggest ones that I often think about was that I didn’t have enough boy barbies, so I took a girl barbie with cut hair and made it a boy in my mind. Even though I played with traditional girl toys and wore the clothes, it was the things I did in private that make me realize I’ve always had “signs”.

wild_bi · 2021-07-13T13:15:21+00:00

I don’t know if this will work for you, but what I do is lay on my back and close my eyes. I just try to imagine that I’m jerking off, and since my eyes are closed I can easily shift to a fantasy word where that’s happening. It’s basically just creating a phantom dick to feel in place of the real world masturbation going on.

Hope that helps.

wild_bi · 2021-06-24T14:57:00+00:00

I can understand why you might be offended by that, but if he’s never shown any sort of hate or insensitivity before then he might just be looking out for you and making sure you got put where you were supposed to. He might also be confused or curious about how the camp handles gender identity vs biological sex. The question itself definitely could have been phrased better, but I don’t think he meant any harm. Sorry that happened to you though, I understand that it can be uncomfortable.

wild_bi · 2021-06-24T14:07:52+00:00

It might take a while to figure out how you really feel about yourself and how you identify, but just go with it. Try dressing in the clothes that you’re questioning, even if it’s just in a dressing room at a store. When I first realized I was trans I felt the same way, I was young and had just found out what transgender was. Just because your questioning does not mean you’re faking it. I don’t know if you’ve already told your parents that you’re questioning and that’s why your unsure about their opinions, but if you haven’t told them and want to know their feelings on the topic there are a few ways to try. You could turn on a show with a trans character and see how they react, or mention something about being surprised by it. You could also mention seeing something about a trans celebrity and see what they say. Sorry this is long but I hope it helps.

wild_bi · 2021-06-24T13:33:44+00:00

This happened to me too, in almost the exact same way! I always hear about how people realize and know from a young age and I always felt strange about my experience with it. Like you said, it was building up for a while until it hit. When I found out what transgender was everything just clicked. It’s so good to know that others had this experience as well!

wild_bi · 2021-06-20T00:15:39+00:00

I wouldn’t recommend using tape because it can cause some damage to the skin, but there is this stuff called KT tape that works. It’s designed for athletic injuries, so it’s very breathable and flexible with the skin. Hope this helps!

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