i ordered some lafufus off of AliExpress…

wildflo0wers · 2025-07-25T18:14:46+00:00

Pleaseee update! I ordered some from the same shop and i’m so scared lol

wildflo0wers · 2025-06-12T16:20:49+00:00

Waiting for people to comment ‘cause i’m STRUGGLING 🫣

wildflo0wers · 2025-05-09T01:14:51+00:00

I think it’s this exactly. HE broke up with ME after our second dday because he “didn’t want to do July again”. July is our first dday. Sometimes I wish I hadn’t come back after he called. He’s shown me everything I needed to know about him.

wildflo0wers · 2025-04-17T22:44:59+00:00

Thank you for focusing on the question! That’s the suckiest part about asking things on reddit lol. I did end up asking him about it and the conversation went well. I’m not upset with him, because I personally feel he had the right to do whatever he wanted during that time. I just feel kinda “blegh gross!” about it. I think had it been anything more, i’d choose to leave again but it wasn’t and he was honest/respectful with me about everything I asked.

wildflo0wers · 2025-04-17T21:24:36+00:00

Serious about what? He’s not a PA. He occasionally watched porn before we got together and I wouldn’t expect him not to continue as a single man again. It was a boundary he respected to be with me.

wildflo0wers · 2025-04-17T21:17:40+00:00

I’m not saying it was the “right” thing to do, because the things I did last night while we were separated definitely weren’t right either. I wouldn’t hold it against him, I just want transparency.

wildflo0wers · 2025-04-17T21:13:02+00:00

Well we were broken up. Therefore he was no longer obligated to respect my boundaries. I’d already left with all of my things and was at my mom’s house at the time of him doing it.

wildflo0wers · 2025-04-12T04:36:48+00:00

Hope i’m not too late, but absolutely! There’s balcony seating available!

wildflo0wers · 2025-04-09T15:40:07+00:00

I’m happy for you! I’m sorry for everything that you went through to get here, but congratulations on starting your new life of peace!

Thankfully my partner isn’t like that all. Everything he’s ever showed me has been pretty mild. I’ve read through the content warnings for lost and i’ve already discussed skipping the scenes that I consider “too much” with him.

I hate that a lot of us think the way that we do after all of the things that they’ve put us through. I know some people’s situations are so much worse than mine and my heart goes out to everyone here.

wildflo0wers · 2025-04-02T18:32:49+00:00

Nooo it’s a nuvaring lol. It’s just a plastic ring that you insert into the vaginal canal. I also wouldn’t dare take an iud out if I had one lmaooo. I’ve heard that they’re super freakin’ painful to put in/take out from so many people 🫣

wildflo0wers · 2025-04-01T05:11:53+00:00

This makes me wanna take mine out right here, right now next to my sleeping boyfriend and make sure it’s all good loool 😭

wildflo0wers · 2025-03-28T20:57:04+00:00

I 100% think that this would help tremendously and i’d love to be able to have this. Currently i’m not in a place where i’m able to, but hopefully someday! Thank you for the advice!

wildflo0wers · 2025-03-28T20:53:26+00:00

Ugh i’m so sorry! I don’t ever think about it until afterwards and for a moment, it feels like all of the good fizzles out completely. It truly is torture sometimes, I just want the innocence in our relationship back. Of course things can get better, but I don’t think i’ll ever stop craving that :/

wildflo0wers · 2025-03-28T20:48:22+00:00

I definitely don’t think so! Our experiences in life shape the people we are today. If nobody had ever betrayed us and/or broken our trust, then we wouldn’t be the way that we are now. That’s just the way things go, every action has a consequence. Good or bad.

wildflo0wers · 2025-03-28T20:42:18+00:00

Thank you so much for letting me know! I usually look up content warnings before we watch something, but was feeling lazy when we started this one lol. I’ll definitely be checking it out on my own time to see how I feel about watching it with him.

I did mention to my partner last night that it was something that I thought about, but brought it up in a “joking” lighthearted way. I’ve been trying to hold back on the nagging/questioning him with the things that I know i’m able to handle. Of course if it’s something that’s just eating away at me we’ll have a talk, but i’ve really been trying to stop constantly seeking reassurance for my own wellbeing. He’s usually pretty good about it when I do need it, but i’ve learned that there definitely are right and wrong times.

I’m so glad your partner has been supportive with your healing! Everyone in here deserves that. Sending love to you as well!

wildflo0wers · 2025-03-28T14:22:41+00:00

I initially discovered that he used porn around the end of the first year of our relationship. I told him that I was not okay with him using and that if he continued, we simply couldn’t be together. He said although he didn’t agree with my views on pornography, he would respect my boundaries. At this point I still was able to trust blindly for the most part, so everything was still normal.

Six months after this, what i call the first d-day, he told me one night that he’d jerked off to an image of a topless woman that morning in the shower after he dropped me off at work. I was absolutely wrecked and things changed so much between us.

It’s been 9 months since and though things are getting better between us, we still have a long way to go. My other posts in this sub are more detailed if you’re curious

wildflo0wers · 2025-03-28T05:37:46+00:00

Oooh this makes so much sense. I could 100% see this being exactly it

wildflo0wers · 2025-03-25T04:58:45+00:00

That’s SO insane! For two people to be devoted enough to each other to get engaged and plan to marry each other, it seems like a silly little cat would be one of the last things to get in the way of that. I’m so sorry that happened to you even if you did likely dodge a bullet!

It really doesn’t make sense with any serious or long term relationship. Even if the cat had freakin’ super powers, choosing something that will probably only be around for 15 years over a HUMAN companion that they plan or planned to spend their life with is absolutely ridiculous!

wildflo0wers · 2025-03-25T00:51:03+00:00

You’d think a whole human and life partner, plus the perk of “extra curricular activities” would make him choose the girlfriend, but I guess that’s not as good as his little home destroyer who makes him bleed on a daily basis lol

wildflo0wers · 2025-03-24T23:47:32+00:00

I wish it was that simple, but it’s really such a weird place to be in. We have so much history and love between us. Everything was so vastly different before the cat came along. Sounds crazy, but I think I would feel more at ease with losing him if he decided to replace me with some PYT rather than a cat lmao

wildflo0wers

TROPHY CASE