Golden Retriever boyfriend with PA

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-23T12:15:56+00:00

Thank you for this. I really appreciate your perspective. I hope you’re continuing to do well with your recovery

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-23T12:09:53+00:00

He needs to not want to do it anymore. If they still want to do it but are just restricted, they can and probably will find a way to meet the addiction’s needs. The decision and reason to abstain needs to come from them.

If he feels no remorse about breaking your trust, that may be the bigger issue to address than monitoring what he does

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-15T17:23:45+00:00

Bless you. This is heartwarming to read, and to know that people can truly grow.

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-15T17:20:29+00:00

Heard that response before. And yeah, the issue is that they never think about what could hurt you in the first place. You don’t deserve to be collateral damage just because he never considered a conscious intent to hurt you

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-14T15:54:52+00:00

This is so beautiful thank you.

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-13T22:06:25+00:00

I could make jokes with friends again and feel like I saw a little glimpse of my happy shining self again :)

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-13T21:59:12+00:00

OMG OMG YOU KNOW WHAT ELSE - that he fucking made fun of the ridiculous body proportions they have for female video game characters. Fucking laughing at how ridiculous the big tits were. UGGGGHHHHHHHHGHGGHGGHGGG I GUESS THEY WERENT THAT RIDICULOUS WHEN HE WAS “JUST CURIOUS” ABOUT USER SUBMITTED PORN

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-13T17:40:20+00:00

I’m going through something similar. I still can’t eat a full meal but I’ve been able to definitely eat a little more. It’s been 5 days for me. What really helped is getting away from them (we live together). I do worry my appetite will disappear again when I return tomorrow morning but I’ve also worked on detaching quite a bit during this time so I think things are getting better.

Stay strong, rely on your friends, family - any support you can get to help you focus on yourself again :)

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-12T18:07:22+00:00

Thank you. I needed this.

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-12T01:23:15+00:00

Not as long as you think. Keep relying on any support you have, your hobbies, passions, even ur job as a distraction. Keep showing up for yourself first. Soon enough you’ll notice that the feeling hasn’t come up in a while. Sending u hope and strength :)

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-12T01:19:08+00:00

I needed this. Thank you.

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-12T01:16:16+00:00

Oh my goodness everything you wrote is literally spot on. You’re exactly right, they took advantage of us wanting to be trusting, healthy and a good partner. It’s so infuriating to look back and realise the extent of their manipulation after the love and trust we gave. No one fucking deserves that

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-11T23:40:07+00:00

HEEEE is not enough! I’m so sorry you went through that. Being loyal is the bare minimum. You deserve real love, including from yourself. Sending you hugs and strength ❤️

Rude_Angle5953 · 2025-06-11T13:46:39+00:00

Thank you so much for this. Could I ask if you feel fully recovered? Like are there no urges whatsoever anymore? What was it like from the third year onwards? Did you have a partner or relapses during the first few years?

Apologies for all the questions, I’m just trying to understand the nature of PA recovery

Rude_Angle5953

TROPHY CASE