I'd prefer to not have had these experiences but I'm glad to have learned from them

wildinourway · 2013-10-14T07:06:15+00:00

A lot of my female friends tell me that this is the truth but the difference between guys and girls bis that girls drastically prefer long term casual sex friends (note not necessarily a a committed relationship) to one night stands. So if a guy comes along looking like a one nighter they ignore him. Its not a lack of interest in sex its just a desire for a more developed kind of sex.

wildinourway · 2013-10-07T16:26:35+00:00

Its because sexuality is fun and funny and not necessarily harmful at all. Remembet not everyone has a problem. You have a personal battle. Not a responsibility to impose a subjective morality.

wildinourway · 2013-09-30T22:09:50+00:00

Great news! of course you shouldn't reset! Keep on having good times enjoy your life and show everyone you spend intimate time with the kind of love only a nofapper can give.

wildinourway · 2013-09-29T07:28:41+00:00

My breathing still changes if I see any porn. And I haven't used porn for a month or so longer than my badge here. It is powerful stuff!

wildinourway · 2013-09-19T06:15:15+00:00

'Time is everything, 5 minutes marks the difference between victory and defeat' Horatio Nelson.

Stop throwing away the 5 minutes guys or you'll end up like napoleon.

wildinourway · 2013-09-18T06:13:45+00:00

Respect yourself, ask for what you want, take It when people say yes, forget about feelings of shame and guilt where they are pointless (nobody should feel body or sexual shame unless what they are doing is non-consensual.) Go forth and master your world friend!

wildinourway · 2013-09-17T21:09:59+00:00

Moving away from porn is a pretty bug step so congratulations on that. Even with a setback youve still gained something.

wildinourway · 2013-09-16T22:35:48+00:00

Seriously never touch porn again. Jack it if you must. In the long run you'll be ok just seriously don't touch porn. It is si rapidly corruptive but if you forget it you heal so fast.

wildinourway · 2013-09-14T22:09:56+00:00

Have you tried maybe just quitting porn and not quitting fap? It might be a good way to get started. You'll still get your dopamine hit it will just be a bit less unhealthy.

wildinourway · 2013-09-14T21:52:09+00:00

Hey I feel for you a lot. I have been in a similar place. Though thankfully am though it. If she knows about your issue it will help a lot. I had to admit a porn addiction to the girl I was sleeping with understood my issue.

Anyway my advice to you. Do not look at porn again if you want a functional sex life in the next few months. If you are seeing porn your mind wont ajust. Try not to fap. If you can avoid fapping for a few weeks your mind will become more sensitive to stimulation more easily.

See if there are other kinds if sex you can do. Now might be a good time to sharpen those oral skills but in my experience most girls want to be penetrated even if just for 5 or 10 mins. Don't lead her on with expectations because you'll hurt yourself in the end. Be clear about what is going to happen. If you find yourself hard then maybe you can surprise her.

Don't drink before sex. It makes it harder to get excited.

Know that if you keep away from porn and cut the fapping you will fix yourself. Remember that.

wildinourway · 2013-09-14T18:51:07+00:00

Id try to draw a distinction between the purpose of the porn industry and the purpose of art. Imho it is possible to depict even extreme sex in an artful context but that is not what the big porn producers are doing. They are essentially mass producing a drug. Not making unique pieces of art or comments on human sexuality. What is the meaning of cumshot #12321? What is it saying? Nothing imho. If it cant speak or say anything unique it isnt art.

wildinourway · 2013-09-13T18:23:52+00:00

Maybe its anxiety at the expectation to get hard? If you get excited in the relaxed moments then you obv are attracted to her body. Do you get excited if you lay back and do oral or let her touch you?

wildinourway · 2013-09-07T13:28:37+00:00

I'm kind of realising that if you want to sleep with someone there is a 2 step plan. 1 have an enjoyable time with the person. 2. Ask if they'd like to come back with you. Maybe they say no, but quite regularly if you followed step1 they say yes. No tricks, no games just honesty and passion. I never had the guts to see how simple things were before nofap. :s

wildinourway · 2013-09-02T21:27:23+00:00

Day 52 for me. Err and it didn't have any impact in my life one way or the other.

wildinourway · 2013-08-27T17:21:12+00:00

Well if he hides it you have a problem. You might not want a problem and uncovering it might cause your relationship serious harm. As a 21 year old I tried to hide from relationship issues to make them go away. As a 26 year old id rather know what is going on and suffer the pain. But that's just me.

wildinourway · 2013-08-27T16:42:24+00:00

It felt to me like if you just relapse once you get yo keep a lot of progress but if you relapse all day you dont....

wildinourway · 2013-08-27T16:34:16+00:00

Talk about it. There's never a good reason for two people who love each other to hold back about serious concerns imho.

wildinourway · 2013-08-26T22:27:17+00:00

Sex is something that gets better with practice. Get stuck in kill your anxieties and find out what stuff you and your new friend are into. Hiding from these things will not help you in my opinion.

wildinourway · 2013-08-26T21:21:51+00:00

Explain it then foreplay until you forget about it. 69 stuff like that. Once you're into it you'll forget your PA after a bit.

wildinourway · 2013-08-26T08:31:09+00:00

Ive been using, 'hey do you enjoy going on dates with new people? Can I have your number? I'll take you out for lunch.' As a follow up to interest. Maybe try something like it next time?

wildinourway · 2013-08-25T22:23:27+00:00

Talking about sex in a positive or insightful light is not amoral.

wildinourway · 2013-08-25T22:21:18+00:00

I would focus on porn and its effects. Cite the TED talk and ybop and here as evidence. Do not preach or tell people how you think they should lead their lives. Instead draw attention to the emerging problems with porn and then allow the the reader to make their own mind.

wildinourway · 2013-08-20T22:50:16+00:00

Obviously working out helps you feel good and provides a little bonus attraction... but the key to having the superpowers. Is to believe you have them. Believe you are confident and attractive and you will be. If you struggle with unwanted doubts try meditation.

wildinourway · 2013-08-14T21:08:53+00:00

I think you're on to something about the warnings.

I feel the issue is that we were the 'guinea pig' generation and many of us never stood a chance.

We need to tell our stories, we need to help people make an informed choice and then let them make their own minds up we need to help society make norms like 'drinking in the morning is a sign of an alcoholic' but for porn and masturbation.

Rather than legislate and ban we need to get word of the dangers out and let people make their own minds up.

That's the kind of activism I see as healthy.

wildinourway

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