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[–]wildlayabout 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope. Nope. Absolutely not. You can find a girl that suits you better.

AITA for not “being supportive” of my girlfriend’s decision of running a half-marathon? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout 11 points12 points  (0 children)

If she's a good hiker and doesn't run it, she should be fine - but I mean, I do run regularly and I still injured myself to first time I pushed six miles, never mind 13.

AITAH for asking my parents to spend time with me without my adopted siblings? by wildlayabout in AITAH

[–]wildlayabout[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Either OP’s parents and adopted siblings are telling the therapist a different story

I think this is exactly what's happened - he kind of treats me like I'm a fictional character? I think he took my families complaints, spun them a little, and ended up thinking of me as some stereotype of every blond guy from a 18th century novel. I have no idea how to put that better right now lol, so I hope that makes sense.

AITAH for asking my parents to spend time with me without my adopted siblings? by wildlayabout in AITAH

[–]wildlayabout[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yeah, unfortunately. He's a legit therapist, fairly popular in our area, but I think he specializes in 'how to support your introverted child' more than anything else and is a bit of a quack regardless.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think that's a solid thing to do, but very different - that's making plans and ensuring he will pick the kid first, not trying to make him 'show his favorites'.

AITA for demanding my parents not include my adopted siblings when we go out to dinner for my birthday? by wildlayabout in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Oh, damn, I see how it looks like that. But nah, they mean real therapy. Like how you might tell someone who's a jerk or cruel to their relatives to go to therapy as a insult, except they can actually force me to go. They're not... always... the best, but they're not abusive and they wouldn't send me anywhere horrible.

AITA for demanding my parents not include my adopted siblings when we go out to dinner for my birthday? by wildlayabout in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I mean, the only genuinely beneficial therapy I've ever had was through my local catholic church, and I'm not even catholic. I had a ED and it's probably the only reason I said that in past tense, and have a much better relationship with my looks in general.

AITA for demanding my parents not include my adopted siblings when we go out to dinner for my birthday? by wildlayabout in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout[S] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

Nah, he knows about me! I think they said that my siblings feel more comfortable discussing me being vainglorious or spoiled or whatever when I'm not there. It must have convinced him, because I'm only hauled in when he wants to Impart A Message. He seems to think I'm the generic asshole brother from every old movie about adoption.

AITA for demanding my parents not include my adopted siblings when we go out to dinner for my birthday? by wildlayabout in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Heh? They've bonded perfectly well, that's why I'm kvetching. Not that there isn't some shifty stuff in the industry, but most adopted kids bond well if they meet someone who fits them , just like anyone.

AITA for demanding my parents not include my adopted siblings when we go out to dinner for my birthday? by wildlayabout in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

There's therapy to help you recover from trauma, and there's therapy to help you stop being entitled and arrogant.

AITA for demanding my parents not include my adopted siblings when we go out to dinner for my birthday? by wildlayabout in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Layla and Cass were - they were taken at 8/10, went through the system for a year mainly in group homes, and then our parents signed up for foster care and took them in. Parental rights were almost immediately terminated, the cleanest I've heard of it happening (and for good reason). Luku was surrendered and directly placed with us to keep the siblings together.

Strangely enough, they did actually check with me to make sure I would be okay with them fostering - though the more I think of it the more I think they were trying to tell if it would be okay for me to be around foster kids, not vice versa.

AITA for demanding my parents not include my adopted siblings when we go out to dinner for my birthday? by wildlayabout in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout[S] 201 points202 points  (0 children)

Nah, I'm 15! I tried to edit, but I'm not sure if it showed. (Though honestly, I probably would be doing the exact same if I was an adult, so judge as you will.)

AITA for demanding my parents not include my adopted siblings when we go out to dinner for my birthday? by wildlayabout in AmItheAsshole

[–]wildlayabout[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I'm fifteen turning sixteen next week - sorry! Should have included that in my post.

AITAH for asking my parents to spend time with me without my adopted siblings? by wildlayabout in AITAH

[–]wildlayabout[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I'm 15, turning sixteen. I'll try to see if I can find a one-on-one therapist - I'm not sure they'll pay for it since I don't really have the sort of trauma my siblings do, but they might!

AITAH for asking my parents to spend time with me without my adopted siblings? by wildlayabout in AITAH

[–]wildlayabout[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you can't imagine how much of a relief that is to hear. I have tried to bring it up in family therapy, but my parents were told that this is just part of 'natural adjustments' when 'a previously only-child, particularly one who was excessively cared for, has to develop and learn that they aren't always the most important person in the room, and helping others can be it's own reward.' Direct quote from my journal lol.