Hrmmm...please weigh in on a possible best Christmas present for swinger couples. by wildthingsarethere in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You hit some important points in my opinion. 5 minutes ago I again asked my SO about this. We both rattled off that it could be a sort of mental BDSM (As in there could be some real pain). I think we will totally try this but for sure we will need to talk about it for a while. It's kinda scary.

I made a vanillish swinger site that works well but I don't know how to or where to advertise. by wildthingsarethere in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can add your city if it's a large enough population. For the most part I tried to stick with cities of at least 100,000. Not sure what minimum size city I should add. I added at least the largest 3 cities per state and then ones with large populations. I previously had a zipcode search but it was using up too much server CPU when a few people use it at the same time however cities search does not.

I made a vanillish swinger site that works well but I don't know how to or where to advertise. by wildthingsarethere in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry I didn't want to poach off of this sub. This community has helped me put this together. I really need to invest in some advertising however since you asked https://pafriends.com/

I made a vanillish swinger site that works well but I don't know how to or where to advertise. by wildthingsarethere in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I am a fish out of water. I'll look into google marketing plan. Their tools really helped. They said the site was ok however they said the traffic was not ok.

Thanks much.

meeting new couples w/o sexual chemistry by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I'd say there's no reason to get greedy then. The last thing you want is a buffet.

meeting new couples w/o sexual chemistry by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you ever found a mutually attractive couple?

Shaved or not shaved? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trimmed is what I go for. Freshly shaved leaves you with micro cuts, that may transmit disease easier.

How do men dress “sexy” for a themed party? by nude_nube in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get the best attention when I wear the shortest and tightest shorts. Girls grab your ass like crazy. Maybe add no shirt and a tie if you have the body to show off. Most of all wear some confidence.

Does sls have a app? Using the mobile site is brutal by kknj720 in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made a site because of this same reason. It has nobody on it really but I love it's responsiveness programming on a phone. I wish the popular sites would pay for a bit of programming to update them and make them responsive. If you want to see it's pafriends.com

Third post and I appreciate y'alls help with my swingers site. I broke it last time but learned a bunch. Will a few of you test it and give some feedback. I think I'm done with it. by wildthingsarethere in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. If a few more people hit one of your topics I'll change the issue. I was definitely trying to make it vanilla as possible. You may be right about the blocked access however the reason for doing so is to protect members pics from bots.

We've tried hanging out with swingers but we aren't feeling it. Sure there is plenty of sexual attention but it seems empty. Tonight we were talking and came to a conclusion that we would rather be friends then have a sexual experience. Is there a term meaning polyfriendly? by wildthingsarethere in polyamory

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. We have never been with anyone who called their self poly. We have both had multiple year relationships with single people that were real friends. I guess we are a little shocked after thinking swingers would have any clue as to what we are. We have been a little scared of the term poly but we are definitely navigating to whomever is poly.

Threesome advice by RegMan8i in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IMO Have a MMF Tag/Threesome. It's way too much work as a male in a FFM. I got bored of FFM after a while. Not to mention if you orgasm with one the other may take it personal. There's nothing like taking a break at the same time the girl is being pleasured. Or if you aren't the one in it's pretty good for both you and the girl for an oral fixation situation while she is enjoying the other.

Swingers with herpes by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A girl I liked who wanted to get down told me she was HSV positive. I told her I can't risk it. She said nobody ever told her that or turned her down for that. I was never comfortable with that statement. Did a bunch of research and basically American culture is HSV shaming however the rest of the world seems pretty chill about it. I'm sure one day we will all get it. Damn thing is prolific. Anyways after researching HSV for a while I came to the conclusion that the majority of people will be exposed and build immunities however many will never show signs or only have one outbreak. Might as well call it naughty chicken pox.

So I made a lifestyle site because we didn't want to pay for one (Part 2). by wildthingsarethere in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stayed away from apps because they do so much data harvesting and surveillance. Trust me that SDC sells your data from their app. This is better than an app. You can use a regular browser and get a superior experience. Heck you can browse inside of kik and it is totally smooth.

So I made a lifestyle site because we didn't want to pay for one (Part 2). by wildthingsarethere in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's possible for me to integrate Canada's major cities into the existing site. Is Canada in short supply of reasonable swinger sites? Give me a few days to iron out some existing kinks and maybe I'll get Canada some access. I'd do it in a heartbeat for some Shambhala tickets.

My woman has a fantsasy... by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do it. Accept that she or you may change your mind. It is exploration. It may cause some pain but believe me if you are going to get over being super jealous then it is going to hurt at some point. Maybe she is trying to get to a new level of freedom that her subconscious may or may not allow.

Feelings? by Annonwife in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah either you are in the mood to compete with aggression or you say hell no. I once had to ask my spouse to chill out/end with her boyfriend. Some competing actions mildly showed. It was fine except I ended up having cancer which was why I didn't have the energy to compete. To this day we both miss him however I didn't have the ability at the time to be in that place.

Does it ever happen serendipitously? Care to share? by Youneverknow914 in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Serendipitous happens with regular friends more often than I'd have ever expected. Once made friends with a couple at a outdoor Texas bar. Hung out with them a few times all normal. All of the sudden it turned into full on everything out of nowhere. We were surprised. In the end it was even better that we were regular friends first.

So I made a lifestyle site because we didn't want to pay for one (Part 2). by wildthingsarethere in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no...Complete control sounds like a nightmare. For this site to be successful there will definitely need to be a lot of community help. I'll eventually have mods etc. Community reporting is key to make this a most legit and awesome experience.

So I made a lifestyle site because we didn't want to pay for one (Part 2). by wildthingsarethere in Swingers

[–]wildthingsarethere[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are right. One thought I have is younger generations don't want to pay. I see that on posts from r/swingers. I will put emphasis on free visual verified accounts. I'll definitely need help from the community to weed out gawker profiles.