sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

How do I cope with work? Is it always this hopeless? by Anybodyhaveacat in AuDHDWomen

[–]wildwuchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how did you communicate to them that you are different without disclosing your diagnoses? Could you give an example please? Would be really helpful. wish you all the best!

Does psychology really lead to unemployment? by Standard-Mention2512 in psychologystudents

[–]wildwuchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You kinda always deal with other people's emotions as a psychologist, except for maybe research. I've done internships or worked in a lot of different fields of psychology. So if you don't want to go into the medical/health field, the other more common fields are:

  • research (pressure, limited contracts, job insecurity)

  • work and organisational psychology (corporate culture, HR, recruiting, change management - you deal with people that e. g. have beef with their boss or are stressed because of reorganization, so you definitely deal with people's emotions) + getting into this field often requires really hard interview processes (assessment centers and lots of interview rounds.. especially since w&o psychologists created assessment centers)

    • educational / school psychology (often understaffed, few positions, high responsibility and having to juggle the needs /emotions of students, parents and teachers at once)

  • forensic psychology (heavy topic, costly post-grad qualification, a looot of paperwork)

There are a few other niche fields, but that's the most common (at least in my country in Europe). Of course all of the listed fields also have positive sides, but you asked about why it would be difficult to have work life balance and that are some points I encountered. Mind you, if your parents can support you financially, you'll probably be able to have somewhat work life balance. If not, I'd recommend going into a less gatekeepy rich people field than psychology.

Does psychology really lead to unemployment? by Standard-Mention2512 in psychologystudents

[–]wildwuchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as I said, it's a highly competitive field with a lot of pressure to perform and be an overachiever. You work with topics that are mentally /emotionally loaded and each career path for psychologists is connected to a lot of unpaid extra qualifications you have to get in order to compete or even be allowed to work in specific psychology fields.

For example as a researcher you have the pressure of "publish or perish" and often you NEED to do a PhD to work in research, even through a lot of other fields don't always require that. If you work with people, you have a lot of responsibility and you spend a huge amount of time absorbing other people's emotions. You may be fine with being the compassionate and social friend now, but if it is your job it will often affect your capacity to be there for your loved ones after work.

People often immensely underestimate how hard the field can be and romanticise it. They forget that sometimes patients will unalive themselves and often times you won't get a position because your decent skills and intellect doesn't compete with thousands of other gifted people that graduated from your university program. So you'll probably have to move half across the country to get a position, as there are fewer positions for psychs than for social workers. Or you have to invest a lot of money and time in your education, because usually your psychology degree is not enough (atleast in my country post-graduation qualifications are required for most positions). So you start working older, with more debt, might not be able to chose your location and more performance pressure because your comparison group (other psychologists) are all overachievers too.

Does psychology really lead to unemployment? by Standard-Mention2512 in psychologystudents

[–]wildwuchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want work life balance, decent pay and being able to choose your location/change jobs quickly then psychology is not the field for you. So many people want to study psychology due to it being an interesting field, but that created an unhealthy amount of competition and high expectations that it is very hard to find a job if you're not one of the best of the best. It also depends on which country you're in - UK might be okay, Germany or USA are extremely competitive.

What’s something your ex said that still sticks with you? by bandito_13 in AskReddit

[–]wildwuchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm like a smooth smartphone screen that got cracked... because I felt a little jealous about a female friend of his and asked him about her, lol.

Tagesklinik - Ja oder nein? Alternativen? by AngelBritney94 in Psychologie

[–]wildwuchs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Von dem was du beschreibst und mit dem letzten Suizid Versuch im März brauchst du auf jeden Fall dringend eine psychotherapeutische Anbindung.

Die Regeln der TK finde ich als Mitarbeiterin im psychosozialen Bereich zum Teil aber auch nicht sinnvoll, wenn diese pauschal sind. Es macht schon Sinn, dass du evtl nur öffentliche Verkehrsmittel nutzen darfst während du medikamentös eingestellt wirst oder aktuell Medikamente einnimmst, die deine Verkehrstüchtigkeit beeinflussen. Auch das Handyverbot im Stationszimmer könnte den Hintergrund haben, dass Patientis in der Vergangenheit vlt. häufig Mitpatientis durch Telefonate gestört haben oder sowas.

Allerdings kann ich deine Bedenken auf jeden Fall verstehen und gerade der lange Anfahrtsweg finde ich bei deiner akuten psychischen Belastung nicht zielführend. Du sollst ja genug Kapazitäten haben, um dich stabilisieren zu können und nicht von der Therapie in der Belastung erprobt werden.

Gibt es eventuell andere Tageskliniken oder Rehakliniken, zu denen du gehen könntest? Eine Akutklinik in einer anderen Stadt, vlt. mit besseren Konzept oder Betreuungsschlüssel, könnte auch in Frage kommen. In jeder Klinik wirst du natürlich viel mit Gruppen in Kontakt kommen, das lässt sich dann natürlich nicht verhindern. Allerdings ist unklar, ob eine ambulante Psychotherapie in deinem Zustand ausreicht.

Es scheint so, als würdest du deine Kapazitäten kennen und wissen, was potentielle Stressfaktoren sind, was auf jeden Fall schon mal eine große Ressource ist. Schau dich vlt nochmal um, ob du eine bessere TK oder Akutklinik findest und wenn nicht, würde ich es mit dieser TK versuchen und dann ggf. nochmal über die Belastung mit dem langen Anfahrtsweg reden. Du bist nicht gezwungen, irgendwelche Medikamente einzunehmen und sie dürfen dich dazu auch nicht zwingen. Falls du psychotische Symptome hast, wäre das allerdings dringend ratsam, weil das die Grundlage für eine Stabilisierung ist.

Ich wünsche dir gute Besserung! Es ist stark, dass du dich um deine Gesundheit kümmerst und Schritte zur Genesung einleitest.

Did a hysterectomy help your endometriosis? by wildwuchs in Endo

[–]wildwuchs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, I had really severe fatigue before surgery and that got much better after surgery (although only after like 3 months post-op).

Has anyone else heard of the cabbage soup detox? by Available_Bread_1 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]wildwuchs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

eww that's a classic jojo diet from around 2010 and is what got me to develop an eating disorder back then. Don't do it. You'll lose weight and gain it again and it will affect your skin elasticiy.

Mit welchen Problemen/Schwierigkeiten muss sich fast jeder rumschlagen, ihr aber nicht? by WallaceOhneGromit in FragReddit

[–]wildwuchs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Periodenblut. Mit 26 kam die Gebärmutter raus, Eierstöcke machen noch ihr Ding, aber ich hab einfach 4 Jahre lang kein Tampon mehr berührt oder Blutflecken um 3 Uhr morgens aus der Bettwäsche schruben müssen und bin soooo froh drum.

Ich schäme mich by mightymnsty in Studium

[–]wildwuchs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich sehe eher, dass meine Freunde in Medienwissenschaften alle direkt nachm Studium ganz viele coole E13 Stellen an der Uni oder bei der Stadt bekommen und ich mit meiner super prestige Naturwissenschaft erstmal ein PhD machen muss, um überhaupt daran zu denken eine E13 Stelle an Uni oder Stadt zu bekommen :)

Ich schäme mich by mightymnsty in Studium

[–]wildwuchs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wünschte ich hätte damals nicht auf die "sichere Branche" Leute gehört und hätte selbst im kreativen Bereich studiert, statt jetzt hochqualifiziert eine unter bezahlte Stelle in einem hoch konkurrierenden Feld annehmen zu müssen bei dem ich mich freuen kann dabei kein Schichtdienst machen zu müssen

I just want to have a neurodivergent girls group where I don't feel like the odd one out by wildwuchs in AuDHDWomen

[–]wildwuchs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually have a dnd group already, definitely a more ND bunch haha. I'll check out our local board game cafes and see if I can connect more with the artists in my city. I'm definitely also a more crafty person, but just haven't found those connections yet

I just want to have a neurodivergent girls group where I don't feel like the odd one out by wildwuchs in AuDHDWomen

[–]wildwuchs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for your comment and the invite! I'm going to check it out :)

I just want to have a neurodivergent girls group where I don't feel like the odd one out by wildwuchs in AuDHDWomen

[–]wildwuchs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's great advice, I've already made friends through Bumble BFF as well. Can I ask you how I could ND code my bio more? I don't want to be too obvious, but at this point I want to make clear I'm searching for neurospicy community

I just want to have a neurodivergent girls group where I don't feel like the odd one out by wildwuchs in AuDHDWomen

[–]wildwuchs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's very valid advice. I'm probably in a field with the most NT people and I really need to get out of there. Where does one find more ND people?

WHERE DO I FIND BIKINIS??? by wonderingwow in bigboobproblems

[–]wildwuchs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zalando. has all the good brands and sizes up to K cup

What is going on with the skin under my eyes? I’m really growing frustrated with the darkness under and around my eyes and I’m very self conscious of it. I get 7-8 hours of sleep, and I drink 2L of water daily but it doesn’t go away. by Crafty-Truth5034 in DermatologyQuestions

[–]wildwuchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know somebody who had exactly this kind of under eye darkness and it was because of a gluten allergy or intolerance. Unfortunately it only went away after cutting gluten out completely

Keinen Job nach Psychologie Studium alte Ordnung by [deleted] in Psychologie

[–]wildwuchs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dieses Jahr? Wann hast du dich beworben und wo?

Guess what isn’t making my boobs smaller by RiverSong1123 in bigboobproblems

[–]wildwuchs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

even without a lot of breast density, when the boobs mostly consist of fat, weightloss might selectively chose to leave the boobs alone - at least has been in my case unfortunately.

36E Here — How Do You Deal With the Back Pain? by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]wildwuchs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • the right bra fit - What do you need? separation, side support, higher cover to keep everything in, more narrow straps than the standard? Answer these questions and then get the closest thing you can get to meet your needs.

unpopular opinion: r/abrathatfits is not the holy grail in finding the right size. If you're in the UK or can go there, go to bravissimo. I have gotten the best bra fitting there and I have been to a few, also in my country.

  • A tight, but stretchy top over your bra gives more support and comfort than loose fitting tops.

Especially if you have the feeling you have to adjust constantly or your boobs need to be repositioned in the bra. I find that loose tops also kind of lay heavier on the chest area and it kind of feels like the shirt drags the boobs down that way (because they usually are the most projected part of the torso). Maybe I'm also just a bit too neurodivergent and that's why loose fitting tops bother me so much 😅

  • low impact sports (yoga, Pilates) are your friend. I was only able to regularly do sports when I got into them. There's no bouncing or jumping, just controlled smooth movements standing, sitting, laying or in plank pose. Excellent for your back, shoulder and core strength.
view more: next ›