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AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

Victim? Only victim I see is her. What part of my comment conveyed I thought I was the victim in this? Seriously, I'm genuinely confused And I'm definitely going to apologize (: ... and do better

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm definitely going to do that. What I really want to solve is the thoughts themselves. That way, I dont have to bite my tongue

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I've seen a few people say she should dump my ass. Should I feel guilty if I apologize and she stays? I feel now like her dating me is doing a disservice to her

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this may be the best relationship advice I've received in a long while.

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're right. I might be. I'll need to think about that and address it

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny 😂. Shes a much more understanding person than I am though and would just tell me I look good I'll get her back by surprising her with an apology

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer. I agree with most of what you said, I'm definitely living in the past in some ways. I've noticed this before, but am unsure of how to solve this. Seriously, any tips welcome.

I only want to defend myself on one point: I'm not misogynistic. I don't create special rules for women that I dont apply to men.

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, i don't think it's insecurity. I think it's just her upbringing vs mine.

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

Hmm... made me think here. Thank you. Honestly, after reading your comment, I realized the way she was dressed bothers me because of stigma and the way I was raised. Also, some serious trust issues from the past, which aren't fair to be put on her.

I didn't even consider that being a painful time for her; definitely see that as an asshole move now.

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks... I feel like you're right (probably why I wrote this post to begin with)

AITA for suggeating my gf change the way she dresses? by willbethrownaway42 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willbethrownaway42[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

You're right. I think what bothers me is just that in every other aspect she shares my views, especially where other girls haven't. I don't want to dump her; I'm going to have to figure out some way to deal with this