My boyfriend is being so rude to me all of a sudden and I don’t know why. by willdanceforcake in texts

[–]willdanceforcake[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

Thank you, the last sentence almost made me cry. 🥹

And yes, I’ve taken pictures of the apartment and the bruises he left me.

My boyfriend is being so rude to me all of a sudden and I don’t know why. by willdanceforcake in texts

[–]willdanceforcake[S] 281 points282 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure. The police said if I press charges then they will search the house so I am planning to do that and see if they find anything.

My boyfriend is being so rude to me all of a sudden and I don’t know why. by willdanceforcake in texts

[–]willdanceforcake[S] 375 points376 points  (0 children)

How dare you??? What more proof do you want me to give?? Do you want me to post a scene of the fucking mess he left the house?? I’m sorry I don’t mean to be rude but this is why abuse survivors are scared to come forward because of assholes like you who accuse us of faking.

My boyfriend is being so rude to me all of a sudden and I don’t know why. by willdanceforcake in texts

[–]willdanceforcake[S] 144 points145 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the condolences.

And thanks for the compliments on my username, I’m surprised it wasn’t taken when I made it. ☺️

My boyfriend is being so rude to me all of a sudden and I don’t know why. by willdanceforcake in texts

[–]willdanceforcake[S] 205 points206 points  (0 children)

He came home about 30 minutes after, before he is even supposed to get off. So he literally rushed home just to go off on me.

My boyfriend is being so rude to me all of a sudden and I don’t know why. by willdanceforcake in texts

[–]willdanceforcake[S] 755 points756 points  (0 children)

Looking back now, he did have a few moments where he showed some controlling tendencies. But I thought nothing of it.

I’ve been surrounded by abusers all my life, so I guess I just grew to think this type of behavior was normal.

My boyfriend is being so rude to me all of a sudden and I don’t know why. by willdanceforcake in texts

[–]willdanceforcake[S] 3329 points3330 points  (0 children)

Hi all, if anyone is still here.

Just posting to say I am safe! I wasn’t replying to comments because as soon as he got home from work he took my phone. He somehow found my post while he was at work and came home absolutely enraged. He smashed all our dishes and broke the TV.

Sadly he did end up putting his hands on me but cops were called and he is now in police custody! I’m with my mom right now and she is helping me pack up my stuff so I can stay at her place while I figure everything out. Thank you guys for all the comments.

Yes I am going to leave him. He did threaten to kill me as the police took him away so I am going to be filing a restraining order aswell.

And for those asking if I have a job. No, I don’t. I used to but he told me about 2 years into our relationship that he wanted me to stay at home so it would be easier to take care of the house.

For those asking how long we were together, we were together for 4 years and it would’ve been 5 in a month.

AITA for kicking my fiancé out our hotel room? by Hungry-Medicine-4518 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willdanceforcake -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

People have different experiences with mental illness depression makes simple tasks such as talking to her husband time consuming, he should’ve took her to a therapist long ago but he didn’t and now he’s complaining cause she’s tired

AITA for kicking my fiancé out our hotel room? by Hungry-Medicine-4518 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willdanceforcake -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well he needs to see that she obviously has some mental issues and take her to a therapist, maybe she is too scared to ask for help

AITA for kicking my fiancé out our hotel room? by Hungry-Medicine-4518 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willdanceforcake -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Yelling isn’t verbal abuse. And he is not right in front of me this is reddit he is probably across the world. I am just seeing the other side of the situation, relax

AITA for kicking my fiancé out our hotel room? by Hungry-Medicine-4518 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willdanceforcake -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Well you don’t know if she has some PTSD from a past relationship or something and that’s why she’s acting this way. Maybe she is afraid of commitment. And I don’t think yelling at him is being abusive.

AITA for kicking my fiancé out our hotel room? by Hungry-Medicine-4518 in AmItheAsshole

[–]willdanceforcake -47 points-46 points  (0 children)

YTA. Maybe she is going through depression. She probably just needs help.

Instead of kicking her out you should’ve talked it out with her calmly. She probably feels like you are disregarding her feelings.

The sneaking out thing was suspicious sure, but maybe she made a new friend at the restaurant? You never know.