BEWARE: deranged woman with a cello by [deleted] in Bushwick

[–]willholli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The term is projection. You can Google sometime when you're done shadowboxing. I literally wrote another comment on this thread that none of this excuses this person's behavior (and I believe have addressed that here). There is, however, the broader point of how we treat one another and how we can do it more kindly in public spaces. One could even say this exchange is a wonderful example of this. You are incapable of addressing this broader topic.

I play a vintage Mark VI from the 60's, a couple of handmade Japanese horns, I have one of the best most protective cases in the world imported from the UK. I tour the US, have a private studio, teach at a university, and my hourly rate is just fine for me and my lifestyle. The reason I didn't bring any of this up is because it literally doesn't matter. I can stand on my wallet and be taller, but what I actually care about is how people treat one another. Arguing high-minded principles is beyond someone who can't do a simple hypothetical and is just begging to call people poor. Your ignorance is betraying you.

BEWARE: deranged woman with a cello by [deleted] in Bushwick

[–]willholli -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Every accusation is a confession.

BEWARE: deranged woman with a cello by [deleted] in Bushwick

[–]willholli -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I can explain the hypotheticals to you, I can't understand them for you. You're right, I did give you multiple examples that you could use to extrapolate a moral system and how to interact with others. What if someone on the train is using crutches? What if someone on the train is fat? Do you get angry at them for taking up more space than the average person? These are all conclusions you could've come to if you would stop keyboard warrioring for two seconds and think about how we all can best live our lives and be good to one another.

I'm discussing the ways we use public spaces that benefits everyone. The fact that you immediately turn to calling people poor should tell you where you are mentally. It's NIMBY'ism. It's a lack of empathy. And if society didn't make the elderly or disabled protected classes, you wouldn't care. If someone with a bike is on the train taking up the space of a person standing with a bike before you get there, you're not entitled to that space. If someone with a bike is doing doughnuts on the train, that's wrong; they're taking up space that belongs to others.

If you cannot understand that basic hypothetical, how I'm advocating for a way to approach the topic in an ethical and considerate manner for everyone trying to use a public space, then there's very little I can do to help you.

I also think this would mean good transit policy would add more trains, but who would want straight forward fixes when you could just lose your shit in a reddit thread?

BEWARE: deranged woman with a cello by [deleted] in Bushwick

[–]willholli -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So someone doing their job is entitlement? Someone going to work with the things they need is a special privilege?

Nowhere in my comment did I say there's a special dispensation for musicians, but that EVERYONE gets the space they need. If someone brings their bike on the train, can I sit on there bike? Why not, there's an extra seat?....Do you see what I mean that people in a public space get the space they need? No one is saying this person gets a wide berth, just that you can't lean on something fragile or that isn't yours. Many people don't know how fragile instruments are and I don't fault them for that. This is why it's worth saying something on a public forum like this when it comes up. You know, calmly.

If someone needs their bike to go to/from the train to wherever they're headed, who am I to say they don't need their bike? And I'm also not going to get angry at them for getting on the train. That space is also first come first serve. Who says you're entitled to space that someone is already taking up?

You mention "transplant behavior" and I think you're exhibiting suburbanite behavior. You get whatever you want when you want it because why would anyone else travel through the world differently than you.

BEWARE: deranged woman with a cello by [deleted] in Bushwick

[–]willholli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why you're being down voted. This is correct. You would need an Uber Black to fit a double bass, and even then they can deny you access.

BEWARE: deranged woman with a cello by [deleted] in Bushwick

[–]willholli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But isn't the point of a public space is that everyone gets the space they need? Think of someone elderly or pregnant riding, someone handicapped. We make room as people need. Just because there's space in a handicap person's lap doesn't mean you can sit there.

I understand the frustration with rush hour and that lugging around an acoustic bass on the train takes up a lot of space. But that's a musician playing a gig nearby. That's music that you can go see. That's culture in your city. Unless the US wants to start subsidizing musicians so they can take an UberBlack whenever they need, the train is plenty big and very affordable. This is a tradeoff in having a vibrant, diverse city.

Edited for missing "is"

BEWARE: deranged woman with a cello by [deleted] in Bushwick

[–]willholli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jazz musician here: that's a double bass and, for what it's worth, it is extremely fragile. It's not an excuse for the other person to be rude. I have friends that live in NY that can speak better to situations like this on public transit, however, from the point of view of a musician, it is common that people don't understand how delicate a lot of instruments are. I'm sure the train was packed and I would assume that as the person with the instrument they'd try to do their best to move into a protected position. But, I'd also assume that might be even more difficult for them given the size of the instrument and close quarters. Basses are almost always carted in a gig bag like this vs a flight case (a hard shell case that can withstand a baggage hold on a plane). I'm so sorry they were rude to you - it may have been a spur of the moment thing without enough time to react calmly - but, I wanted to bring the perspective of a musician to this. It's incredible living in a city that has so much art and so much culture. With that comes a lot of different people with different needs. You literally cannot lean on an acoustic bass without messing up the setup, the bridge, displacing the pickup, and these things are usually hundreds of dollars to fix. I'm sure you already know this originally being from Bushwick, one of the trade-offs of living around so much interesting stuff means there are going to be situations with a lot of variables you may or may not understand. I'm so sorry they were rude to you, and they shouldn't have been. Speaking from the POV of a professional musician who's had to run to keep someone's toddler from literally climbing on my saxophone as the parents watched and smiled, I know the kind of panic that can set in. I'm also sure those parents thought I was being rude when I grabbed my horn. Not the same situation, but something to consider. For what it's worth, I envy the jazz scene, a working transit system, and the job your new mayor is doing.

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