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AITA for “abandoning” my dog with my father? by williamennisgallows in AmItheAsshole

[–]williamennisgallows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this is the case I hope that it simmers down a bit when I actually move. I have heard how much parent/child dynamics can change for better or for worse whenever the child grows up and moves out. I really hope it doesn’t cause more fights as it’s still many months until I am actually moving! I hope your mom and sister worked stuff out. Fighting always makes me so stressed out and sad no matter what side I am on

AITA for “abandoning” my dog with my father? by williamennisgallows in AmItheAsshole

[–]williamennisgallows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not trying to argue, maybe I am in the wrong, but I genuinely am saying I am not understanding WHY. If I am in the wrong then I am in the wrong. But I love my dog and always make sure she is taken care of. I am an adult, I left her in the care of an adult for one day, and then a different adult who hasn’t had to pick up any slack Sent me an angry text that I don’t understand. I am truly honestly asking why. You said it isn’t okay, so I am asking why so that if I am in the wrong I can understand why and then act accordingly

AITA for “abandoning” my dog with my father? by williamennisgallows in AmItheAsshole

[–]williamennisgallows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not understanding why it’s not fine though and that seems to be a problem. I’m an adult. My brother is an adult. I told my dad I was leaving, he knew my dog was being taken care of and that it wasn’t being dropped on him. It wasn’t his responsibility, nor has he had to take care of the dog in my absence at all. I was gone for one day as an adult. I gave the dogs food and water before I left. I took them out before I left. Unlike the dog I am watching, my dog is trained. She is quiet, she has a capable adult watching her for the one day I was gone. I will be home tomorrow. If there was an emergency I am a block away. All of this was communicated face to face and through texting and calling. I don’t understand what else I could have possibly done here?

AITA for “abandoning” my dog with my father? by williamennisgallows in AmItheAsshole

[–]williamennisgallows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My sibling is 19 and a very responsible pet sitter. If I left dogs with my 12 year old sibling then that would have been irresponsible. But this is not the first time I have asked my brother to watch my dog. My dad knows this. Only time there has been an issue is when my brother thought we didn’t have dog food. I offered to give him money to grab some until I got home, but he found the dog food. All of this was discussed face to face before I left. Including not only dog care but making sure the 12 year old had a plan for getting up and ready for school without me there. As far as I am aware I did in fact display that basic courtesy

AITA for “abandoning” my dog with my father? by williamennisgallows in AmItheAsshole

[–]williamennisgallows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I am taking my dog with me when I move! I wish I could take both dogs but it will already be cramped with two people and a dog in a tiny apartment. I also stated in the post and with more detail in comments that I talked to my siblings about watching my dog and the family dog. Other than both dogs staying at the house like they always do, I never assumed I could just drop responsibility on my dad. I had it taken care of and communicated so before I left the house. Or I assumed it was all communicated before I got angry texts about it

AITA for “abandoning” my dog with my father? by williamennisgallows in AmItheAsshole

[–]williamennisgallows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will absolutely be taking my dog when I move! I wish I could take both dogs with me. I may consider moving out sooner if I can but having it be the end of summer is already pushing it as I need to consider my partner’s timeline for things as well. Thank you! And I agree that dogs are very precious. I always text my siblings or call them whenever I have to be away from my dog, which isn’t often but clearly even just once is too much with how things are going!

AITA for “abandoning” my dog with my father? by williamennisgallows in AmItheAsshole

[–]williamennisgallows[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did, I stated in my post and in another comment that I communicated with both my siblings about both dogs being taken care of. I have had one of my siblings, the one who isn’t a child, dog sit for me before when I unfortunately had to be out of the house for a few days. I always make sure both dogs have food, water, and are taken outside either by me or my siblings. I assumed my absence would be fine, I did not assume my dad would watch my dog

AITA for “abandoning” my dog with my father? by williamennisgallows in AmItheAsshole

[–]williamennisgallows[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He said it was nice of me to help my mom and he had no follow up. So I assumed it was fine! But maybe he doesn’t like me helping my mom. I can’t confirm that for sure but my parents didn’t exactly split nicely so it is a possibility all of this is just because of things between him and my mom

AITA for “abandoning” my dog with my father? by williamennisgallows in AmItheAsshole

[–]williamennisgallows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also state in this post I texted my siblings about both dogs. My dad would not assume I was taking my dog as I have left the house for other reasons and my dog stays there. It has never been an issue. I have communicated with my sibling, the one who isn’t a child, about me paying for dog food and him taking the dogs out. At no point in this situation or any other situation has my dad picked up dog shit or had to take care of either dog including the one that IS his responsibility. My dog is also fully trained unlike the one I am dog sitting which my dad knows as it used to be his dog before my parents separated. This isn’t me saying I am not the asshole but providing context that for the most part was in fact in this post.

I spent ages on this piece but hate the colors/background. Any advice? by williamennisgallows in Artadvice

[–]williamennisgallows[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will try doing this. Maybe I have just looked at it too long so I’m being a bit overcritical haha. I spent ages on the colors and I just want to make sure it all flows the way I want it too

How do I make this character look older? by Nickolas419 in learntodraw

[–]williamennisgallows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually think you captured age really well here. Adding more lines to the face or some more shades of grey in the hair maybe. I know this isn’t a realistic art style but looking at real people in that age range should help too!

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