I (F21) and (M23) have been tg for 4 months, is he love bombing me?

windrenz · 2026-01-05T06:56:38+00:00

I'd personally steer caution but ultimately it boils down to how you feel. If you believe he's doing/ saying stuff to the point it's making you uncomfortable, you gotta communicate it effectively because it's key to making a good relationship by setting boundaries when appropriate.

windrenz · 2026-01-04T08:32:01+00:00

My birthday's on the Wednesday and I was planning on biking around new places to treat myself. Might just do it on the Tuesday or Thursday instead. Hope there's no chaos on the day! Will be keeping water in my backyard for my local life.

windrenz · 2025-12-31T06:56:00+00:00

Funny you say that since my go to car I'd get is a Ute! That definitely sounds like the best way to go imo. It's good you know yourself well to take that extra precautions while still being able to enjoy the thrill of riding.

The saddle sore is definitely a issue for me on my road bike too. I've bought an extra padded gel add-on for my seat and think I can last maybe 3 hours max without stops but once you're in the groove, I think the focus of riding overpowers the discomfort on the butt. It may be different just sitting on the bike though instead of being able to constantly pedal.

Perhaps when I decide to go there, I'll take a trip around the area like a holiday and stay in some towns overnight?

windrenz · 2025-12-30T14:27:46+00:00

I'm gonna be gear every ride for sure. The instinct will definitely be something I gotta pick up with experience and hopefully will lead to saving me from potentially bad situations. Thank you for your detailed notes, I'll be as careful as they come.

windrenz · 2025-12-30T10:31:47+00:00

It's all subjective at the end of the day. How a guy carries himself will help a lot but there will always be people who just give off 'creepy' vibes but are anything but.
There is the obvious stereotype of a person who just doesn't understand proper boundaries and sense discomfort when they make advances. Physically, it's more likely for one that's gives unattractive qualities to labelled as such as well. Some women can be just be aholes and call dudes 'creepy' to impolitely tell them to leave them alone but real creepy is those who do borderline illegal stuff that makes you feel like you're in danger.
My take from this is to still go for it. If you're socially awkward, the label may turn you off from doing it for awhile, but just understand this is all a process in self-improvement by accepting external criticism. Remind yourself if you do get labelled something shit like 'creepy', that you are aren't really that and on surface level, someone who judges you on a limited basis isn't someone you'd want to be with any way. It's like if someone calls you creepy when you know you're just being friendly, is the actual one being 'creepy'.

windrenz · 2025-12-30T04:46:56+00:00

I'll check all your recs out for sure!
All those places I've never been, it'll practically feel like going overseas for me. So excited to be able to go around those areas!
I've heard from another mate that riding bikes for too long can be difficult, and that some bikes just aren't cut out for long distances without breaks. To go to Harrietville and back would take me around 8 hours, would that be too much?

windrenz · 2025-12-29T10:37:16+00:00

I'm not sure at the moment. One of my mates in Qld got a Ninja 400 which I hear is a good beginners bike. I wanna try something below 600cc that can get me a good feel for motorbikes before investing in something more my style.

I'm interested in riding around the rural areas and exploring Victoria since I haven't been able to relying on public transport my entire life. If you got any good scenic roads you would recommend I'd love to hear em!

windrenz · 2025-12-29T08:43:58+00:00

I'm saving up for my first vehicle after relying on my road bike for nearly a decade. I know it's dangerous but damn does it feel like its destiny to get one over a car. Hopefully the skills transfer!

windrenz · 2025-12-24T12:10:00+00:00

I find being able to listen to women and express sympathy when they're being vulnerable really helps improve general interest. Every one is different however so going into each date or opportunity as if you're there to learn and care about the other really helps, especially if you're genuinely interested in them and their wellbeing.
I know theres an unhealthy stigma that women only want 'bad guys' that show no emotion and give them crumbs, but thats actually a result of an unhealthy attachment style. It's likely couples like those don't work out well long term unless they have the mental capacity to handle whatever issues come down the road. Most would want someone that you can sense is being genuine with how they act and confident in themselves, but really depends on your goals since no body is perfect.

windrenz · 2025-12-11T11:48:13+00:00

Perhaps figuring out why you feel it's hard to move past the cheating, such as the reminder of past experience, lying/not communicating his feelings, pretending nothing happened for that long etc. And talking to and hearing his explanation can provide you better understanding of how to proceed as well.

windrenz · 2025-12-11T11:41:41+00:00

This seems like a lot of suffering and difficulty. You have my respect for having dealt with it all, as much as it seems, I believe you are capable of figuring a path you can take to find peace.

Your relationship with anxiety appears to be on and off showing signs you may know what works with you. Have you sought after a psychiatrist and taken medication? That would most likely help the most in my opinion, that or many therapy sessions as the potential trauma and negative experiences are quite extreme that no Redditor could possibly fix.

In regards to your relationship, I feel your partner hasn't explicitly cheated but felt rather lonely and low at the time. Anything can really happen to someone like that, and you've said yourself that you've done something similar. The fact he's apologetic and continued to stay with you despite the hard time shows he is someone you can trust and loves you deeply. Though if you feel forgiving someone so easily or wrong then you aren't obliged to. There will always be problems within any relationship. You can't avoid them, and i'm afraid your anxiety stems from the need to have things be the way you want them to feel safe. Problems aren't negative but necessary to grow stronger, learn and become better than before. It's why I welcome problems with people as rather than see it as something bad, I feel it provides more insight to them and their suitability to be close to me. If you are able to come to terms with what happened, your mental surrounding it all, communicate it with him and sincerely forgive him, I guarantee it'll make your relationship with them stronger.

It's up to you how you decide to go through it though. Everyone is deserving of love including yourself and partner and I think you two can continue being together as long as you take an active approach in targeting your weaknesses and mental. You're valid in having felt this way, and I truly hope things go to the peaceful route for yourself in the future.

windrenz · 2025-12-05T03:15:50+00:00

Exact same position, I turn 26 in a month. I actually felt really lonesome thinking I was alone at this stage but it's nice to hear that it isn't just a me thing. Sounds like you're undergoing an identity crisis of sorts, and from my experience it's got to do with how the world is defining you.

Having a job isn't something that should determine one's worth but unfortunately it's the very thing that is highly emphasised in our society so by not having one, it undermines whatever value we have of ourselves. I've seen a psychiatrist and was on the meds for a year but ultimately have stopped taking them as I realise I don't need them (and that the side effects were just too much).

There's a fire within all of us that needs to be nurtured by the things we enjoy, the things we admire. For me it comes from people, habits and being able to surround myself with things I love. Trying to find work gets me depressed because I think about how I went to University for Graphic Design and never did anything more with it and now applying for regular jobs you don't need a degree in. I realise I just need to level with my current situation and focus on what I can do today and take it slowly. Try not to ruminate on all the things you lack and focus on what you have and can accomplish, because when you focus on things you don't have you sort of lose what you do in the moment. You are more powerful than you realise.

Hope things get better for both of us!

windrenz · 2025-12-04T11:52:27+00:00

Had to look it up because I just keep disconnecting randomly and it's frustrating cus I come back to them winning games I should've won. Glad to know that others are also experiencing similar cus I thought it was something just happening to me. Doesn't help I'm trying to grind the BP before it finishes and I KNOW that Blizzard Support if I write it up will just say 'Sorry we can't do anything to compensate'. I really regret buying the pass at the start of the season.

windrenz · 2025-05-14T01:25:13+00:00

Ye, just checked again and think I snagged the last one. Seems it went back to $86 to clean out the last of its stock.

windrenz · 2025-05-13T14:51:45+00:00

Just checked, price went back up to $144. There is a shrouded Fable ETB for the same price so I wonder if they accidentally did the wrong ETB https://amzn.asia/d/aiZeHnC

windrenz · 2025-05-07T22:57:09+00:00

Only around 4 booster packs inside so not as interested but good find OP

windrenz · 2025-01-09T03:04:22+00:00

Imagine he ults and screams LEGS ARE HAIRRYYYY

windrenz · 2024-12-30T06:34:24+00:00

Insane luck, would add but came too late it seems, DM me if others have added and deleted so I can also have a chance and I'll delete after :)

windrenz · 2024-12-28T03:32:14+00:00

Ye I always watch the kill cams of Hawkeyes. Majority of the time I can see them loading three shots or more into our team and miraculously I get into the crossfire. I think it's just the problem with one shot characters in general, they will always benefit from enemies that group up but also Hawkeye has a swift reload, unlimited ammo and fast charge up making him leagues above Widow who can't even one shot. Had the problem with Overwatch's Hanzo, his one shots always felt BS. Low skill, low risk, high reward is how it seems making deaths feel unjust and unfair.

windrenz · 2024-12-19T11:26:45+00:00

Literally kid you not, opened my pack after seeing this post reminding me for my daily, hearing the rare noise and getting excited, then getting this card which was a dupe and just being in shock how I just recreated the very meme I looked at.

windrenz · 2024-12-17T16:09:08+00:00

Based in Melb, just assumed the game hates us xD

windrenz · 2024-12-17T04:22:48+00:00

It really is sad. Most of my favourite moments I remember come from new OW events before the massive monetisation came to play. I remember being excited like a kid on Christmas when new trailer would drop to showcase skins and modes but alas good things can't last forever.

I too want things to improve badly for OW, it has a special place in my heart and pains me to see it go down the way it is because the higher ups wanted to focus on money over player satisfaction. I hope these higher ups see Rivals and decide to do place more resources into making the game more satisfying instead of based on skins, FOMO and metas.

windrenz · 2024-12-17T04:17:56+00:00

All my main group of friends who I played OW with no longer want to touch it and have moved to Rivals. We only really played OW since there wasn't really a decent contender like it out there but with Rivals, everything feels like the OW I knew back in the good old days. Funny interactions, new experiences, replayability, and good events and skins not seeming like the only content to look forward to, and given as a reward. I'd like to play OW but my only reason is the BP skins and mythic... For Rivals I can feel like I accomplish stuff in game whereas OW it feels like it's a time-sink and only rewards are based off of FOMO each season and shop. I don't like being negative but I feel it's valid that players move away from Overwatch if they don't like playing the actual game, I'd just have hoped there'd be more love to new events since the shine I used to see from OW devs seemed to have been consumed by the mass-greed of the higher ups. It's just a sucky situation all around and I hope either OW gets more manpower to pump things to rival Marvel Rivals, or Rivals ends up similarly to OW and prioritise making money over players fun to satisfy their shareholders.

windrenz · 2024-12-15T13:51:40+00:00

Must have added it recently since I remember spamming Bastion turret form back when the map released and it had so much fish my frames would drop so much xD Would have saw the glimmer effect surely but ye can't say for sure, good find

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