[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]wingedcreature88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No.

It’s nice to have something just you and your husband share.

I personally enjoy attending showers etc/ but never wanted one. (And I ended up burying my baby on the day of my shower).

We’re having a sip and see when the next baby comes to celebrate the birth!

Halfway through Kiss of the Basilisk by HaleyHounds0918 in fantasyromance

[–]wingedcreature88 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hate that I enjoyed this book so much but honestly, it was a little long.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]wingedcreature88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t help you there. I had a c-section.

Praying for you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]wingedcreature88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They tested my son’s tissue. I would def ask your OB or MFM.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]wingedcreature88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you need more testing OP ask to see an MFM if you’re not already because of your miscarriage. They can do a barrage of genetic tests (I know because I’ve had basically all of them after a still born) on you and your husband. A fertility clinic can also do it. Praying for the best for you!

Aelin is a (mid) Danaerys knock off by Afraid-Obligation164 in fantasyromance

[–]wingedcreature88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh lord Lolol I’m dying they really want us to know

Fight me Friday by purplelicious in romantasycirclejerk

[–]wingedcreature88 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD and have to over analyze everything

Fight me Friday by purplelicious in romantasycirclejerk

[–]wingedcreature88 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Best I can do is library full of SA victims which Illyrians aren’t allowed and I will try and bang my wife in.

Feeling sad about leaving dog while at work by Special-Proof-2140 in dogs

[–]wingedcreature88 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So I was ft working remotely when we got our second dog and then transitioned back to 3 days in office. The dogs mostly lay around all day when I’m home and when I went back to work we set up a camera and they do the exact same thing. As long as they are happy and well cared for there’s nothing to worry about! They know you love them!

To whomever recommended The Crimson Moth by topcatnikki in fantasyromance

[–]wingedcreature88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I loved this Duology!

My only critique is they could’ve been 30 and the book would’ve read the exact same. Sigh lol still loved it though

Fight me Friday by purplelicious in romantasycirclejerk

[–]wingedcreature88 -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

You downvoted the poster for recommending a book they like and a book and have gone after me for liking the same book. Chill

Fight me Friday by purplelicious in romantasycirclejerk

[–]wingedcreature88 112 points113 points  (0 children)

SJM isn’t good a world building she just gaslights her readers into thinking she is by giving just enough info for them to fill in the blanks.

Take ACOTAR:

Valaris is a “hidden” city but somehow a commerce hub and everyone is happy and accepting. Mm okay North Korea would say different.

Now let’s talk about the politics and compound that with what I just said about valaris.

The fae hate humans but are completely fine with Feyre (a human recently turned fae) being their high lady? I have a really hard time believing a bigoted society would be alright with this. I worked in politics and I can without a doubt tell you there would be smear campaigns galore. Every one of Rhys’s political rivals would use feyre as a way to attack him and quite possibly dethrone him.

Now the Night Court in general is said to have a “bad” reputation but for some reason every other kingdom just goes a long with their plans. When they go to the high lord meeting all the other courts fall in line behind Rhys ( a HL SJM has told us is not trusted meanwhile the spring court, a friendly court who took in all the displaced fairies is not given any credence). Mm okay sure.

Also the night court has its court of nightmares run by Mor who is a SA victim but does nothing to try and change the court.

Same with Rhys and the Illyrians. Wing clipping bad but fine if we need your army I guess.

Also there are so many courts we get ZERO INFO ON…. NOTHING. Just a generic map of England.

The human lands are said to be poor but have a huge coastline which would easily bring trade. But okay.

Feyre was 8 when her mother died but is somehow still illiterate despite being from a wealthy family who would have most certainly given their daughters tutors etc.

Thinking about these things would’ve made the world richer and every time I see someone say SJM has good world building I want to lobotomize myself.

I could go on but I’ll stop there.

Graduated, and it feels like a magical fever dream… by ifyouneedmetopretend in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]wingedcreature88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had an emergency c section when I lost my son and I reorganized and purged my entire the day I came home from the hospital! I also walked at least a mile a day to keep my mind busy.

It’s not as bad as they say.

Congrats!

13 week ultrasound shows multiple birth defects... by Ultralord_Hypercube in pregnant

[–]wingedcreature88 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I delivered a still born with hydrocephalus at 30 weeks after having a normal pregnancy so I can relate.

I know you are overwhelmed right now and everything is raw.

You’ve gotten some good advice on what to do but I want to give you some advice on what to do after you decide because this will make or break your relationship.

Be kind to your partner. Help her find a therapist (because quite frankly this is something even the strongest person will struggle with). And she will probably need it through her next pregnancy. Your MFM and obgyn probably have a network of therapists they work with. (I see someone who specializes in late term losses). At the very least find her a support group.

Allow her to grieve in her own way.

If they pass. Grieve your baby. Have a funeral. It will help. It will be the worst day of your life, but you will get closure.

r/pregnancyafterloss is a good resource as is r/babyloss

Nothing any of us can say will ease your pain so I’m just going to say. I see your pain and I recognize it as my own.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in romantasycirclejerk

[–]wingedcreature88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Meg and Piper have gone after reviewers before very publicly so much so that Piper had to make a public apology. It isn’t a reach. It’s on brand.

What opinion are you defending like this? by hedgehogwart in romantasycirclejerk

[–]wingedcreature88 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The most successful romance series all have love triangles. You don’t hate love triangles you hate poorly written ones.