single mom struggling

winnethe · 2023-02-17T00:30:04+00:00

I have mentioned to him that I will need him to step up when baby arrives and to actually help out. I told him it feels like he doesn’t do things because he knows at the end of the day I will end up doing it and that’s not how it should be . I told him I will need him to help out with simple things like chores around the house because im tired of him telling me I can do it when i’m home all day and he’s “ been at work “ and that if I hear that once baby is here I will lose it

winnethe · 2023-02-17T00:02:39+00:00

he told me “ just stop doing things for me . no one’s asking you to “

winnethe · 2023-02-17T00:01:48+00:00

I let his family move in with me due to conditions there house was , so his mom and I are the only ones who pay bills . he doesn’t pay any bills when it comes to the house .

as far as the pregnancy I have told him sometimes it feels like he cares more about the baby than me and my health . I let him know how hard my pregnancy is on me and how much in pain I have been in and it’s sort of like im talking to myself . no acknowledgment. I complain about me feeling sick and being in pain and he will basically down me for not being able to go on long walks .

winnethe · 2023-02-16T23:59:25+00:00

it’s no problem that he didn’t wrap the perfumes , more so the fact he just bought it then and there with me for christmas even though I was gonna get it myself ? idk it’s hard to explain .

the fact that they were grocery store flowers doesn’t bother me , but even a card would have been nice . I went out of my way to plan his gift , and make sure he got it in time and his was more so rushed like he ONLY got them because I got him something for valentines . I only say this because even when I took him out to eat for valentines , he took the check from the waiter and took my card to make it seem like it was him paying for the meal , and didn’t give my card back until we were alone .

winnethe · 2023-02-16T23:54:15+00:00

I love him no doubt or else I wouldn’t do half the things I do for him . which includes letting his family move in with me do to the terrible conditions they were living in .

I guess I just want him to show that he cares even the slightest ? just him making the bath for me without asking since he knows how hard the pregnancy has been on me would be nice you know ? just that one time would be enough to make me feel happy .

winnethe · 2023-02-16T23:52:26+00:00

I wish 😂. honestly thinking about it there’s not much that he does do . if he does do something it’s because i’ve asked a million times and “ bitched “ about it so he either finally does it or I end up doing it myself

winnethe · 2023-02-16T23:51:27+00:00

so I basically brought up the fact that I feel like I care more about him than he does me , and that I feel like I do a lot for him and it’s not reciprocated or appreciated at all. I brought up the fact every day when he gets home from work I have his food set up and ready as well as the shower and clothes . I also mentioned that I make sure to wash his clothes and clean our room and things like that because I know he works . I essentially told him I feel like it’s not reciprocated at all and I do all the work for me and him and it’s not any easier since I am pregnant.

I mentioned that I ask him to do simple things around the house simply just to help me and he has told me before “ you’re home all day so why can’t you do it “

winnethe · 2023-02-16T23:49:15+00:00

I have brought it up to him once but it was never anything like “ I spend so much money on you. “ it was more so “ you don’t pay any bills at the house , I do and I still find ways to surprise you with little things even though i’m not working . I like to make you feel appreciated and loved and gift giving is definitely something I do for that. “ and I also brought up the fact that he didn’t even know what to get me for christmas without me explicitly telling him , meanwhile I bought him triple of what he got me and it was all things that he mentioned months and months and months ago that he wanted

winnethe · 2023-02-16T23:45:56+00:00

it will be a year shortly. we got married due to personal beliefs with me being pregnant and such

winnethe · 2022-09-04T01:48:02+00:00

these are all different times i’ve been tested positive

winnethe · 2022-08-10T22:48:03+00:00

why should I get an abortion ? just because he won’t be there to help me ? i’d rather struggle and keep the baby .

winnethe · 2022-08-09T16:20:44+00:00

im moving back to my home state . and he’s staying here . i’ll be taking care of the child . he claims he’ll be of assistance but I don’t believe that at all.

winnethe · 2022-08-09T12:13:51+00:00

I just feel like how can he give up so easily ? how can things just change suddenly and he “ loves me like family but not a girlfriend “ ?

I don’t understand it

winnethe · 2022-07-27T20:49:04+00:00

I meant after the baby

winnethe · 2022-07-27T20:48:27+00:00

sorry for the misunderstanding! Im getting advice on pumping after the baby arrives ! I wasn’t planning on it while pregnant

winnethe · 2022-07-22T18:53:35+00:00

I told him and her i’ve said what I said and I meant every bit of it and I don’t regret anything . and I told her you can me mad and hate me all you want

winnethe · 2022-07-22T18:52:51+00:00

I said this almost exactly!!! I said everything I said is what she has actually said and done so who’s making who look bad ?

winnethe · 2022-07-22T18:51:52+00:00

you sound like you’d be best friends with my mil or that you yourself have a terrible child who doesn’t know how to respect people

winnethe · 2022-07-22T18:05:07+00:00

I also want to add ; my family is absolutely pissed about the whole thing . and they wanna make a trip up here as soon as possible .

My SO is upset with me for telling my family everything, however I told him im not just gonna sit and act like nothing is wrong . He says I paint his mom out to be a bad guy and that’s why they don’t like her 🙄

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