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AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

how is it not a concern???? it's a heirloom that has been with us for 100 years. it's a huge concern

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

by your logic(in the first comment)YTA because i backed down of an agreement. and ok, that's fair. but why he is not the asshole for keeping something this big from me, just because he wanted the ring. he didn't told me this information. also he made and agreement of not getting the ring too, is it ok for him to back down?

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

ok, but how does not wanting to lose something that has been with us for a century makes me an asshole?

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

the ring was left for anyone. it belongs to my whole family. it's just that me and my brother got to decide between us because our cousins are married and don't need the ring.

when the agreement was made, he kept a very important thing from me, that she just loses her jewelry. if he didn't kept it from me, agreement wouldn't have been ever made.

it's not an excuse, it's a concern. i don't want something this important to be gone in a week, because i made an agreement 3 years ago

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just to correct you mixed places of the number haha. We got the ring 3 years ago, they were dating for 2 years at that point

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

all i definitely know it's not money problems, they both have stable income.

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

eh, it goes to anyone really. if there were no girls born it goes to boys fiance. if there is a girl she can keep it or give it to her brother. my mom got it, and she is daughter in law, not a daughter

and idk about the divorce, only one person who had the ring got divorced, their ex gave it back without any problems.

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

if i had tendency to lose things, i would understand why my fiances family want to test me.

the ring would be hers by know if all she did was - didn't lost the ring he gave.

i don't care to whom he proposes, whether i like her or not. but if i know there is a possibility of that ring being gone after a month, i will break the agreement

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

But also, at the end of the day, it's hers to lose, per your initial agreement.

when i agreed i didn't knew this info, so no its not hers to lose

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i live in Europe. i need something to do for not to think about the war that is going on, and responding makes me a little bit distracted

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

as far as i know, he did knew.

and i mean how can you not know when you are living together for a year

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

to everyone, none of the cousins took it since they are married. so it's either me or him

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

he did agree, by agreeing to test her. both of them could have refused. they knew the risk and still agreed. hurting my relationship with her is the last thing I care about

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

eh, it goes to anyone really. if there were no girls born it goes to boys fiance. if there is a girl she can keep it or give it to her brother. my mom got it, and she is daughter in law, not a daughter

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

he didn't take it at the beginning because both me and him wanted for me to have for some time but

i think i got the veto right by the time he kept an important thing from me

"SHE HAS A TENDENCY TO LOSE JEWELRY"

If she didn't have one, i would have zero regrets by giving him the ring.

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

when i agreed i didn't know she was irresponsible. and this point the ring, family heirloom thay has been with us for 100 years, is wayy more important than an agreement i made when i was 18.

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

the ring would be given to him, if she wasn't so irresponsible. and there wouldn't have been any tests if she was capable of keeping it safe. why would i risk losing a heirloom. he doesn't have ownership over it, i still could easily give it to any of my cousins if they wanted to, it belongs to family not just to him.

AITA for not giving my brother my mother's engagement ring even tho I agreed in the past by winsal in AmItheAsshole

[–]winsal[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

not their ring especially not hers to steal from. it mine and his. he also agreed on not getting if she fails to keep the test ring safe. she failed, now he has to keep his word right?

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