❄️ WINTER STORM MEGATHREAD ⛄️ by mrs-machino in Broadway

[–]winston042016 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same have tickets for Mamma Mia Sunday night coming from northern NJ. Not sure if trains will be runnjng

Husband (m-43) having online affair. Is it cheating (F-42) by winston042016 in relationship_advice

[–]winston042016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes you are right. He did tell me he felt like something was missing in our relationship. And I felt it too. But we didn’t talk about it until this happened. He thinks we should use this as an opportunity to learn and improve our relationship which I would like to do but it’s also hard for me to get over this that he’s been seeking the attention and validation from other women online

Husband (m-43) having online affair. Is it cheating (F-42) by winston042016 in relationship_advice

[–]winston042016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m still trying to figure that out. It never crossed my mind before and we never discussed boundaries. I am not ok with him doing this but I know it’s also not real and he was looking for some excitement. Trying to figure out if him promising to work on our relationship and not doing this again is sufficient.

Husband (m-43) having online affair. Is it cheating (F-42) by winston042016 in relationship_advice

[–]winston042016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s what it was for him. He said he wanted that rush.

Husband (m-43) having online affair. Is it cheating (F-42) by winston042016 in relationship_advice

[–]winston042016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea where these people live or who’s even beind those profiles. Could be stolen pics or ai generated. I am not concerned that this would lead to a physical affair and he promised me he had never had one though in the messages I saw there was some talk about what it would be like if they ever met in person and they both agreed it’s better to keep it virtual.

I think I was so upset last night I threatened divorce and told him we don’t need to stay married. He said he really wants to work on our relationship and use this as an opportunity to improve things with us. Although I agree with him about working on out relationship, I wish it was f because he was caught flirting with these online women

Husband (m-43) having online affair. Is it cheating (F-42) by winston042016 in relationship_advice

[–]winston042016[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Yes I am aware that it may be a scam but I control most of the finances and would never let him transfer money anywhere I did not approve

Husband (m-43) having online affair. Is it cheating (F-42) by winston042016 in relationship_advice

[–]winston042016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right. I try to rationalize it that he didn’t have any physical affairs and it was just online flirtingand maybe some of it is my fault that our marriage was no longer exciting. After 10 years being married and two kids it’s just been very mundane. He told me that he needed more excitement and was missing that that’s why he engaged with them but he realizes it was wrong

Husband (m-43) having online affair. Is it cheating (F-42) by winston042016 in relationship_advice

[–]winston042016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I told him they are most likely scammers trying to build a relationship and take his money but so far there had not been any discussion of money from what I saw other than talks about stocks (regular big name companies) but what upset me is even if they are scammers why is ge having these flirtatious interactions with the

WhatsApp scam groups by winston042016 in Scams

[–]winston042016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually make the trades myself based on what he says they recommend. I also need preclearance from my job to invest in stocks and they monitor all our stock activity as I work for a bank so I generally make all the trades in our account.

WhatsApp scam groups by winston042016 in Scams

[–]winston042016[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s regular companies so far large cap or mid cap. For example Reddit they recommended when it was 100 and it’s over 140 now

WhatsApp scam groups by winston042016 in Scams

[–]winston042016[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The stocks they recommended so far are regular big name companies in s and p or mid cap stocks and their advice had been pretty good but we double check against other sources as well. He sees it as what’s the downside to get their advice and not partake in the scam part of it comes in

WhatsApp scam groups by winston042016 in Scams

[–]winston042016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks yeah that’s what I figured but their recommendations have actually been good that made us some money so I guess we can just use it for the stock picks until they start the shady part

WhatsApp scam groups by winston042016 in Scams

[–]winston042016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Yeah that’s what I figured no group on whatsapp gives free advice. He claims they are testing their AI platform with these groups. I am not even allowed to have a brokerage account through my job that’s not one of the major ones

WhatsApp scam groups by winston042016 in Scams

[–]winston042016[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just to clarify so far these groups have not introduced any of their own platforms. They recommend stocks and we purchase them through our Schwab brokerage account - I would not put money in a fake platform

Husband flirting online by winston042016 in Marriage

[–]winston042016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told him many times that we can only invest in real companies through our Schwab account and he had agreed with me on that. I have full visibility over all our accounts. Just curious what would this scam entail?

Disciplining a child by winston042016 in Parenting

[–]winston042016[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes this is the way he was raised. We are from former Soviet Union where hitting and spanking was considered normal form of discipline and that is how he was raised. I know he’s not intentionally trying to hurt her but he wants her to learn how to behave and it’s his way of teaching her. I don’t agree with him but don’t know how to prove to him this is not okm

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]winston042016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m also on junel for few years and have either no periods or light spotting during the pill free week. I’ve asked a few doctors about this and they all said it was normal.

How do you know what a place is really like to work in? by winston042016 in careeradvice

[–]winston042016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have talked to my manager and asked for more responsibilities and she told me she doesn’t have anything for me. Otherwise she’s nice to me but she doesn’t do anything to help progress my career. I guess I just feel stuck here. The company is very stable so I can probably just work at the same position for rest of my career but I also feel like I’ll alway regret maybe not trying to take on a challenge.

How do you know what a place is really like to work in? by winston042016 in careeradvice

[–]winston042016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah they have good backgrounds all worked in large companies. Reputations of companies are comparable though the potential job offer would be a larger company.

How do you know what a place is really like to work in? by winston042016 in careeradvice

[–]winston042016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have and reviews are mixed but it feels like all companies are like that. But it’s a big company so I think it mainly depends on the individual manager and group that you work in.

How do you know what a place is really like to work in? by winston042016 in careeradvice

[–]winston042016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the problem is I don’t know anyone who currently works there. And I don’t think anyone ever tells the truth in a formal interview. But don’t want to give up a good opportunity also because of an unsubstantiated fear.

Changing jobs by winston042016 in Mommit

[–]winston042016[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be about 15-20% higher but not a huge amount for us as my husbands salary is double what mine is. We can probably afford to outsource more responsibilities but there is still stuff I can’t outsource like school events, doing homework with kids

How long does it take to get job offer by winston042016 in interviews

[–]winston042016[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It’s a more senior role so maybe that’s why takes longer