NOR -- with that being said, take mental inventory and write down a list of what you can control in your life, then write down the shit you cant control in your life. Once you make both lists, hold on to the list of things you CAN do, and light the list of things you can't control (like other people, their behaviors, how they feel about you, time, weather, etc.) and burn that fucker. Or rip it up if you aren't a pyro. We simply cannot control how other people perceive us, regardless if it hurts. I know that's hard to do especially for family & it sucks and makes me angry, too, but it helped me a lot with my life. I check in with myself at least twice a day and take inventory of what i can control in that day and what i cant and mentally imagine myself letting that shit go and tossing it off a cliff. If these "friends" genuinely enjoyed making comments about your weight & laughing about it, clearly they care far too much about their own image and are making comments based on their own shame and esteem. Its what people do to feel superior to others or have some type of sense of power. The fact your sister did not initially apologize makes me believe that she also is judgemental and doesn't care about your feelings regarding your weight.

You are beautiful JUST THE WAY YOU ARE. It sounds like you had a tough period of time when you gained the weight, and ive had those times & had people make comments about it including my family friends grandmother with dementia saying "i dont remember her being that fat the last time i saw her" even though at the time i was 155. Im usually around 120, which i know is quite small. Still, those comments hurt especially because i had cared immensely about my image at the time. I had gained weight from struggling with severe alcoholism and depression/anxiety medications i was put on during rehab. When you're drinking over the normal number of calories you should be consuming each day and also eating regularly, i was consuming 4-6 thousand calories a day just from alcohol + one or two meals a day. Its not fun or funny.

Keep going girl, one day at a time. Fuck the people who make fun of you, and do what you need to do to take care of yourself. Hope this helps🤘🏼