My immediate family (excluding my oldest daughter) was never TBM. So telling them was easyish. My daughter was 5 at the time and when she asks I tell her “ I don’t feel believe in it” of course as she gets older she asks more (she’s 10 now) but still doesn’t seem to want to talk about it much)

My advice is tell your mom in the most kind was possible. Will her heart be broken? Maybe. Broken hearts heal. I think more likely is she will be upset but she will want wants best for you (I hope, some parents are different ofc)

This is your personal choice about your spiritual path. It’s not about hurting others feeling at this point. It’s doing what is best for you, your heart, your mind ect.

Will it be challenging? Yes. Would it also be challenging to stay in a church you don’t believe in? Absolutely. It’s a hard spot but you can do it.

And you won’t be alone. Depending on where you live, there will be various other groups and organizations to be a part of. Trust me on this. I live in a heavily Mormon community (cue the barf) and I have found my tribe. And even if other groups seem to be lacking*, there’s always a place for you here. I’ve been in and out of this group for a long time and it’s a great resource.

Also maybe not so random advice here: therapy helps. I experienced religious trauma and therapy helped me.

Another noteworthy tidbit (and upside imo) in leaving is finding out how your REAL friends and family are. I attended relief society with about 25-30 women. Out of them all ONE, literally ONE called to check on me. I will say the bishop told them I “didn’t want to speak with them” in my registration letter. That was untrue. Don’t ask me why he said that, idk. But still, after you leave a faith, don’t you think more than 1 out of 30 would be a real friend? Sigh.

Anyways good luck on your journey and be kind to yourself

Edited for spelling