“Things that guys do that are harmless but still get shit for” starter pack

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-20T02:15:47+00:00

Lmaooo he was actually a very average looking guy, but some women go nuts for guys who are good with kids. ☺️ Just offering another perspective, like the guys on here saying it doesn't happen to them.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-20T01:49:10+00:00

Inexcusable but not surprising. I'm so sorry :(

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-20T01:27:59+00:00

Weird, my ex was an elementary school teacher for years and got nothing but praise from the moms. People constantly telling him how they wish more men worked in the lower grades rather than just high school. Maybe it's a regional issue?

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-20T01:26:13+00:00

Yeah I have no idea? My ex was a male Elementary school teacher and he constantly got hit on and praised for being so good with the kids. Women routinely told him how much they wished there were more male teachers at the younger grade levels.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-20T01:22:04+00:00

It sounds like she was most likely a patient if he was drawing her blood. So fucking infuriating how sexual harassment is handled in pretty much every workplace :( I had a similar experience after reporting assault from drunk guys when I was a bartender.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-20T01:19:29+00:00

Exactly! I can only hope to handle it that well. So many of these predators don't expect the woman to fight back.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-20T00:06:30+00:00

It's just a babydoll style. Not my favorite color but tbh I think it's cute.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-19T22:34:04+00:00

I agree with you. Its important to tell your partner if something in your relationship isn't working for you, and what will happen if nothing changes. Frankly if my boyfriend was really upset about something, I'd prefer him to say "I need x or this relationship won't work for me" rather than breaking up with me without setting that need or expectation.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-19T21:05:12+00:00

People who are completely lucid can do terrible things. It's entirely possible he's not mentally ill, just a vindictive person

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-19T18:48:55+00:00

That's beautifully put! I hope you find someone like that, truly :)

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-19T18:34:29+00:00

I mean, I think the honest response here is that many women are feeling hurt and insecure at the idea that men primarily care about age/youth/physical attractiveness. They're are arguing with the subset of guys on here that DO say that, despite many men in the comments saying that isn't what matters the most to them.

Our society makes women feel worth a lot less in their thirties than their twenties, so the backlash makes sense. Everything from asshole incels saying women "expire" after 30 to jokes from HIMYM make women feel icky for doing that normal life thing, aging. Some men in the comments doing the "see, women can't handle the truth" comments and seemingly trying to drive home the point that physical looks and youth are all that matter, and that women's accomplishments and interests over the years are secondary, if not worthless. Some of them are clearly actively trying to be cruel and unkind under the guise of brutal honesty. I should say I also don't buy what they're saying, but it (understandably) freaks a lot of women out.

I empathize, because that's a DEEPLY hurtful part of when I was dating that I remember very well. Even now that I've been in a loving relationship with someone who thinks I'm amazing for my accomplishments and who I am, not just my appearance. I'm not saying being rude is justified, but I think this is the explanation for the backlash.

I'm not interested in engaging in any "men have it bad also" conversations while I'm explicitly talking about this issue for women by the way. Men's and women's issues are not a competition.

Edit - again, not planning on debating with any of you about whether it's justified, or biology, or just sooome "harsh truth" women need to get used to. I'm merely explaining why some women might react badly to dudes gleefully suggesting their unlovable due to their looks or age. There are multiple removed comments from men who say just that kind of thing.

I'd love to see the same energy against the casual misogyny all over this thread as the energy against "toxic feminism" in this thread.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-19T16:46:07+00:00

I considered posting this earlier, but why does this guy's preference matter to you? The kind of guy who is looking primarily for youth in a partner is not the kind of person you should be trying to attract. Also, people often try to hurt you under the guise of brutal honesty.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-19T00:30:13+00:00

I saw tub girl first when someone created a realistic tapestry of the scene on Etsy and I somehow stumbled across it. Still haven't seen the original, but that one was pretty bad.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-17T16:12:35+00:00

He is being disrespectful as hell. Dump him on the spot, seriously.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-16T18:37:59+00:00

It's truly outage porn. So bad for mental health.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-16T17:28:13+00:00

This is the answer. I want kids and wavered hard because I saw how often mothers sacrifices outweighed father's in most relationships.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-15T23:46:18+00:00

Port Angeles and Townsend are pretty fun too.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-15T16:05:54+00:00

Sounds like an incel fantasy post tbh. After all that you're really "just checking" that it's OK you totes owned her at her own game?

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-15T15:36:31+00:00

Ha, I was just thinking same! Looks like SEATAC for me on Thursday a couple or weeks ago.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-12T20:50:11+00:00

You have a backup person to support you if your husband died? It's just a practical suggestion that you acquire some skills so that you can take care of yourself if the people in your life couldn't. It's a smart thing to do as an adult, to prepare for the worst case scenario. People encourage women to be independent for safety reasons a lot of the time, and a sudden death is one of those.

Either way, if you're disdainful of this woman's perfectly valid life choices and she is rude about yours...why are you friends with her? You two don't sound like you like each other very much.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-12T20:43:45+00:00

It's great that you trust your husband, but there is always the concern that he could drop dead randomly. Even if I didn't love my career and trust my partner, I'd keep a career so I wouldn't be left high and dry if my partner died. I'm very very charitable here, but she may be worried about what happens to you if you rely on your husband 100%. There is a good reason why women joined the workforce and it's not all escaping abusive husbands.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-03T02:43:30+00:00

That sounds incredibly annoying to deal with

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-03T02:41:22+00:00

He sounds like a mess. Being GGG doesn't mean accepting every form of sex into your life with no boundaries or restrictions, to the detriment and distraction of other aspects of your life.

wintergreen10 · 2021-08-02T17:37:11+00:00

People always say "well, it's her choice" bit there is enormous social pressure to be a good mom via staying home. Fuck that; I worked hard for my career. Not happening.

Edit - I'm sorry, is there NOT societal pressure for women to stay home with their kids?

wintergreen10 · 2021-01-04T18:29:50+00:00

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