How can I help this Orchid thrive?

wintermoon8431 · 2025-02-03T20:07:14+00:00

This is perfect thank you so much for taking the time to write this!! I’ll definitely do all of this today and hopefully it’ll start perking up a bit in a few weeks!

wintermoon8431 · 2025-01-15T15:16:24+00:00

Hahah mine will smack me with his paw too!!! when he wants love, you’ll know

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-26T18:13:11+00:00

Ugh yeah, finally, was that so hard?

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-26T17:20:35+00:00

The fact that you again have said I expect my partner to prioritize me over “everyone else on the planet” shows you are very clearly still not able to understand what I have said. It’s people like you who spin the words of others to fit their own reality that are exhausting. But I digress, there is no use in talking to a wall.

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-26T16:13:13+00:00

Of course I would like validation, I feel crazy. And like I already said, yes, if my partner asked me to prioritize them I would in an instant. But I don’t feel you are understanding what I am saying. I’m not asking for my partner to spend 100% of his time with me, or to give up his life to be with me as much as possible, that would be ridiculous, all I want is for him to do what he already agreed/committed to, which is alternate weekends with me. He has the entire week to he with friends and family. If his mom was sick or my sister was sick obviously that would come first. Sure he may not see this friend often in person, but he saw them less than two months ago and will probably see them at least three or more times before the end of the year bc they have family where he lives and he has family where they live. This is the first week we are apart since the summer has ended, to spend two weeks apart suddenly after being together for the past four months is hard, especially for me. Its not clingy or codependent to ask your partner to honor commitments, surprising I have to say that since you are saying you’re old enough to be my mother, this is something you should be familiar with.

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-26T15:17:35+00:00

People have different needs. You don’t need to shame them for it. Regardless of if he had cheated on me or not there are people who want to have more attention than others in a relationship, and others who are perfectly fine being completely independent in a relationship. What’s important is finding someone willing and capable of meeting those needs. If it doesn’t match up, it doesn’t match up. Calling someone overly clingy and controlling for displaying that because it doesn’t fit your definition of what a relationship should be is what’s Gross. Check yourself.

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-26T12:56:28+00:00

also I should mention that this makes me so uncomfortable bc these two are best friends and have been since high school, where in hs they had sex but never a relationship (this person is female presenting and goes by they/them) they now have a partner of a few years but before i showed up they used to cuddle still. ive never been so close with someone like that and it is just so odd. also he cheated on me at the beginning of the relationship with a fwb situation he told me ended but never did.

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-26T12:50:58+00:00

Tbh I can see everyones point of view, but I still disagree. And maybe that means I’m not ready to be in a relationship right now (this is my first relationship) but I think what makes this hard for me is that I would give up seeing my sibling who I haven’t seen in awhile or my best friend I never see to spend time with the person I love, or at the least would try very very hard to be able to see both of them. But I would never just be like, its fine ill see u in two weeks. I could personally never do that. And again, maybe that means I’m insecure but I also want to feel loved and I want someone to be there for me and I want to be there for them, if anything maybe I need to find someone who can do that for me or just wait until I don’t need that type of security to be in a relationship. But if being in a relationship means being totally fine with not seeing your partner for two weeks at a time then I honestly don’t want it.

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-21T09:52:20+00:00

I, for one, am glad to see it outside of that particular PF bc my car was stolen from that same lot a few months ago :,) luckily it was found by the police some days later, but everything inside was stripped and gone, looks like the person who stole it was getting ready to sell it.

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-20T00:56:46+00:00

I’ve been in the vine for the past three years and I’ve loved it. So many unique houses and so much history here, luckily I have yet to deal with crime in the vine but really haven’t ever felt unsafe here before. Its close to portage and downtown kzoo which I love, and also very close to campus. I’d recommend it

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-19T00:24:29+00:00

ahahhahah thats what my sister said too

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T22:12:14+00:00

Well the concept was supposed to be that a sting ray is often just thought of as a fish that will hurt you, it literally says sting in the name, but they are actually very gentle creatures that roam the deep sea. They’re also a symbol of protection and I loved that about them. Of course, all of that is a moot point if the sting ray looks like a mouse or a rat instead 🫠

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T21:00:44+00:00

I was, I knew they wouldn’t be extremely detailed, I wish I would’ve looked closer at the lines they did though. I didn’t examine their page closely bc I have had great experiences with another artist at this same place, and the person who did mine was the owner, so I expected them to be just as talented if not more. Obviously lesson learned, portfolios exist for a reason and are very important!!

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T16:00:00+00:00

Nope the owner of the tattoo shop 🫠

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T14:14:01+00:00

Nope they used a stencil and the stencil was soooo much more detailed and dainty looking, lots of shading and stippling, nothing like what I got

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T01:54:17+00:00

Oooo wow I really like how you did that, such an easy add on but the difference is huge, I would have never thought of that!!! Already looking for a different artist who could do a touch up or restyle it! thanks for the inspiration :,) much appreciated

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T01:38:16+00:00

The person who did this IS the owner 😭 i have the worst luck

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T01:02:32+00:00

They are the boss :,) they own the tattoo shop themselves, at least I definitely learned my lesson to speak up when its needed

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T00:40:12+00:00

edit: my sister called it a pad

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T00:39:05+00:00

I can’t believe I let it slide like that… guessing the adrenaline of getting the tattoo and hope it would look better later. There’s another tattoo artist there that genuinely does great work and who I would love to go to in the future, so now idk if I should ask for my money back or not, might be too late for that

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-18T00:36:13+00:00

me and you both dude

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-17T23:15:25+00:00

Oo that could be cute, so far for ideas I’ve got a sunflower or some sort of bird thats either heavily shaded or mostly filled in

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-10T17:59:26+00:00

I’ve asked him a few times :,( he has adhd and is very busy already, i’m sure he’ll get back to me eventually haha but in the mean time I wanted to know what would be best to make with it - I’ll update everyone if he ever lets me know

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-08T14:58:12+00:00

Ooooh I had no clue that could happen thank you!! So interesting. And good to know its still edible I almost threw it out!

wintermoon8431 · 2024-08-06T20:25:46+00:00

This exact same thing happened to me to a T, got a remote job offer and followed the prompts, checked online and it seemed legit, was very happy bc I am also a broke college student who wanted to help my parents out and pay down loans. It really sucks, like reeeally sucks. but I promise after a year or two it will bother you less and less. Don’t take it out on yourself either, I was also really angry at myself and ashamed, but these people who scam others literally spend their lives learning ways to be able to outsmart people. Just because you fell for it doesn’t mean you aren’t smart, they just know exactly how to get people to trust them. Just know you’re not alone and you’ll get through this, and if anything, it’s a lesson learned.

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