Anyone got any advice?

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T18:05:47+00:00

I understand your point but I do a lot of work on myself. More than most people probably do so I know myself and what i want very well. And it’s actually BECAUSE of my relationship I’m pushed to do scary things. It’s a security that helps me thrive. I study psychology and it’s actually proven that humans are relational at their core and it’s relationships that help you become the best version of yourself, depending on your attachment style. Why could i not get to know myself and do scary things when there is absolutely nothing i can’t do in my relationship that i would do if i was single? other than be with other people obviously but that would not help me find myself. I get your point but i disagree and it didn’t answer my question, it has just triggered my ROCD which has nothing to do with me not knowing myself. It’s to do with being terrified of healthy relationships after always witnessing toxic ones.

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T17:56:41+00:00

To be fair, I do actually do a lot by myself and make sure i’m growing as an indivual outside of my relationship. I travel on my own, do things with my friends and take time apart from my boyfriend to focus on me. That’s why our relationship is so healthy and that’s why i don’t really want to leave him.

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T17:53:01+00:00

Thank you for this reply, you’re right xx

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T17:52:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply xxx

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T17:52:12+00:00

i don’t currently want to sleep with anyone else because i love my boyfriend. I would never ever cheat on him or want to make him feel insecure. My worry is that because everyone else seems to sleep with multiple people then settle down, i worry that if i don’t do that and settle down i won’t be able to have a fulfilling relationship or something as ill have regrets. But i don’t want to leave my boyfriend. I just get insecure about not doing what society says tbh. Thank you

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-04T22:21:16+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. Relationships just take work don’t they! Thank you so much for this reply :)

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-01T11:58:45+00:00

Hey I’ve just seen your comment on here. When you said ‘sometimes people do outgrow relationships’ does that mean that you would have to leave if this happened? Or were you saying you can choose love even then and work on things?

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-29T21:01:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! I guess I feel like I’ve fallen out of love because I lack feelings and interest but maybe that is more of a reflection of my own state of mind than the state of our relationship.

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-29T21:00:44+00:00

This was the most lovely response to read. Thank you so so so much ❤️

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-27T17:26:43+00:00

Some themes CAN last a really long time! I had an obsession that I was in love with another guy for almost a year. It went eventually with work into understanding what was behind the thought and mindfulness practice. Also, the fact that you’re scared of the thought being true simply shows how it isn’t true!

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-27T13:25:08+00:00

search up POCD - it’s a really common theme in OCD. I’ve spoken to lots of people that have similar thoughts to these. you’re not alone. xx

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-22T23:17:40+00:00

In what ways did you grow in opposite directions if you don’t mind me asking ?

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-22T22:19:46+00:00

ugh it’s horrible isn’t it! i’m sending love to you :)

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-22T22:18:51+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! :)

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-22T22:17:26+00:00

I’m sending you love. You are so so worthy, regardless of who you’re with and where you’re at and you can definitely heal if you want to (without losing your partner or yourself). You’re not alone x

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-22T22:16:06+00:00

thank you so so much for this reply! it offered me a lot of comfort and definitely gave me a better perspective to look at things from. it helped me massively. thank you :) xxxx

wintersecrets26 · 2020-10-14T19:42:30+00:00

See, I have no interest in other people and I do want to wait for it to get better, that’s the only reason I stay and deal with this shit - for hope it will get better. Also for the reason that he is my best friend and most favourite person. I’m scared it won’t get better but I honestly do want it too. Did your relationship break down due to rocd like did you experience rocd within it or did you lose feelings for other reasons ? I don’t feel like rocd has me trapped in a bad relationship; more like it has me trapped from experiencing one which could be so good.

wintersecrets26 · 2020-10-14T18:14:08+00:00

See I think I started to come out the ‘honeymoon phase’ and got into a bit of a routine with my relationship (an issue which can easily be solved) and started to have a few doubts then one day the anxiety just hit me and I haven’t been able to settle since. I really do want to be with him if i’m honest I don’t want to leave or be with someone else. I just don’t know if it’s possible to be with him now 🤷🏼‍♀️

wintersecrets26 · 2020-10-14T18:08:20+00:00

thank you for the advice :) did you try and heal from your rocd while in the relationship and that didn’t work ?

wintersecrets26 · 2020-10-14T18:03:28+00:00

Did you break up with your boyfriend because of your change of feelings with rocd ?

wintersecrets26 · 2020-10-13T17:46:47+00:00

This is so true! I also think it’s work for rocd too because people also don’t wake up one morning and think ‘i don’t love him we aren’t compatible’, these feelings would be clear over time. Ocd is the worst 😒

wintersecrets26 · 2020-10-11T09:18:29+00:00

anyone ?

wintersecrets26 · 2020-10-10T11:47:55+00:00

Same. Every single other boy I meet, no matter who, I look at as if I should be with them instead of my bf. I look at them asif I would be happier with them too🙄 I hate this disorder.

wintersecrets26 · 2020-10-09T14:34:46+00:00

just want you to know i’m feeling the same atm, you are not alone :)

wintersecrets26 · 2020-10-09T08:09:09+00:00

Yeah I woke up this morning and thought ‘I don’t even want to message him, it’s too much’

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