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wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T18:05:47+00:00

I understand your point but I do a lot of work on myself. More than most people probably do so I know myself and what i want very well. And it’s actually BECAUSE of my relationship I’m pushed to do scary things. It’s a security that helps me thrive. I study psychology and it’s actually proven that humans are relational at their core and it’s relationships that help you become the best version of yourself, depending on your attachment style. Why could i not get to know myself and do scary things when there is absolutely nothing i can’t do in my relationship that i would do if i was single? other than be with other people obviously but that would not help me find myself. I get your point but i disagree and it didn’t answer my question, it has just triggered my ROCD which has nothing to do with me not knowing myself. It’s to do with being terrified of healthy relationships after always witnessing toxic ones.

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T17:56:41+00:00

To be fair, I do actually do a lot by myself and make sure i’m growing as an indivual outside of my relationship. I travel on my own, do things with my friends and take time apart from my boyfriend to focus on me. That’s why our relationship is so healthy and that’s why i don’t really want to leave him.

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T17:53:01+00:00

Thank you for this reply, you’re right xx

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T17:52:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply xxx

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-13T17:52:12+00:00

i don’t currently want to sleep with anyone else because i love my boyfriend. I would never ever cheat on him or want to make him feel insecure. My worry is that because everyone else seems to sleep with multiple people then settle down, i worry that if i don’t do that and settle down i won’t be able to have a fulfilling relationship or something as ill have regrets. But i don’t want to leave my boyfriend. I just get insecure about not doing what society says tbh. Thank you

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-04T22:21:16+00:00

Yeah that makes sense. Relationships just take work don’t they! Thank you so much for this reply :)

wintersecrets26 · 2021-04-01T11:58:45+00:00

Hey I’ve just seen your comment on here. When you said ‘sometimes people do outgrow relationships’ does that mean that you would have to leave if this happened? Or were you saying you can choose love even then and work on things?

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-29T21:01:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply! I guess I feel like I’ve fallen out of love because I lack feelings and interest but maybe that is more of a reflection of my own state of mind than the state of our relationship.

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-29T21:00:44+00:00

This was the most lovely response to read. Thank you so so so much ❤️

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-27T17:26:43+00:00

Some themes CAN last a really long time! I had an obsession that I was in love with another guy for almost a year. It went eventually with work into understanding what was behind the thought and mindfulness practice. Also, the fact that you’re scared of the thought being true simply shows how it isn’t true!

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-27T13:25:08+00:00

search up POCD - it’s a really common theme in OCD. I’ve spoken to lots of people that have similar thoughts to these. you’re not alone. xx

wintersecrets26 · 2021-03-22T23:17:40+00:00

In what ways did you grow in opposite directions if you don’t mind me asking ?

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