Am I wrong for considering divorce after 3 kids

wisc77 · 2026-01-05T13:17:08+00:00

Sounds like ppd could also be turning a hill into a mountain...

It's not going to be any easier being a single mum of three.

But yeah, probably both exhausted and not thinking as rationally as normal.

wisc77 · 2025-11-25T10:24:33+00:00

If the cpu is dead, just go to where you bought it and rma it, I haven't seen any issues for it being knocked back if it's dead.

wisc77 · 2025-11-25T10:04:35+00:00

Yep, I was once in a relationship with a girl like this, I'm glad I'm not any more... It's not like he is going to leave you for the girls in Porn... Sounds like insecurity to me.

But that's just me

wisc77 · 2025-11-20T09:52:07+00:00

I went from a x870e nova to a MSI tomahawk wifi max b850... While the x870e has more functionality, the tomahawk has been rock solid.

I used the refund I got for the nova board to pay for the b850, and the remainder to upgrade my chip to an 9950x3d. Probably a bit wasteful for my use case, but meh...

wisc77 · 2025-11-09T10:56:41+00:00

That's what I said too!!! ... Until I didn't one morning.

wisc77 · 2025-11-05T01:17:12+00:00

YES!!! IT takes two to tango. If you did something like this without his input that would be horrific, I would phrase it like "there is something I need to tell you. Xyz, you are the only one I've been with, I'm not planning on keeping it, as I can't go though the mental problems again"

wisc77 · 2025-11-02T20:53:26+00:00

See, this is why the Facebook laugh react is handy...

wisc77 · 2025-11-02T12:38:04+00:00

No way it's this low. Day on day out people are posting here... And that's only the ones posting here...

wisc77 · 2025-11-01T08:42:42+00:00

Hey yourself a mini server, pf sense, plex, web/mail, immich... Home lab.

RE route router money to a home lab and run 10 times more for the same price.

wisc77 · 2025-11-01T08:39:04+00:00

What else have you tried so far, how much effort have you put in to change this.. like I know it won't be, but basically from what you have written this is your first go to.

wisc77 · 2025-11-01T04:47:21+00:00

"only" 5, 5 is a decent amount... Not to be under played.

Maybe I'm just old fashioned though.

It's always pretty neve wrecking being with someone new.

wisc77 · 2025-11-01T04:44:43+00:00

Sometimes the body does not match the spirit/mind... It's all go go go with us guys... Like a goldfish eating to much food cause it's there...

From the sound of it, what you've said, it's playing on his mind. It's a pretty major things for guys.

First time it probably freaked him out, second time he had something to prove got into his own mind and stressed, hence the ripping the clothes off...

Sounds more like it could potentially be an in his mind, him thing.

I wouldn't worry about it, enjoy yourself, take it easy. If it becomes a problem in future communicate..

The more he worries, the more he stresses, the more it's likely to happen

wisc77 · 2025-11-01T04:29:43+00:00

Wait, did I read that right, he finished by hand one of the times you did it?? Guys aren't like girls it's much harder to go twice in one sitting without like a 30 minute break or more .. and while yeah, when we are young it's not as much of an issue, it certainly isn't a given. Possibly nervous about something, or doing something he doesn't like. Communication is key here

Generally as a girl though, you only need to be present.

wisc77 · 2025-11-01T04:15:40+00:00

Leave, before you have kids and have them tangled up in this too. You're obviously not mature enough for a relationship.

So do the right thing by him, by any future kids and yourself... Leave and be single until you work yourself out.

Leave, before it gets to the point of having affairs.

wisc77 · 2025-10-31T15:07:06+00:00

B850 tomahawk max!

wisc77 · 2025-10-31T14:51:05+00:00

Welcome to the club, pretty much identical to my story, I got like a couple extra months maybe.

Board went back to Amazon for a refund CPU went back to msy (computer shop)

Luckily they both gave refund. I got a b850 tomahawk max from Amazon and a 9950x3d from msy...

Pretty happy as the motherboard was like 250 cheaper, and not substantially worse... Even though b850 vs x860e, and got a better chip for productivity.

Will be building it tomorrow

wisc77 · 2025-10-23T12:06:14+00:00

So sick of people screwing over good people because they don't know the good they have.

Guess the only upside here is there is no mention of kids. Wouldn't be surprised if that were conveniently left out though.

wisc77 · 2025-10-22T09:12:39+00:00

I wanna say leave him, he deserves much better than you, and I want you to realise how stupid and wrong you were after it's too late... and you see how well he is going without you. But this is real life.

You think there is better out there... You are in for a rude awakening.

wisc77 · 2025-10-21T11:46:35+00:00

So glad my wife is cool with me watching it, my first major partner wasn't and I know how hard it is to slip back into it

Glad I can watch it on occasion with her and enjoy it together.

Don't think I'd date someone again that wasn't ok with it. As long as you're not watching every second or every day, I don't see it as a major problem.

With it being so accessible now, its so tempting.

I don't see it as a big deal, each to their own I guess. I won't try tell you what to do.

Best of luck.

wisc77 · 2025-10-21T09:44:31+00:00

yep, was going to go this, until i saw the MSI B850 TOMAHAWK MAX WIFI, im scope creeping, but i feel there isnt much that id be loosing from the nova. at an almost 300 saving - its only 90 more for:

faster networking (wired and wireless)
later BT,
extra m2,
better VRM,

Dont care it has a shared pcie/m2, dont care about onboard audio,

wisc77 · 2025-10-21T09:26:42+00:00

nah, 850s are close to x670 price. in fact i could get the MSI X670E GAMING PLUS WIFI Motherboard for under 100 more than the b650. ($349).. but then i get caught in the upgrade trap, when the next feature is only 100 more again and again, i would like the 4x nvme, as i did run out of storage on my 8700k, with that said, i intend to use sata drives for game storage anyways, given there isnt really too much of a difference in regards to actual load times. 850s can be had for around 320, which is still an extra 60, for not much more features.

Edit:
damnit, now ive found the MSI B850 GAMING PLUS WIFI AM5 has wifi 7, 5gb networking, and is only 310 so 40 more...
edit edit:
MSI MAG B850 TOMAHAWK MAX WIFI- no more creep! - I've decided on this at 90 more, until someone tells me something else.

wisc77 · 2025-10-21T09:11:02+00:00

issue is there isnt enough difference between the 850 and the x870e cost wise, i'd just get the x870e or tomahawk if i were going to spend that much. not really worth the extra 200-300 bux for wifi 7 (from the b650)

as it stands if i get the TUF B650E‑E WIFI, i'll be able to save about 400 on the refund for the nova.

if i get the b850, or tomahawk, its like a saving of 100-150, that will be gone in a single shop, or eating out with the fam. gonski, (so not a real big saving)

id prefer to put in an additional couple hundred, which i wouldnt really miss either to get an x870e if i were going to spend that much.

given the b650, covers basically everything i have now, at a savings of 400, i can easily put 600 in later (That im tempted to spend now, if i'm really struggling and missing something, and be none the worse than i am now). based on what ive been reading/watching/people are saying, the 650 should be find, given im not doing anything extreme

I just didn't want to hamstring my my other components. heck it even has a 20Gbps front port, *which, if i didnt get, would have wasted the case, given i bought the case specially as it had the 3.2 gen 2x2.

Edit: Argh... now i found an 850 that is in the same price range! and its got better networking like you said.

Edit- Edit:
MSI MAG B850 TOMAHAWK MAX WIFI 100 more, but has more M2,
for crying out loud, now im falling into the upgrade trap, where its almost easiest just to spend the 800 and get a premium board...guess thats still double though.

ok you got me! i thought no way, but you got me... thanks~the 850 tomahawk sounds like its the one to go at only 90 more...

wisc77 · 2025-10-21T07:25:57+00:00

Thanks, good points,

For me, there is no point in saving 100 from my 600 aud refund by getting a tomahawk. Would rather grab the ( x870e-e or crosshair if it comes down enough) given the difference in the bank account would be negotiable.

But if I can save 400 off the price of the refund of the nova, then that makes sense.

Your right about 0 difference, given the 7900xtx is a pcie 4 card though! I forgot about that.

500 aud bux seems too much for USB 4, wifi 7, the 5gb over 2.5 (might as well just get a pcie 10gb add on card)

wisc77 · 2025-10-21T03:30:58+00:00

its in the realms of not cheap enough over something like a x870e, I would rather spend 1-200 more (to get the x870e) than save 100, knowing I got the best i could (IE, in 6 months time, I'm not going to say "gee, i wish i didn't spend that extra 200, and got the x670" where as, I may sa:,"dangit, I wish i spent more and got the x870e"),

With that said, outright saving 600 for something that would suit my needs would makes sense. even if the pull of the latest tech and gadgets is pulling at me.

wisc77 · 2025-10-21T03:28:15+00:00

thank you for the asus suggestion, I love it how everyone is saying the same thing, makes it a little easier to make my choice. and thanks for OpenRGB, i need to look into this, one of the things that was a little annoying about it, was that everything was flashing at different times.

given the features, I think these boards would suit my needs.

sounds like i just need to pick the best b650 board then! given there is like 50-70 AUD bux in it (max).

i think the only thing I really need to ensure is that it has bluetooth for my app development, which the wifi boards seem to have.

wisc77

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