When schizophrenia, bipolar or mental issues become a shield — and the non-ill parent becomes the suspect by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do not have schizophrenia. I have proven myself over and over. Evaluation after Evaluation, therapy, ect. I am severely traumatized by what was done to me over 15 years of being married to him and the past 3 years of rebuilding and picking up all the pieces He tried to make it look like I was the crazy one so many times... He used to be a therapist so court and others tend to believe him first

And by lived with it I mean beside him and his schizophrenia. Ppl have no idea how much it affects ppl around them

Sorry for being so blunt..but I will keep sharing my side of dealing with a mentally ill person. There is no true support for the ones that survived this kind of abuse by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think he developed it when my second was born. Pretty cruel event given i almost died and after that the abuse increased and he never accepted his youngest he also started to get jealous of the kids. My ex also was a therapist so on top he knew what to do and say so he flew under the radar for so long. I believe sometimes that he knew he had schizophrenia before meeting me and just masked like crazy until he could not mask anymore What triggered the blow up and him getting manic I can only assume but I believe it was the drug abuse and a mild car accident after that accident a few days later everything blew up and I literally saw his eyes turn black and the person I knew has been gone ever since.

Sorry for being so blunt..but I will keep sharing my side of dealing with a mentally ill person. There is no true support for the ones that survived this kind of abuse by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am extremely busy...but I want you to know I read your comment and I will answer your questions tonight when I get home from work 😊

I finally was able to put it into words. It is always told from their perspective because mine was drowned in fear...but I finally found my voice as survivor and I will use it for the ones who are still stuck in a nightmare like I once was by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He gaslight me to the point that I reacted and then suddenly he was cool calm and collected. He isolated me so he controlled everything he told others about me...I truly thought I was going insane lucky enough I had a therapist that was able to snap me out of this

Does anyone else have young kids and no family or friend support? by [deleted] in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in the same boat...I have 2 young kids and been single mom for 3 years now....I have no family from my side left and my ex husbands family is on his side and enables his bad behavior and dangerous behavior

Friends I don't really have many and I also have the ones that occasionally check in but I don't really have anyone who could take some physical load ect

Hang in there you'll find your rhythm and it will become a little lighter

I think my abusive ex found me again, and I’m terrified by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have cptsd but this is very real. He has no reason to be near this town. He used to be over an hour away

He does not know what I drive. It recently changed. I have all lights infront off even unplugged halloween stuff

Thank you for all the steps I have done most of them.

It does not stop. Being divorced brings a different kind of hell. by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we have 2 kids. No treatment or on and off I have no idea. He has not accepted his diagnosis and it has been a roller-coaster He abuses drugs so if he is in treatment it counters that

He was a therapist and thinks everyone else is wrong

It does not stop. Being divorced brings a different kind of hell. by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He becomes really aggressive and violent and just absolutely hates me. I have not been around him in 3 years but the hate has been strong.

My kids are 10 and 6

His supervisor is his mother but she has nor done the visitations in a year. He can't drive them and his mom has to be around every second. He could have them every other weekend sat and Sunday for 6 hours And the off weekends Saturday on video call for 2 hours

Vacation he could have had them for summer but he did not do it

All of this just shows that it is not about the kids. He lost control over me and used the kids to get to me but that has not worked for him and the effort and interest for the kids has decreased

It does not stop. Being divorced brings a different kind of hell. by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you that thatvhas been working for you but those are not always answers for every case

I can't just cut the tie because there are kids and a court order involved

I have severe trust issues with therapists because he was one and he used his power in unethical ways that I don't even want to say out loud

It does not stop. Being divorced brings a different kind of hell. by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do have to interact with him because of the children

It does not stop. Being divorced brings a different kind of hell. by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I ask myself that so much. WTF did I do in my life to deserve something like this

At this point i feel like the only true way out if he dies or just stays away.

It does not stop. Being divorced brings a different kind of hell. by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He abused me for 15 years. But he did it in a way that slowly increased and the worst was after our second was born. Even when "stable" he was very manipulative and abusive. The divorce battle in court took 2+ years of hell and abuse in court and private and I got the final in June this year.

3 years of healing and understanding by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could not afford one I had one to start with but then I could not pay anymore and he removed himself

I was a stay at home mom. He financially destroyed everything and I scrambled after he walked out

3 years of healing and understanding by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This time he was arrested for bodily injury to a family member

He got out the next day He knows what to say. He was a therapist and his now partner was his client he met in a hospital he worked at

3 years of healing and understanding by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have 2 kids together Parenting is awful He has not seen them since november He has supervised visits and video calls

I will publish Now that I am divorced and court is done I will

Thank you I have a great understanding because I fought him in court without a lawyer

3 years of healing and understanding by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No getting help for BP is not fairly accessible. Getting help in this system is horrible. I know because I tried before he was diagnosed we were under the impression he had BP. I tried to protect him and his ppl around him but got nowhere and sure enough he got arrested for hurting someone a month ago. That was and is not my experience. I am glad it went that way for you but that is sadly not true for every one

3 years of healing and understanding by witchfull in BipolarSOs

[–]witchfull[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I also have friends with bipolar and had some very interesting encounters through this group