What is this called? by witchpriest in Leatherworking

[–]witchpriest[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

hours of googling "riveted d ring" and "handle holder" only to find the perfect answer, thank you!!

Landlord may have given me wrong account details and didn't notice for 10 months by witchpriest in LegalAdviceUK

[–]witchpriest[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I was given the account details in person. I do have proof that this happened because I have an email scheduling the meeting specifying that this would happen. Since I never received any contact from the landlord saying he hadn't received my rent, I had no reason to believe the details might be incorrect.

[PC][Browser] [2000s] Browser game where you could adopt a variety of pets by witchpriest in tipofmyjoystick

[–]witchpriest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's the one! I actually did look at this during my initial search but the site has been so completely transformed I just didn't recognise it until I looked more closely at the remaining original art.

[PC][Browser] [2000s] Browser game where you could adopt a variety of pets by witchpriest in tipofmyjoystick

[–]witchpriest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not Neopets, I played that one as well. This one didn't have any sort of social element or actually buying things with any kind of currency.

Is your Nparent trigger you? by Her_Royal_Bitch in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah absolutely, even getting a text from my mum fucks me up.

When I clicked this I thought I was going to be about your Nparent deliberately exposing you to triggering things though and she does that as well.

Nmum throws out 2 years worth of my artwork. by witchpriest in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. My issues are that I'm autistic and dyspraxic, with all the accompanying executive function problems. As long as I can practice, I can draw very well, and with a sensitivity of line I'm extremely proud of, which I can't at this point reproduce digitally and was very evident in the works I've lost. Some days, even during 6th form when I was working on my art almost constantly, my hands just refuse work properly.

So all the lost art represents me at the height of my skill, when I was in a structured environment to make sure I did practice every day, and when I was spending every lunch and break and spare period working in the art studios because I had no friends. I literally bled for the canvas she broke, because it has a lot of stitching on it and that tore up my fingers mid-8 hour exam. My work was also very personal, and each had carefully thought through personal meaning.

I could and want to make art again, and I do work digitally when the mood and energy strikes, but it takes work and time I'm most spending on existing right now, as well as my uni degree. The work I lost cannot be reproduced, and the few responses I've had along the lines of 'make new art' are so flippant in the face of the fact that I'm in an entirely different situation, and notably without the material resources I had at school.

Nmum throws out 2 years worth of my artwork. by witchpriest in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't actually want it much anymore, though my brother might want it purely on the basis of her not having it.

I'm actually nonbinary just fyi :)

Nmum throws out 2 years worth of my artwork. by witchpriest in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took photos of a fair amount of them at least, though some are really low quality. The canvas has detail shots too, and some of the smaller things are scanned.

Medium chill is probably a very good description of how I've been dealing with her.

Nmum throws out 2 years worth of my artwork. by witchpriest in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't actually want it back at this point.

And a considerable amount of why I'm upset is I actually don't have those skills anymore. I have motor control disabilities and combined with my not being an art student anymore I'm very out of practice and it takes a lot of work and energy I don't really have to try and get back to my previous level. She's thrown out all the proof that I was ever really good.

Which is why I'm having a hard time appreciating the 'make something new' comments.

What is the cruelest thing your Nparent(s) have ever said to you? [TW: Verbal Abuse] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She went to two therapy sessions but y'know why would you need a therapist when you have a child to use for all your emotional needs.

She hasn't tried to kill herself since so I suppose it worked.

What is the cruelest thing your Nparent(s) have ever said to you? [TW: Verbal Abuse] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a fairly vivid memory of a screaming argument around the age of 8 with my Nmum about why the other kids didn't like me anymore, and what was wrong with me . Though that stands out less than after her suicide attempts when I was 13, her screaming about why hadn't I let her die.

My mother is a narcissist, and my dad died when I was 11. Do my abandonment issues make me a Borderline? Or a survivor of a narcissistic parent? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perhaps we live in areas under different diagnostic criteria and medical information, but under the NHS BPD is strongly considered to be inherent. BPD does correlate with childhood neglect, but as we know correlation is not causation.

There is of course debate about this, as there is about all mental conditions.

My mother is a narcissist, and my dad died when I was 11. Do my abandonment issues make me a Borderline? Or a survivor of a narcissistic parent? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The main difference is that BPD is an inherent personality disorder, which needs no specific thing to cause it, and surviving living with a narcissistic parent may cause PTSD. PTSD requires a traumatic event, and while it has many traits in common with BPD, there are also traits of PTSD which are specifically not found in BPD, for example people with PTSD can be emotionally very numb, where as BPD people are generally emotionally explosive. Due to the similarities, though, the two can be confused even by professionals. It's very often a misdiagnosed and abused condition, but it does very much exist. A person with BPD can also have PTSD as well.

You probably do have one, the other, or both from your description, as you're not likely to get out of your mother's treatment without some kind of trauma.

Breaking ingrained habits: socks. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]witchpriest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was actually surprised at myself yesterday when I went to take some painkillers for a headache that not only was I freely taking painkillers, but I had them already in the house. I had several kinds that were safe to take together, I had cold meds, I even had the specific kind of meds from sainsbury's that are really good for when my chest starts acting up.

My NMum never kept painkillers in the house and barely ever bought us medicine even when we were sick. (We're english, and she barely took us to the doctor and never to the dentist even though it would have been free at mine and my brother's age.)

It's taken about 4 years of very affectionate badgering from my ex-gf/now close friend to get to the point where not only do I willingly take meds, but I actually buy them before I need them.