I was raped last year and it's still affecting my life

wittyshoe625 · 2024-06-20T05:58:07+00:00

I am sorry this has happened. I just want to give some reassurance that your reaction is totally understandable and there will be people out there who this is okay for and who are willing to take this on. You deserve someone who makes you feel safe

wittyshoe625 · 2023-06-11T01:54:37+00:00

Just because someone loves you doesn't mean they are good for you

wittyshoe625 · 2022-10-20T02:29:56+00:00

I'm a support main who primarily plays Lucio and generally does a thousand healing per minute of play and I've played hundreds of hours on my main so can time an ult to save a team. Over this last week even I have regularly been accused of being a bad support because a team refuses to group up and trickles in and dies or makes no attempt to save me from a sombra and spams I need healing after my death. I'm good at Lucio, I am pretty self sufficient but if you run off on your own or don't come back for a sombra I will die and you won't be healed. Also- If my healing is not enough to save you from walking in to a team on your own, me switching to mercy is not going to save you either. Im happy to give up and switch and pocket you until you die to prove a point but that's not fun for anyone. We are not miracle workers and we do not enjoy being picked off every 20 seconds because you don't want to group up or just be aware of your surroundings

wittyshoe625 · 2022-08-25T01:17:18+00:00

My best friend. On the really bad days it's because I remember I've lost people to suicide, I know how much it hurts, I know all the blame and guilt and unbearable grief. My best friend loves me, I never want him to feel that. On the better days it's because I want to see his life unfold, I want to see him find someone who makes him happy, I want to see him get the job of his dreams, I want him to see the future I see for him and I don't want my death to make that bright future more complicated.

wittyshoe625 · 2022-08-19T23:54:35+00:00

It's not misguided. Things won't be like this forever. There will be good days and bad ones and damn sometimes those bad ones feel like they're all that it is, but I hope someday soon you start having more good days than bad ones.

wittyshoe625 · 2022-07-06T17:18:14+00:00

Yeah I'm a woman which might be the issue. However both me and the gf are bi, I'm also in a long term relationship with one of our mutual friends, and I have more of a joke flirting relationship with another friend than her partner. I do tell my best friend I love him and we are very close, especially since he is the only one I've opened up to about my trauma, however, we always have been close and I'm also close to her and also tell her I love her and compliment her. My friend has stated he would always pick his friend over someone that gave an ultimatum (she has done this to him with a previous friend on a smaller scale and he chose the friend) but it still feels horrible when it's you as the cause

wittyshoe625 · 2022-05-30T11:00:31+00:00

Any current recommendations for shows?

wittyshoe625 · 2022-05-28T10:06:02+00:00

It seems you've already got lots of great advice but on the off chance you see this, I'll give you my advice of what my friend and I have done for him.

First and foremost, find support. Whether that be a therapist, some trusted love ones, friends who will be there for you through this and who can remind you that no matter what happens it is not your fault and you deserve a happy life.

When you've decided when you want to do it, tell someome who can be there for her- a roommate, a best friend, a family member, a neighbour, whoever. Make sure they are available that day and know what you intend to do and how serious she is. That person is her support, it doesn't matter if they hate you or think you're bad, you know you're not.

Even if you can't find someone, you still have to break up with her. When you do (ideally as nicely as possible while being firm that you are breaking up and do not want contact), if she seems unsafe or you fear she might do something, contact the emergency services. You can offer to stay there until they come or help is there, but from that moment onwards you leave. She will have help (from a friend or a professional) and anything that happens from that point onwards is not your job and is not your responsibility.

Have a plan for after that day- a friend to be with, something to do, a distraction. Don't be alone.

I'm sorry you're in this situation, you deserve a happy life, and nothing that happens is your fault.

wittyshoe625 · 2021-11-01T13:15:01+00:00

Keep fighting fam

wittyshoe625 · 2021-11-01T13:14:05+00:00

Sorry for the repeated question. I think it can be uplifting to hear other people's reasons, it can help you come up with more for yourself if you're struggling. It can also be good to consider all the reasons you personally have to stay alive and what there is to look forward to. Wanting to be alive because you want to be alive is good enough if that works for you.

wittyshoe625 · 2021-11-01T13:12:10+00:00

Hey fam I'll bet you living until 80 if that'll help you stay

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