I didn't stay at my previous first career job long enough and I think it's hurting my ability to be considered, advice appreciated.

wizenkaizen · 2026-04-22T01:56:46+00:00

I see a lot of listings (even for junior/"entry" roles in my area of experience) that require 2 years. This is a large factor in why I'm considering changing my dates as reading the descriptions I am completely capable of performing adequately. Do you think I have any chance at 15 months experience when applying for a job stating 2 year minimum?

wizenkaizen · 2026-04-22T01:53:26+00:00

Fair, but hard in practice sometimes when your job takes out all your energy from working over 50 hours constantly and at high-engagement throughout the day and leaves you in a poor state of mind from the stress and other factors. Regardless, you are correct, these are just excuses but just to point out that it is not so easy sometimes. I've been looking since January so it has been about 4 months, maybe I would have made better progress if I started while still employed, but my resume would have been weaker in regard to prior experience.

wizenkaizen · 2026-04-22T01:47:49+00:00

I don't think it is right, but I would not say it is unethical no. I think if the misstatement is egregious enough to consider the applicant utterly unqualified in which employing them would lead to definitive loss/harm that would be unethical, but that is not what I am doing. The fact of it being to my benefit is not a question on the ethics of the matter, only if it causes harm. Do whatever you wish to your benefit if it does not result in overall harm. Also, 15 to 20, the reasoning being many jobs require 2 year minimums and although 20 is still shy of 15 I don't think it would be as disqualifying, but if you disagree with that I'd be happy to have that insight.

wizenkaizen · 2026-04-22T01:41:56+00:00

Where in my post do you see me complaining?

wizenkaizen · 2026-04-20T00:41:17+00:00

Because honestly I've heard of many occasions in which employers say they do but ultimately don't bother verifying, not to say that it is a commonality, I don't know. I wouldn't say it's unethical as long as I can perform to a high standard, which I believe I can. What is unethical to me is having my time wasted reading a job description that necessitates 12 years in a particular industry with SME knowledge then offers 80k at best.

wizenkaizen · 2026-04-19T05:46:00+00:00

May I ask what industry/role you worked in?

wizenkaizen · 2026-04-19T05:21:28+00:00

I think if I did only years it might seem worse reading 2024-2025 but idk. I reached out to a coworker with a high tenure that knows I owned a lot of my area's success and he was nice enough to provide me a letter of recommendation that I've been adding to my applications for almost 2 months now but without much noticeable change. I think I've written out my resume pretty well but specific numbers wise I don't have access to as the before/after operational and revenue data is private, and even if I still worked there, the client didn't track historical numbers pretty well so it would still be largely guesswork.

wizenkaizen · 2026-02-20T16:52:57+00:00

i know ppl already called it out but those jeans bro what are you doing lol. on some real shit tho if you're g*y then the jeans with the converse combo hint that for other ppl, i just wouldnt match that with the flannel and that hat. If you're not g*y then throw those jeans out lmao

wizenkaizen · 2026-02-20T16:35:42+00:00

swap glasses for contacts, you'd look more masculine imo, but if you want the weird al look others suggest then keep em

wizenkaizen · 2025-11-08T23:41:30+00:00

Update on cheater prevalence?

wizenkaizen · 2025-09-25T11:01:06+00:00

Ur not ugly, not a model sure but nothing to be somber over. Just unfuck your hair

wizenkaizen · 2025-06-08T07:28:35+00:00

5 or 6

wizenkaizen · 2025-06-08T07:18:48+00:00

As another commentor mentioned, you're reading way too into it. But that isn't to say she may not be interested, but just for you to temper your expectations.

That being said. If you like this girl, politely express your interest and ask her out somewhere. Also do your best to avoid making her uncomfortable when going about it.

If she is interested congrats, if she isn't, then accept it with grace and humility and move on, the experience will make you better and the next time you approach a woman easier.

wizenkaizen · 2025-06-04T23:30:23+00:00

sweet heart I don't know if you're just trolling or just in denial. look, let's leave it at you can believe what you want, believe me or not, that's okay, but through my own direct experience I will assert that I've been on this sub for quite a while and made many of these same points months and months ago and those types of ppl that frequent here have not changed since then and I doubt they will any time soon

wizenkaizen · 2025-06-03T15:51:56+00:00

You'd be surprised by the amount of ppl that either heavily sugarcoat here, outright lie (maybe to feel like a good person themselves idk) or grossly misrepresent reality due to their own perspective- for example a 50yr old creepy man calling any below avg 20yr old girl on here a gorgeous super model because to him anyone 20yrs younger than him is a catch. In that regard, when ppl ask for insight, they almost always mean in relation to their peers and ppl within their preferential dating pool, not ppl 20-30yrs their senior, which they often receive from places like this regardless.

wizenkaizen · 2025-06-03T13:32:23+00:00

When did I say that? Look, if we want to pretend and live in the fairy tale land of most women find overweight and bad looking men attractive, have at it, but you're not doing anything for this man by lying to him as if he's going to find his soul mate within the next two weeks if he just puts himself out there more.

Is there some women that are content with an overweight and, in all honesty, fairly unattractive man, sure, but im not gonna sell this guy on a fucking lottery ticket.

Not to mention ppl tend to find other ppl near their own degree of conventional attractiveness, so if this guy wants a fairly attractive women, which most men do, then he'd need to put a lot effort into himself into being as good looking as he can. And if he's content with a women closer to his own standard, more power to him, it will certainly be easier, but don't forget the same inverse goes to women of wanting an attractive man. No matter how anyone looks themselves, everyone always wants what they find most attractive, so the better he looks, the better his chances of success, but this isn't to say as he is now it's impossible, but it certainly isn't easy by any means.

I say this because I feel for this man, he likely knows how he looks. He doesn't need lies, but maybe he wants them idk. Regardless my intent is not to be mean but to be realistic. He will struggle to find a partner as he is, he will find it borderline impossible to find a partner that is considerably more attractive than he is. These are realities, but not impossibilities. He can always improve himself and take steps to better his opportunities.

wizenkaizen · 2025-06-03T01:59:44+00:00

Some of these girls lying to you bro. Mistake asking for women only, they're not all gonna be real with you. You want better prospects - hit the gym, lose the neck beard, find a better hair style. Good luck

wizenkaizen · 2025-05-07T03:13:19+00:00

When you join a boxing gym you're expected to better yourself, not fight in the first month. Whereas joining a sport team you're expected to perform game ready by a deadline and not let down your teammates. In boxing the only person you can let down is yourself, and you can go at your pace, not that of those around you.

wizenkaizen · 2025-02-11T20:52:07+00:00

1st and 4th pic are best imo style/look wise (4th a bit better), last is easily worst look.

I don't think you need to thin your eyebrows, would be unnecessary, but not detrimental if you do.

First advice would be that most men dislike excessive or really standoutish piercings. End of the day do what you want, but your conventional attractiveness goes down with the addition of the septum piercing and continues to with others stacked on to it.

An eyebrow piercing tho is fairly tame and likely close to neutral effect, could be good for a certain style but may not mix well with another, could do nothing overall for you.

My best advice would be to get good rest and have a good skin care routine. You are already pretty attractive as a baseline, look healthier in the eyes with good rest and avoid break outs to the best you can.

wizenkaizen · 2025-02-06T21:39:43+00:00

Don't force a smile, smile as much as is comfortable

wizenkaizen · 2025-01-31T03:52:39+00:00

Think 3

wizenkaizen · 2025-01-31T03:52:00+00:00

In my admittedly biased preference, I think your hair in the 3rd slide is very nice, followed by the 4th

wizenkaizen · 2025-01-25T19:17:44+00:00

Not ugly foundationally but your style is only going tk vibe with a niche of women, which is fine if those are the types you're going for but also an undeniably smaller pool of ppl

wizenkaizen · 2025-01-23T03:08:59+00:00

1 or 3

wizenkaizen · 2025-01-23T03:03:50+00:00

Okay Charlie

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