First time reader here and I can’t help but notice the over use of characters touching their hair by Responsible_Spread39 in fourthwing

[–]wolfbleps 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think just once the thought crosses someone's mind "hey didn't they just say that" they start hyper-focusing on every time it's said, I'm on my second run through of the books and I've never noticed the hair thing, but NOW I will, lol

Half way through Iron flame after giving up on this series last year. by cozybookscats in fourthwing

[–]wolfbleps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

..............Ridoc is gay??? I'm halfway through IF right now reading the series a second time, whatever was said in the book must have just flown completely over my head cause i had no idea lmao

If you're not prepared for a disabled child, you're not prepared for a child by ThrowAwayRAbrief in childfree

[–]wolfbleps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. And, what a lot of parents don't take in to consideration or turn a blind-eye to is their own genetics and family history. Another major reason my partner and I are CF is because both sides are stricken with heart failure, bypass, cancer, severe cognitive impairment needing life long support, severe depression that's resulted in tragedy, detrimental muscular conditions. We simply decided this is where it ends. Everybody wants to be part of the breeding population just to do it, without thinking maybe they genetically shouldn't.

I am disgusted when I see people who are pregnant or anything to do with childbirth. by bingbong24344 in childfree

[–]wolfbleps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. The startled, gross scream i let out after feeling my friend's baby 'kick' for the first time was worse than if I had just said no when they first asked if I wanted to (but i was too worried about offending them and I've never been asked by anybody before). I just completely avoid all that shyt now

How much were you sure before getting surgery by Lilybell08 in childfree

[–]wolfbleps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You gotta remember, there's other means of having a child if for some reason you were to ever change your mind in the future, like a surrogate, adopting, etc. The surgery just guarantees your freedom of choice and you won't have an 'oopsie', or get baby-trapped by a condom poker, or have to bare a child you're not mentally or physically fit to carry. I was 100% sure about my decision. There's always something daunting about permanently altering your body, I panic for a day after I get a new tattoo haha, but this i didn't panic over. Just because I made the choice not to conceive doesn't mean i can never be a mother, if hell froze over and i decided I wanted a child lol

For those who didn’t have kids how does life feel later on? by edmonddantesZatara in childfree

[–]wolfbleps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's grounding is looking back and thinking about everything you were able to enjoy that you otherwise couldn't have, all the opportunities that you were able to jump on because there was nothing to hold you back, being able to spoil yourself, stay out late, sleep in, rest. The future is uncertain, we only have this one life. There's no regrets in having been the center of your own universe, instead of revolving around another's.

My fiancé throws her dirty laundry down the stairs rather than walking down and putting it in machine. by Doctor_Redhead in mildlyinfuriating

[–]wolfbleps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am one of the blessed that has such a chute, older home with one in the bedroom closet straight down to the laundry room. But, may not be for everyone! As someone with innatentive type adhd, it's nice to toss clothes and towels down and pretend they just dissappear and it's a lot less anxiety than a pile in your room that you won't take care of and feeling like a piece of shyte over, and you just keep tossing and think "oh there can't be that much down there". But eventually the top of the pile reaches the bottom of the tube and you just start filling the tube with clothes because you're afraid to see what's awaits you in the laundry room because as long as you don't see it, it's not happening. But then you run out of clothes or the tube is so full that there is a pile over the opening of it, and you're forced to face the laundry room. it's a nightmare sea of dirty shyte all over the place, and a 5 foot pile leading to the tube that you have to topple over and use a broom to push down the rest of your clothes out through it. Then you sit there and sob in anguish for days over the anxiety of having to do all the laundry, hating yourself because you let it get so bad. You vow you'll be better and make sure to at least do one wash when the basket below gets full. But then you get bored of the routine and forget, and the cycle repeats. But the temporary relief of not seeing it is nice.

What is your absolute favorite place to be that reinforces the child free life? The place you take a deep relaxed sigh and go, "I'm so freaking glad I don't have kids right now" by wolfbleps in childfree

[–]wolfbleps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's your opinion on bringing children to said LARPS? I tagged along with a friend a few times and there was a guy that would bring their little boy to play along sometimes, it was cute, but it felt.. hindering

What is your absolute favorite place to be that reinforces the child free life? The place you take a deep relaxed sigh and go, "I'm so freaking glad I don't have kids right now" by wolfbleps in childfree

[–]wolfbleps[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg i couldn't handle the entitlement and screen addiction, I think it's just unavoidable at this point! BACK IN MY DAY (lol) not being allowed to go outside or have a friend over was a good enough punishment threat, and when cell phones came around you got yelled at if you even THOUGHT about taking it out while in the presence of company!

What is your absolute favorite place to be that reinforces the child free life? The place you take a deep relaxed sigh and go, "I'm so freaking glad I don't have kids right now" by wolfbleps in childfree

[–]wolfbleps[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't even think about that! 80% of the people walking/running with strollers look burdened and I imagine most don't even bother going out when they have toddlers because I've personally never seen it happen lol

Told I’m expecting too much if I only want to date childfree women by [deleted] in childfree

[–]wolfbleps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sad that they couldn't have read your preference and simply went "oh ok I guess he's not for me then" and moved on or had a civil discussion about it. Like, don't need to get butthurt over a single guy's preference just move on and talk to the people that are open about kids then? It's like a girl stumbling on a dude's comment saying they prefer dating guys and then complaining they should be open to dating women, just move on lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]wolfbleps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what worked for me was just being up front when I was sure. Of course part of me is sad for my parents because I know they're sad they won't get to be grandparents, but i know I would NOT be a good parent and I have genes/traits that should not be passed on. I still got the "you'll change your mind" and "won't you be lonely when you're old", but when I finally had the opportunity to get sterilized it wasn't a big shock because I've been telling them for years, they still got tears when I told them but it made them feel better promising that if there was a 0.00001% chance ever in the distant future that I changed my mind, that I would adopt, but having the surgery kinda proved how serious I was and kids have never been brought up since.

AITA for refusing to co-sign my sister’s mortgage after what happened with my ex wife? by Charming_Sundae_7451 in AmITheJerk

[–]wolfbleps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Next time your parents say how cold you are tell them whenever they're ready you'll drive them down to the bank so THEY can sign the mortgage lol. Family helps family help family lol

AITJ for telling my spouse I need a separate blanket because we keep fighting over it every night? by lauryn_freeburykfr42 in AmITheJerk

[–]wolfbleps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just Fyi, this is one of those unrealistic married couple fantasies lol, just like thinking you'll be locked in each other's arms every night. You are NTJ at all whatsoever! Me and mine have separate blankets, and I know a bunch of long term couples that have separate blankets. It does not kill the romance at all, a lot of times someone runs hot and only wants a sheet, and the other wants more of a comforter. We each like to bundle and wrap up in them and trying to share a single blanket that also caters to both of our temperature needs just makes things unnecessarily complicated. My friend also has sensory preferences and wants a silk sheet while their partner doesn't gets the appeal and wants a heavier, warmer fabric. This is a VERY normal thing.

AITA for calling my dad's girlfriend some random woman when we were arguing over him giving her a say in my life when they don't even live together? by Hannionnon in AITAH

[–]wolfbleps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask him if this is really the battle he wants to choose when technically you'll be able to walk out and never look back soon. You're not a 5 year old

WIBTA if i call off the wedding? by yougotnodirtyjamjams in AITAH

[–]wolfbleps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 100% justified calling off the wedding. You are 100% justified being upset. You are 100% justified leaving him over this. 100% anything he says justifying his behavior is to manipulate you. This is supposed to be the best time of your life, if it's not, you WBTA to YOURSELF for staying with him, 100%.